#right vs wrong

[vanalex]

“Nature is about balance. All the world comes in pairs - yin and yang, right and wrong, day and night. What’s pleasure without pain?” 🖤🌸🐦‍⬛💖

[piscesofblue]

What is right?

[1introvertedsage]

Right is right even if no one is doing it; wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it. ~St. Augustine~

[butyoutoldmeiwasfunny]

[your-heart-is-a-treasure]

"Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness."

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

[todd--chavez]

[somethingusefulfromflorida]

It’s an open secret that while everybody says they want to live in a democracy, most people don’t.  When you get down to it, what they really want is to live in a place where their party has total control; they like the idea of democracy, but they want their voice and their opinions to be the only ones that matter.  It stems from the very nature of subjective morality; what I mean is everybody thinks that they are in the right, that allowing an opponent to have power would be a moral failing, something they could never forgive themselves for allowing.  Now, it’s one thing to be steadfast in your beliefs, everyone has that right, but while a lot of issues do indeed have some gray area, many of them are clearly black and white.  A lot of issues have definitive right and wrong positions, and the reason our political system is so fucked up is because half the country has taken the objectively wrong side on those pertinent issues.  They refuse to concede that they could ever be wrong on any subject, so they double down on EVERY subject.  When one side says they want to hurt people who are different than they are, that’s bad.  That’s wrong.  There’s no room for debate on this, it doesn’t matter that they think they’re morally right, they’re clearly not.  They never stop to think about the implications of their beliefs, they just parrot everything they’ve been taught because they do not personally suffer from it.

It’s not that people want to live in an authoritarian state, they just want to live in a society that has the same moral compass as they do.  They don’t want to live in a world where the thing they don’t want to happen could ever happen.  They want everyone around them to be smart enough to “do the right thing,” even if what they think is right is actually wrong.  If their leaders have to suppress votes and interfere with elections to prevent the “bad guys” from winning, then that’s totally fine by them; that’s the only moral option in their eyes.  They want to cheat to win.

[just-a-glittery-fan]

People are discussing a lot about how acceptable apologizes should really be like, which is GREAT. But may I add: giving an explanation and giving an excuse is NOT the same thing. If someone is apologizing to me, I wanna know what their mindset used to be and what their mindset is now so that I can see change.

That being said, let's go to examples:

"I wasn't in a good place when I did that, but that's no excuse for how I treated you and I apologize for it" is okay. "I get it, you're mad and all that but you know I only did that because I wasn't in a good place" is not.

"I was going through a lot at that time, that's why I said what I said. But none of that was your fault, so I'm really sorry I took it out on you" is okay. "C'mon you know what I was going through. I'm sorry but I had no time to think about your feelings back then" is not.

"What I said was supposed to be just a joke, but I realize now that it wasn't funny, I realize it hurt you. That was never my intention and I'm sorry I made you feel like that" is okay. "If you want me apologize I will, but really, it was just a joke, there's no reason for you to be so mad" is not.