#ross greene

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Of course we gave Ross his own photo shoot 🐾

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Spent a lot of time in the 'behavioral health' system as a kid in which everyone told me constantly that I had poor self talk. And they were right, but, geez! Does anyone wanna make an anxiety diagnosis while you're at it???? Or should I just add that to the list of things I'm bad at?

Anyway, that's a big frustration I have with some of the conversations that come up in "social emotional learning" and "teaching growth mindset" spaces. Excellent, crucial goals. Often questionable means. You can't just...tell someone to have a growth mindset. (Nor can you PUNISH them into it!!) There has to be a lot of individualized emotional and logistical support and a genuine relationship/rapport. Kids don't need more expectations they're struggling to meet. They need adults to meet them where they are and partner with them in reaching the next step. And it can be hard to do, as an adult. Extremely hard. I imagine all of us sometimes fall short of meeting that need. But those of us who believe in the importance of self-regulation and growth mindset and have chosen to be in kid-facing roles need to at least be holding ourselves to that standard, even if we can't rise to it 100% of the time.

(If you've vibed with this so far and want resources, check out Ross Greene, Mona Delahooke, and/or Alfie Kohn. Especially Ross Greene if you're looking for specific recommendations. The B Team on Facebook is also a great resource for implementing Ross Greene's Collaborative and Proactive Solutions Framework.)

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Many caregivers think an adult-imposed consequence should ALWAYS follow a challenging behavior. Not so...

“Children exhibit challenging behavior when the demands being placed upon them outstrip the skills they have to respond adaptively to those demands. The same can be said of all human beings.” -Dr. Ross Greene

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Kids Do Well If They Can

Kids Do Well If They Can

To resolve problem behavior in children, it helps to first attempt to figure out why the behavior is happening. One key question to ask yourself: is are they capable of behaving better? Dr. Ross Greene argues that “if your child could do well, he would do well…if your child had the skills to exhibit adaptive behavior, he or she wouldn’t be exhibiting challenging behavior.”

Let’s contrast this…

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Read in September

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Calderini, Simonetta. “Contextualizing Arguments about Female Ritual Leadership (Women Imāms) in Classical Islamic Sources,” July 10, 2011.

———. “Islam and Diversity: Alternative Voices within Contemporary Islam.” New Blackfriars 89, no. 1021 (May 1, 2008): 324–36.   

Lave, Jean, and Etienne Wenger. Situated Learning: Legitimate Peripheral Participation. Cambridge university press, 1991.  

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Everything you think you know about disciplining kids is wrong

Negative consequences, timeouts, and punishment just make bad behavior worse. But a new approach really works.

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Handle With Care: Contents Fragile

Parents like to think we have a fully stocked toolbox. What happens when we don't? Get a new tool. Handle With Care: Contents Fragile

Fragile does not always mean weak. It means precious too and worth handling gently.

This post began as a book recommendation, but there’s a story before you get there. I want to set up the scene because it’s crucial to have a feeling for the watershed moment that preceded me searching and finding this particular book. The realization that I needed a new playbook was almost as important as the…

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