Jameela Jamil just came out as queer but people are already calling her bi Like can we not use words to describe her sexuality that she didn't use herself? She might be bi but until she uses it herself her label is queer k thinx
oof you’ve just given me an excuse to rant lmao
i’m not surprised people are calling her anything other than the label she claimed for herself. although i haven’t seen people outright call her bi, i have seen a lot of people claiming the queerphobia she’s been getting is biphobia, because it’s also applicable to bi people. people have been saying she can’t be queer because she’s dating a guy, which bi (and other mspec) people experience, but she never claimed the bi label, so why is it so hard to just label it queerphobia? especially considering how much literal bigoted and ignorant shit she’s getting about identifying specifically as queer. it’s like….just because something can be applicable to another group, doesn’t mean it always has be named in regard to that group, especially when the specific context is not about that group.
and tbh, she didn’t just come out. she’s been saying she isn’t straight for a while now. this was, as she called it, her “official” coming out. because aside from the valid criticism of her being on a show that’s about a specific queer culture she isn’t part of and doesn’t know anything about, there were and still are people questioning her queerness and right to call herself queer and be in queer spaces. which made her feel pressured or forced to officially come out. even though she has said in the past that she isn’t straight, one time was even in response to someone assuming she was straight and complaining about her calling another woman (who turned out to not be straight either)her wife.
this whole situation (not the valid criticism of her being on the show) is just steeped in the inherently problematic nature of criticizing someone through a lens of their presumed heterosexuality. people need to stop assuming everyone is non-queer until officially stated otherwise. attacking them for the language they use or the places they go or things they take part in because you assume a lack of official coming out means they aren’t queer is horrible. queer people don’t need to announce their queerness in order to be allowed to live their life and express their queerness how they’re comfortable.
it reminds me of that song a while back, i think rita ora was one of the artists? it was something about girls getting drunk and kissing girls? and everyone was mad about straight girls making girls kissing girls into a frivolous things straight girls do to impress or arouse guys. and like, feel however you want about the song, but most, if not all, the artists on that song were forced to come out and explain their sexuality and experiences to justify having done the song. which is fucked.
whew a lot of that had nothing to do with your message lmao. anyways. i hate how queer people are treated on these hellsites. someone says they’re queer, they’re fucking queer. period. that’s it. stop questioning them and forcing labels.