I dislike endos, but gods i hate when people see endo posts, and say:
- they're delusional
- theyre schizophrenic
- or just that 'they're a system in denial' or 'can't remember they're trauma' [even if there may be some like that]
Because its just using other people's illnesses (or whatever you call mental stuff) as an insult for a person they think is ableist. Its just not what people should be doing
This is armchair diagnosis and ableism.
Using words like delusional and schizophrenic to describe people who may simply be mistaken about their own experiences is extremely ableist, and waters down the real meaning of these struggles.
And especially considering that people who say these kinds of things tend to believe all endogenics are liars, rather than people who could be mistaken (not saying there aren't any liars, but you know what I mean) really says a lot about what they think of delusional and schizophrenic people, doesn't it?
Throwing around psychological terms is bad enough on its own without skewing them to be synonymous with lying.
And I have never been particularly fond of the people who say endogenics are systems in denial or that they can't remember their trauma.
In my honest opinion, yes, the endogenic mindset is extremely harmful and we should do what we can to help people out of it. But diagnosing them with a random CDD, convincing them they're traumatized, whether they are or are not is not the way to go.
Best case scenario, they're not traumatized and end up convincing themself they are. That's still something they'll have to come to terms with later, likely with therapy. Worst case scenario, you push someone who wasn't ready to face reality into that situation and you end up with someone like me, who discovered himself far too young and still can't get help years later. It's a special torture nobody should wish on another.
All around, this type of mindset is armchair diagnosis and it is ableist. We cannot try to help people stop harming themselves and others by harming them and others. It does not make you morally correct to use ableist language to fight ableism.
If everyone fought fire with fire, the whole world would go up in smoke.
