Right now these resources are generally aimed at parents/caregivers of younger children, as my child is a toddler so that's the stuff I usually look for. As I find good resources for tweens/teens I will add them.
My Parenting Bible (aka my Must-Read List):
The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, PhD: Understanding how a child's brain works makes a huge difference in your ability to empathize and problem-solve with them. Full of layman-speak neuroscience and some useful tools, this book helped me understand not only my child's brain but adult brains, too.
How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber and Julie King: A true game-changer. Targeted at ages 2-7, this book is brimming with strategies for limiting behavior and encouraging cooperation and problem-solving in safe and respectful ways. I got this book when my daughter was 15 months old and though she was too young for many of the approaches, such as those thay require two-way conversation or creative ability beyond randomly stabbing paper with a ColorWonder marker, there were a number of changes to my speech that I was able to make right away and it immediately made both our lives easier and less stressful. 10/10. (How to Talk When Kids Won't Listen is much the same, but more recent and includes examples involving kids up to teenagers.)
Beginnings by Sarah Ockwell-Smith: A comprehensive guide to all manner of physical, mental and emotional development from conception to age 5. Age-appropriate expectations are key to peace and problem-solving.
Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE: The first section of this book is all about learning some emotional regulations and re-parenting yourself. Lots of resources stress the importance of being the calm in a child's storm and modelling good regulation skills; this is the rare book that will actually teach you how.
Calm-Down Time by Elizabeth Verdick is actually a board book and aimed at little kids, but it's also got some good caregiver tips for dealing with tantrums in the back.
What Kindergarten Teachers Know by Lisa Holeway and Joan Rice: a short but valuable book packed full of child development information, approaches for earning cooperation at all times of day, and activities to help kids aged 3-6, whether at home or in a classroom setting, alone or in a group. Though it's targeted at preschool through first grade, the underlying principles can be adjusted to help kids of other ages as well.
Dusty the ADHD Coach on YouTube has a few really amazing videos on parenting with ADHD!
MrChazz MrChazz on Facebook and TikTok has lots of videos on gentle parenting, including many explaining why punishments don't work and how co-regulation helps.
Big Little Feelings on Facebook and Instagram is a page full of info and gentle approaches to various situations that arise throughout toddlerhood. There is also a website with a blog and paid courses.
Kids Eat in Color on Facebook and Instagram is a nutritionist that teaches how to instill a healthy relationship with food in little kids. There is also a website.
