#ruth.txt

[didhaver]

you do not owe anyone information about your system.

i don’t know what newly diagnosed or discovered system needs to hear this, but take it from someone who has been in this online community since pre-covid.

you owe nothing to anyone. not the internet, not your family, not your partner. no one needs to know who is fronting or that someone is fronting at all. you do not need to force parts to front to complete intros or pluralkit or simply plural profiles. your partner does not need to know every single part—especially someone who you don’t know in person. you do not need to proxy with pluralkit or even have a pluralkit at all. blogs run by specific alters do not need to clarify that they are alters. your introjects do not owe anyone disclosure about the thing they are based off of. no one needs to know your triggers or what type of trauma you went through.

people who try and get this information from you have no place to do so.

your CDD symptoms, communication, and overall wellbeing will significantly improve if you don’t perform for others. disclosing any aspect of your CDD is to disclose severe, repeated childhood trauma. you do not owe anyone that information for the safety of yourself and your system as a whole.

[a-human-beann]

I've made a new tag. It's called #dnp secret project. This is not just for the current secret project, but for any future and past ones. I've just gone through and added it to all the rebrand posts I have in the run up to the hard launch, as well as anything about this new thing (we all know it's probably a tour). It's basically all just posts of phannies theorising about whatever dnp are scheming about.

[sirtadcooper]

Sirtadcooper's Favourite Shows

Here is an eclectic selection of TV programmes that I've been obsessed with over the years. How many have you seen?

Jumping on the list bandwagon!

[ask-ruth-weaver]

What the fuck did they do to you.

[shellacprayers]

lactose 1 me 0

[notbaberuth-blog]

baby girl💋🌹

[a-human-beann]

Ok so now that we have tumblr back (for now 😬) - I want to encourage everyone to not only like, but reblog posts!! For me, there's the odd post that I like and don't reblog - if it's a personal post or if I'm very short on time. But because most posts I see are reblogs, I try and remember that I wouldn't see that post if someone else hadn't reblogged it, so reblogging it is my way of thanking the person I've reblogging from, and the original poster. And if it is an original post, I want to share that with other people too!

This is the way to really build community on here - you can curate your collection of posts and find the people who like the same things as you do. And try out using the tags too! They are a great way to add your thoughts, but also be non-committal about it.

I know that it can feel scary to put things out onto the internet - tumblr is the first place I've consistently made posts that aren't just for my friends. I was quite shy at first, but I've gained a lot of confidence with it since I started posting on here regularly last year.

So take this as your sign to click the reblog button more from now on!

[a-human-beann]

My personal hard launch for today's hard launch meet up, inspired by the new podcast episode and some posts/tags I've seen today: you don't have to do everything that other people expect from you this Christmas

In 2019 after many years of having a shit Christmas, I told my mum that I would be spending Christmas at my friend's house and not with my mum and dad, brother and sister. She was upset, and it took a few years for her to understand that I wouldn't be spending Christmas with them again. But nowadays I can actually have a fun day without the stress of being with my family. What works for me, is going to theirs on boxing day/the 26th because they put so much pressure on Christmas Day and that is part of what makes it so stressful. So boxing day is a lot less pressure. I will also be calling a friend after being at my parent's house so that I can decompress about anything I need to.

My point being, find what works for you and helps you get a better balance of family/parent expectations vs what you actually want. You deserve joy this Christmas!

Ask for help and consideration for your needs, because the people who actually care about you will listen 💜