#rules addendum

[diabolicore]

rules addendum 4/13 (all rp blog)

light reblog karma

tentative rule for now. trying it on because of the way my memes distribute over the weekend when the most people will see them. if it doesn't work, then the distribution will just change. not like i expect people rearrange everything for me.

everybody's been there so i won't over-explain why it's discouraging to feel like a meme source, it just is.

so just a few things:

please rb it from the source, of course. (lack of rp etiquette has been returning less often with my actual mutuals, thankfully. but for some reason non-mutuals seem to think it's ok to break that etiquette)

please consider sending a meme in to me if i'm where you found it? I understand not all memes suit the situation or muse voice, that's fine. I don't expect it every time. Not like it even has to be the same meme you used. I won't be strict about this. not even sure how someone would, tbh. most of our memes aren't even ours. How I'd implement: If it's clear someone is more just using my blog as a resource without interaction, I'll probably have to break contact/drop them as a partner, which isn't a big chance, tbh. just stating it formally here.]

i do have a meme resource blog ( @cabinetofmemes ) if you'd prefer to just rb from there. I wouldn't expect rb karma from my resource blog.

Again, I get it. Can't always expect karma all the time and people have other rp's and stuff to do. But i have to try to change something.

likewise I will hold myself to the same standard for others. if i've found a meme from you I will try to send something in to your blog, even if it's not that exact meme. nobody's perfect, it's more the effort that counts to me.

edit: 4/19

[tachiisms]

I just want to make a quick note about master/padawan ships, because with the resurgence of the swrpc, there are a few ships that increase in popularity. Firstly I just want to say that this is not a judgment on anyone for shipping whatever they want, and I’ve tried really hard to make sure that I’m posting this on the dash at a time when I haven’t seen anything immediately prior so that no one thinks this is aimed at them. This is not aimed at anyone! This is just a general note that applies across the board for my comfort. 

Master/Padawan (and Master/Former-Padawan) ships make me extremely uncomfortable, and not only will I not write them, I will not engage with them in any way. This is because of the familial bond between a Jedi Master and their Padawan, and the parental nature that is included in being a Padawan’s Master (which is why even after a Padawan has been Knighted, I still am uncomfortable with them being shipped with their former Master). As well as this being something that I’m not comfortable with ooc, it’s something that Siri icly would not be okay with, again because of the type of relationship that Jedi Masters have with their Padawans. It’s familial, there’s a huge power imbalance, and it’s a bond that’s sacred to her. I’ve in the past gotten a couple anons asking about Siri’s opinion on it, and while I could link you to those posts, the takeaway is that if Siri was aware of any romantic ship like that, she would want that Jedi Master expelled from the Order. 

The main thing here is that I ask that you please not imply or be assuming any such relationship while writing threads with me, and know that I will drop threads if a romantic Master/Padawan ship becomes implied. 

While I will happily engage with threads where your muse is assumed to be in a relationship with someone else (common examples include, if I’m writing with Ferus and it’s assumed that Ferus and Roan are married; if I’m writing with Obi-Wan and it’s assumed that Obi-Wan and Satine are together; if I’m writing with Padmé and it’s assumed that Padmé and Anakin are together... you get it, yeah?) I will not engage in threads where a Master/Padawan ship is assumed. Again, this is not at anyone specifically, but the examples that comes up on my dash most often are obi/kin, qui/obi, ani/soka or obi/ani/dala. If you’re multiship and a Master/Padawan ship is just one of your ships and you’re perfectly fine with not having it be in the verses that anything you write with me, then you do you, this isn’t a judgment. (If you could tag it so it can be caught by my blacklist that would be ideal, but as this is a comfort preference and not a trigger, I won’t require that it’s tagged; if you’re willing to tag it for me but don’t want to use a general tag so no personals find it, please feel free to let me know what your tag will be and I’ll add that to my blacklist.) But if a Master/Padawan ship is a main ship for you where you’ll feel limited or untrue to your portrayal by not having it carry over into things you write with me, then you may want to unfollow and softblock me, and that’s fine too, no hard feelings. 

I’m really sorry if this makes anyone feel uncomfortable, I’ve just been seeing a lot more of this on my dash than I’m comfortable with, and I don’t want to get into a situation where I’m dropping threads because of implied romantic Master/Padawan ship, and then thread partners are confused or unhappy or feeling ignored because of it, and feeling like I never expressed this, since it has been over a year since this I’ve mentioned this on my blog. 

Thank you for understanding!

[diabolicore]

addendum to my boundaries

boundary. No, you are not allowed to interrogate me about other RP Partners. (I won't gossip). I do not navigate 'friend groups'. So please don't ask that of me.

updated 5/2/26

no gossip. if you have PROOF someone is a danger to me, then feel free to bring it to me. But 99.9% that's not going to be a thing. Do not bring me callout posts, do not tell me who should be 'canceled', and for ffs do not refer to or link me to any of those nuclear wasteland receipt or callout blogs. They are rubbish and they keep the cycle of outrage culture going on this site.

no triangulating. (don't tell me unblock your friend, or interrogate me about my doing so) i curate my space as i need to. i know my own mental health and boundaries. do not interrogate that. it will end in a block if it persists because it shows you have no respect for my judgment and care more about your 'group dynamic' / control than my choice.

it is okay to tell me in private that you don't associate with so-and-so or you blacklist so-and-so's url. Transparency and honesty is appreciated with me. But I'm not going to be guilt-tripped about writing with so-and-so or who-and-who. And I am not going to choose sides.

on the internet, 'friend groups' works differently than IRL.

I am never saying anyone's experiences are invalid or do not deserve to be heard. What I am saying is that it makes no sense for me to be in the middle of it. [In general, how about don't assume a block 'means' anything.]

Conclusion; 1) this is a don't ask, don't tell policy. 2) Transparency about who you blacklist and don't associate with is fine. But I always tag the url of my partners by default. So this shouldn't have to be an issue. 3) If you think I'm in danger and have proof, it's fine to show me that, I appreciate it but please don't guilt trip me or try to make me choose 'sides'. I'm not capable of that when it doesn't involve me. 4) do not tell me who i should/n't rp with. Remember you are free to unfollow at any time if you dislike my rp choices. I have my reasons for curating how I do. And frankly if it doesn't involve you, it's not your business?

Not everyone is going to mesh in the community and that is normal. This is a hobby. I'm not snubbing/insulting anyone.

You can never predict when/why someone will explode and become confrontational and Attack you on this site. I'm not going to deal with that. So, no, actually. I don't owe an explanation to every single person for every little decision I make on this site when I curate my space. Especially when the same is definitely not afforded to me.

If these boundaries are crossed, I'll have to end/ignore conversation. Same way I do with people who spam or pressure for replies too often. Sorry that is how it has to be. If it persists, I have to drop the person as a partner because they clearly ignore boundaries.

linking this to my rules. obvs saying nice things about other Mods is not the same as gossip. But some people are slick enough to use backhand compliments. You know when you're doing it, so just don't. I hear it. I was raised on it.

obviously all of this is subjective and depends on severity. if someone has done something egregious (that can be proven), then i mean, that's obviously different than the usual personality clashes that are to be expected in any rpc.

this said, I will see how you treat others. And that does reflect on your personhood.

[diabolicore]

addendum 4/20/26

Please if there is an issue OOC, DM me personally. One on one, in private. We will discuss it civilly.

My Anon is not open for discussing issues this way. I do not know who it is on the other side of an anon and will simply count it as an anon hate, troll, or impersonator. Too much chaos happens when you trust anon. I don't even read ooc anons. On some blogs it won't even be available.

If this feature is abused, you will simply be blocked.

Due to past experiences with this I can't take anything on anon seriously. On DM I will hear what you have to say in a completely different light.

[heavyweighthappy]

Happy and May

I’ve been meaning to talk out my head canon for a while now but never got around to just putting this up.

First and foremost if you are portraying May and this head canon of mine does not jive with your portrayal, please let me know and I will adjust accordingly. I have no intention of pushing a sexual relationship, past or present, implied or written out, on ANYONE. This is my personal head canon based on my interpretation and experience. Yours may differ. You do not owe me any explanation as to why you might feel otherwise, if that’s the case. If we plot/have a thread and you have not made your head canon for May clear, I will ask. 

I want to be respectful of interpretations even when they differ from mine. I DO expect the same respect given to me. So, because of the context, I will differ to the May I am plotting/threading with. But DO NOT show up in my inbox/messages to tell me how my head canon is wrong. You will be blocked. (There is a difference between disagreeing with a view point and being an asshole.)

Bottom Line: Happy will ALWAYS operate from a place of being attracted to/in love with May Parker. I will never expect this to be requited. That is his default. The sexual relationship I feel the movies imply will NEVER be unless okayed by the person playing May. 

According to the MCU wiki timeline Happy and May started their flirtation on the 26th of June 2024. They then “broke up” on the 10th of July 2024.

Happy declares “I’m in love with Spider-man’s aunt!” on the 2nd of July 2024.

May declares it a “summer fling” and at no point uses the term “just friends” to Peter when confronted. Clearly Happy is incredibly invested in their connection where as May was just having fun. She seemed open to the idea of continuing it and told Peter that Happy really has issues with boundaries. (Tony also mentions this in Iron Man 2, I think?) Happy immediately confirms this with barging back in at the odd noise of Peter and MJ coming through Peter’s window.

May mouths something to Happy after he tells Peter “We broke up” and I’m horrible at lip reading so someone please tell me what that was.

In my head canon their relationship consisted of Happy hanging around her office and volunteering to obviously be close to May, having lunch, going out to a few dinners, staying in for a few movies and having sex. 

Based on May’s flirtations and blowing him a kiss after he talks to Peter, based on the fact that a week went by and Happy’s “in love” and crying at the idea of “breaking up”, and based on the fact May calls it a “fling”, that’s my main conclusion. They were having sex, which May considered a fun hang and Happy considered a relationship.