Ah yes, because fat trans men do not understand what its like to be treated as a fat girl. No fat trans men were ever treated as girls nor were they fat girls because they have always been seen as men. Do I understand this correctly?
The original post does have ONE point: that fatness, transphobia, and misogyny intersect at some horrible places for trans women. But the way that OP goes about excavating trans men from the conversation is, quite frankly, disgustingly transphobic.
Like. Yeah. Maybe sometimes explaining that you grew tits at 10 and got all the shit that comes from it IS relevant. Like. All of us experienced some form of puberty. Trans guys specifically have a huge issue with their puberty (NOT SAYING TRANS WOMEN OR OTHERS DONT) because, growing up in an AFAB body is...... a particular experience.
What 9 year old me dealt with while experiencing the beginnings of puberty in an estrogenized body is gonna be different than the 9 year old trans girl going through testosterone based puberty.
Both are issues we can talk about without putting a different set of people down.
It is not innocence chasing to say that as a 9 year old, my body started to change in ways that made strangers look at me differently. Its not innocence chasing to say that growing up fat & assigned female at birth had an effect on me. I was, to society, a fat girl. I was treated as a predator in lockerrooms for being fat and "weird" (= visibly queer, different)
Like. If theres a trans guy out there propping himself up as the ultimate victim. Yeah maybe thats a problem. But to suggest that as a whole, trans men want to be seen as #1 victim? That's so incredibly gross, especially when you know just how underreported our issues are.
Just- i can relate to the intersection of fatness and sexualized femininity. I can relate to those posts because I grew up in such a fuckin situation. Theres a good conversation to be had about what fat trans women have to deal with at this intersection too!! So why the fuck do we have to divide up the conversation? Can we not all commiserate over shared struggles? With intersections so close we SHOULD be able to just. "Yeah no i went thru the same shit and XYZ was only a little different because I was nine at the time, I imagine its different for you as a college student but that sucks so much-" isnt an option?
