ok fuck it here's my contribution to the fucking "transandrophobia discourse" and no its not going to be eloquent or academic because quite frankly im fucking tired and i do not care; can we please stop infighting and get our shit together? i'm transmasc. or a trans guy. or nonbinary, genderqueer, whatever. i dont really care about labels. the point is that i'm masc, ive been on T for almost 2 years, and im not in an supportive environment (i never have been). I do not pass. I do not get gendered correctly. I am very vocal about being transgender, and that my pronouns are he/him or sometimes he/they. People do not mistake me for a trans woman or transfem because I make it known that I am not. people treat me like shit anyway for various transphobic reasons. I do not really give a flying fuck about what we call this. misdirected misogyny, transmisogyny, transandrophobia, androphobia, anti-transmasculinity, whatever. on one hand, its important to name these things. on the other, what we call it doesn't impact the transphobia i receive and deal with while being transmasc treating me like i have the same privilege as a regular cis man is just disrespectful! treating an entire group of people like they are the same and have the same privileges is disrespectful and also just Wrong. and the same goes for trans women, intersex people, and nonbinary people. people are going to be at different stages of transition, or choose not to transition, and have different overlapping identities that intersect. trying to play "who has it worse" jenga over systematic issues that affect all of us negatively is stupid and probably a psyop. im sick of being online w this shit and seeing ppl i consider friends fall for this crap & then i going outside and being like wow i love my local pride community that's been built through blood sweat and tears and i love my local pride council with so many flavours of queer and transgender ppl on it and i love growing into somebody the local queer youth feel comfortable talking to and helping them on their journeys. thats what it should be about and instead we are infighting for the dumbest reasons for the billionth time. the discrimination ALL trans people face is real. trans women and trans men and nonbinary people and anyone that gets 'flagged' as potentially trans. yes, there is important discussion to be had about the unique ways our individual and group identities face discrimination on small and also societal levels. and yes, it's also stupid to play 'who has it worse' jenga. we all have it worse; we live under patriarchy that prioritises white CIS abled allo hetero men. treating any trans person, of any identity, as if their identity gets inherently cis privilege, is stupid, an oversimplification, and ignorant. this rant is sponsored by the 3rd person ive seen that i know falling for this bullshit and making me go "is this what you think of me for the fact i am transmasc?". im going to go back to making educational resources for our library now. i love you & goodbye
