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Sometimes I feel like being an exvangelical queer gives me something of a leg up when it comes to self soothing in the face of doom.
Gee whiz, the world is ending? [takes a deep drag off my cigarette] never heard that one before. How about you sit down and have a whiskey? You seem stressed
my circus, my monkeys, my discreet frankensteining of real-world academic taxonomies for the magic systems of D&D wizards in fic
ribbit get it fucking together
@vhs-system
I am frankly surprised at how uneducated it seems much of tumblr is regarding nonmonogamy. From what I’ve seen, most folks are either prejudiced against it or believe that it strictly means that everyone involved is dating each other. Did yall know that there are many different styles of ethical nonmonogamy, and polyamory is just one of them? Moreover, did you know that not all polyamorous folks are in closed relationships? Not all poly folks are even close friends with their metamours! Relationship anarchy is also a thing, and given tumblr’s tendency towards the off-beat I’m surprised it’s not more spoken about on this site lol.
A huge part of deconstructing mononormativity for me was realizing that there’s no one specific way that a relationship or set of interconnected relationships has to look. I won’t pretend that ENM is for everyone because it’s not! But there are so many different flavors and it’s silly/sad to see people trying to force themselves into boxes when the entire point of ENM, in my opinion, is to break all the fucking boxes.
Well, I had this typed out and then OP “got bored” and deleted their post, so here’s a thing.
Intersectionality is a framework of understanding and discussing how different forms of oppression play out when they intersect. It’s important to acknowledge how various aspects of someone’s identity can simultaneously influence how they are treated and the discrimination they experience.
Intersectionality is NOT mathematics. It is not some equation that goes like, “I’m a gay person of color: 1 Homophobia + 1 Racism = 2 Oppression Points”. It also doesn’t go like, “I’m a transgender man: 1 Transphobia - 1 Misogyny = 0 Oppression Points”.
Not only are those mathematics flawed since most if not all trans men experience/d misogyny, they’re flawed because that’s not how oppression works. There are no points. There is no equation. And IMO, entering any shared queer space and announcing that “They/I/We have it worse than you!” Is a shitty fucking way to build a community.
(Also, if you’re going to make a discourse post and add a bunch of tags so it gets seen, don’t just delete it when people start disagreeing with you. On Facebook they call that “dirty deleting” and it’s generally frowned upon, because all the labor that just went into responding to your post is now wiped from the internet.)
me when I'm on page 44 of the poly tag and I find one (1) post that isn't porn, from a bot, or fanfiction related
As an ADHDer who is has been flip flopping for years on whether I think I’m also autistic (currently no): It’s kind of wild how by normalizing being autistic (a good thing) we have inadvertantly pathologized* a lot of potentially neurotypical feelings and behaviors.
Like, having a preference for something that doesn’t really matter doesn’t make someone autistic. Having a STRONG preference doesn’t even make someone autistic. Simply being particular about things isn’t “a pattern of rigidity”. People are allowed to… checks notes… want things.
The larger point I want to make is that wanting things isn’t bad. Having strong preferences about “unimportant” things isn’t wrong and we don’t need to label people as autistic in order to excuse them of their “crimes” of wanting things.
*Btw when I refer to neurotypical traits being “pathologized” I don’t mean this to say that I believe autism is a disease; I’m referring to the way that we treat normal personality traits that anyone can have like they’re symptoms that must be explained by a label and/or treated. Maybe a better word is “clinicalized”. IDK.
[through gritted teeth] I want to purchase new art from my local artists but I have no MONEY!!!!!!
