tidings and mewsings of a cat-tboy (a catty boy, if you will) • Vulvar Hypospadias advocate • Exploring intersections of disability justice, intersex, and trans identities, some mewlings of being a system • neutroix hermafagdyke • one/none e/ey hy/hym kit/fae
Call me Whiskers or whatever idrc. This blog focuses on raising awareness, sharing personal experiences, and connecting with others in the intersex and ATM theory community. I love doing in depth research into topics, esp writing intersex educational essays. I am always learning. I tend to be very verbose as I'm hyperlexic, but I'm also dyslexic and dyscalculic so it's a struggle. While I am 21+, my account is not—occasional sex ed + kink discussion posts are tagged, and the latter are limited to interaction from bodily adults.
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I have read over 50 studies regarding anteriorly deflected urinary streams and vulvar/vestibulovaginal hypospadias. If you or someone you know has any questions, lmk (:
Most everything goes onto queue, tho sometimes some things skip the wait. As I have several communication disorders, it will usually take me several business days (weeks) to respond to posts because I can only manage my phone in short bursts, work full time, and am bedbound when I get home.
I use oneself, none, e/ey, hy/hym and kit/fae pronouns
Schrodigender's catoffboy. Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all. [PT: Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all, in bold /end PT]. I use it as an omninoun (link). I may occasionally use masc language for myself but I do not identify as a man. [PT: I do not identify as a man, in bold /end PT]. I'm not a man or a woman. Not your bro, not your sis. I am a SW and have done FSSW
I prefer not to be gendered or sexed by others at all, but I permit it sporadically from mutuals. I do not perform gender on the daily. Linaricgender and IntersexErrgender. Antanaver, obscurique, maintric, aliusmasc and ahuman. Neutroix tfemneumasc. TNC and ANC hermaphrodyke, hard femme, transfem guything. (s)t4t sapphillean tranny until I die. Transmisogynized
DNI/beware of cat:
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I write essays for fun.
Death, violent, rape threats / jokes, and suibait will not be tolerated. Neither will any form of bigotry—this means racism, ableism, sanism, classism, fatphobia, and queerphobia (including homophobia, inter+exorsexism, + forms of transphobia [transmisogyny, anti-transmasculinity, transmed / exclusionist beliefs, and transX/transID claims like “transitioning to intersex / Black / harmful / etc”]). I'm critical of TransID rhetoric and support alternative terminology. Individuals who use the belligerent language of bigots—"misandrodork," "theyfab," or "transandrobro"—will be blocked on sight. This is not a space welcoming to rad/LSD/basedqueer ideals or forms of fe/male separatism or superiority—namely MGTOW, masculinists, radfem, febfem, and perisex self-identified bæddels. Following or heavily reblogging from Plaidos (a known transphobe) or Strawberry-Crocodile (a known intersexist) forfeits the presumption of good faith due to the consistent lack of it on their accounts. Support for the Israeli government and its actions conflicts with the Land Back principles and other anti colonial values held in this space
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Individuals with BIID where their dysphoria is centered around the physical body rather than "not being disabled" are perfectly fine and welcomed here. I do not mind those with alters who understand that their body does not hold the responsibilities of enduring oppressions their marginalized alter would face (and thus will not be fully capable of understanding oppression regarding that minority), who do not describe their discomfort as being "transrace", and uplift voices of the minorities rather than speaking over ("I have a black/trans/IS/disabled alter so I get to decide what's bigoted" 👎)
More about me:
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I was UAAB and grew up as a trans girl, but now I'm growing into something else. I'm CTN and sociopolitically TMA, but don't use it as binaries (especially ones based on birth assignment "privilege") do not reflect my intersex experience, nor is oppression based solely on internal identity, but rather influenced by your material conditions and how you are perceived. I was raised a feminist and became a transfeminist before I ever came out. I believe in Transformative Justice and Community Accountability. Antigonist
I've been transitioning for over a decade as someone who is ambigonadal with a partial androgen resistance. I was part of the transgender craze seducing your daughters before Abigail Shrier even started taking notes. I've been called a bæddel since before Tumblr discovered it. I have survived and prevailed through a forced detransition. I've had more than a handful of people consider me a queer elder. I will remove you as a follower if I catch you being an ass in my notifs to someone I've responded to
I'm autistic, part of a small medically adaptive, disassociative, biconscious atrium collective, and am disabled on many levels. I use mobility aids daily and struggle to get anywhere without them due to my numerous musculoskeletal and soft tissue deformities, along with FND. I also have some disfigurements but don't consider myself Disfigured. I also have exfoliative keratolysis. Radinclu
I cannot tell you if you are intersex or not. I don't mind spam likes/reblogs, but be aware that coming back onto here to a bunch of notifs may startle me. I'm really weird abt compliments and tend to get overwhelmed. If we're mutuals and you unfollow, please soft block (blocking then immediately unblocking) me
Some posts:
Examining Sax's .018% claim (link)
No One Can Produce Both Sperm and Eggs? Think Again. (link)
Unpacking the Ethics of “Tboy Strap” (link)
Vulvar Hypospadias (link)
Problems with CAGAB’s Epistemology (link)
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender (link)
Some Tags:
#purrspectives for posts I've written or heavily added to. May occasionally contain others' posts if I completely agree w them and have no better way to convey
#transparency for criticism and #testimonials for praise
A term for somatic intersex people who actively choose to highlight, amplify, or build upon intersex traits in ways that resist pressures to erase or "normalize" them, such as taking testosterone to encourage preexisting clitoromegaly, wearing a push-up bra to emphasize gynecomastia, dyeing a hirsutism beard or applying serums to it to promote growth, or otherwise leaning into what our bodies already do.
It is taking such pride in what society tries to hide that you go the opposite way—intersex traits are emphasized in a way that goes against the status quo.
If you're wondering whether something you've done falls under this term, ask yourself: does this augment, embrace, or build upon intersex variation, or does it diminish it in order to conform to a norm?
Flag ID: A bright yellow flag featuring a large purple four-point star symbol in the center. The star has rounded, curved points extending up, down, left, and right, with a hollow center. Two small purple accent marks appear near both the upper right and lower left points of the star, creating the impression that the central symbol is shining or glowing like a sparkle
Being a trans man is being the butt of the joke and the punching bag of every demographic imaginable because they need something to take their own hurt out on, and then being told that you were never laughed at or (in the case of Hopeless Leftist on TikTok, quite literally) never punched at all
My identity feels like a joke at my own expense. I feel more supported and encouraged to continue to transition by the cis people in my life than I do from other trans people on the Internet. I only have two out trans people I consider close friends and some acquaintances I’d like to get to know more. I gotta touch some grass
My brother @transfaguette went missing last Tuesday. (5/12/26) The family was left a suicide note on a hard drive similar to the one posted on this platform 2 nights ago. His last known location was Chittenango Falls, New York, our hometown. You may have seen the selfie of him standing in front of the falls. The park was turned upside down by the most qualified personnel in the state, including SWAT and cadaver dogs. Ansel is nowhere to be found. You may have seen the news reports.
We suspect he may be alive somewhere with somebody. The police have been on top of this investigation 24/7 and have gone to every length to help us. There is one major piece missing to this puzzle that we feel could provide us some answers - his online presence. If you interacted with Ansel on Tumblr, X, and specifically Discord, *please* reach out to me. Accessing this information would require dozens of subpoenas that would take months. If you have any screenshots or anything you’d like to share, pm me and I will give you my personal number. If you would like to just talk to the police, you can call the tip hotline at 315-366-6000.
Take care of each other. Look out for each other. Thank you.
"trans men don't have a need for community that's why they go stealth!" extremely incorrect buzzer.
Just because a trans man or transmac goes stealth doesn't mean they don't need community. There's a lot of different reasons people go stealth. Safety is a big part of it, some people just don't want people to know they are trans and that's perfectly a-ok. I'd even say the fact Tmen & Tmascs cant find community within the LGBTQ+ is more of a death sentence. We shouldn't have to feel bad for being ourselves. tmasc & Tmen aren't misogynistic for transitioning either. So cut that out
You know, transandrophobic arguments begin to make a lot more sense when you realise that these people view trans women as Inherently Different to cis women, and that they will Never Pass as such, thus being subjected to Eternal Torment; and that they view trans men as Inherently The Same to cis men, and that they will Always Pass as such, thus being subjected to Immediate And Eternal Privilege.
And by makes sense, I mean it shows an incredibly big transmisogynistic (and just transphobic in general) bias that these people have yet to unpack. Idk, I think positioning trans women as permanently "clockable" or whatever is a little... Not as progressive as you think... But maybe that's just me.
Hey remember when everyone was panicking about everyone taking estrogen HRT being put on a registry and that same law making it illegal to import estrogen from overseas and a felony to DIY? Remember when everyone was rightfully horrified about how inaccessible this would make transitioning to transfem people?
Trans men on testosterone HRT are on a registry because testosterone is a controlled substance. It is illegal to import testosterone from overseas and it is a felony to DIY with it. Still, the same people who were panicking over this law for transfems will belittle and bully transgender men who do not DIY or are rightfully afraid of it.
i nabbed this from a zionist who nabbed it from an antizionist but i couldnt find the og and im not fucking reblogging a "proud zionist" so im posting it here. truth + free palestine
sorry (not) to the people i offended by saying "zionism is bad" and "free palestine". to clarify, i am against antisemitism. i am just also against the united states-backed genocide of brown people in palestine, and would be even if it wasnt israel. hope this helps?
I really really really need tumblr users to stop being transmisogynistic like years ago. I keep seeing posts along the lines of "I don't trust any trans women or anyone who calls themselves a transfeminist atp bc of xyz" and I have gotten several asks atp along the lines of "omg I can't believe you're a amab trans woman who actually supports afabs trans men, enbies, and intersex people!!!"
I cannot stress this enough- this is transmisogynistic and I am tired of seeing it. I see too many people using asab terminology when it comes to trans people and also trying to like. Figure out my asab when I have already said I am asabless???? I just delete those asks but I really am tired of it. Be normal about trans women. Trans women are not the enemies of trans men. It is a small handful of hateful people spreading bad rhetoric. If you don't trust people who have trans woman/transfem/transfeminist in bio, then please put down the phone, touch grass, and actually talk to trans women. Preferable ones irl. Stop making "jokes" about how trans women are sexually immoral, stop searching TME or TMA on the blogs of only trans women but not doing the same for literally anyone else, stop calling "transfeminist/transfeminism" transandrophobic dogwhistles, and for the love of God just don't be transmisogynistic!!! It is really really easy to just. Not be a transmisogynist???
Also I barely say this on any of my other posts but don't derail this post please. This is about trans women and transmisogyny. Because I am a trans woman and I care about transmisogyny. Thank you.
Y'know what just occurred to me that I should've realized sooner.
"wow that t is making you really aggressive" is just "wow it must be that time of the month for you" repackaged. I'm starting to get why the rumor of it making you aggressive is just so popular.
right. we have cis men privilege and definitely don't experience misogyny or transandrophobia. /Sar.
I'm really tired of intersex people with massively internalized intersexism (or who have been lucky enough to have a relatively "'easy"" time in life despite being intersex) talking as if their experiences are universal so they can police how other intersex people conceptualize their relationships with agab, sig, gender identity, and our bodies. Every intersex person has a right to decide their own relationship with each of those subjects and how they feel about them, but the amount of intersex people who use the fact that they're intersex as a way to speak as an authority and talk over or invalidate the identities of other intersex people frustrates me deeply. Your experiences are not universal and you do not get to be the singular spokesperson for intersex people. I wish intersexist intersex people would stop offering themselves up as tokens to give perisex people an excuse to ignore our wide range of experiences because one intersex person is willing to feed into their confirmation biases and give them an excuse not to listen to the experiences or perspectives of any other intersex people or respect how we talk about our identities.
Skinny people (not average, actually skinny) do face hardships especially medically when doctors decide we're too skinny to receive proper treatment, or blaming our (even serious) issues on "go eat" even when we do eat alot.
But you gotta understand fat people have significantly fewer privileges than skinny people, especially socially, ESPECIALLY outside of Tumblr.
The current total active community on here may not even be a million, and that isn't enough to declare social privilege for fat people. (This is directed to the weirdos that have a problem with people preferring/boosting/repping fatness on here)
Medically, fat people suffer even more. While fat can make existing problems worse for you (same for skinny), doctors are more likely to believe ALL a person's problems is because of fatness, than they do for skinny. Also, medical equipment and services just aren't designed for people who exceed size (this also happens for super tall people btw, and adults too short/small for things like even a stretcher or medical transport chair to contain them properly. That's me btw 😭) this medical problem is because they don't design things with different size in mind. Everything is "one size fits a small demographic" and that's bad.
Fatphobia is a much larger problem than what skinny people face.
This does not mean we should avoid the problems skinny people face, because weight discrimination kills us too.
In general weight discrimination needs to stop BOTH directions.
We focus on fat people because it's a worse problem.
Adding onto this: the two sides of this are also not at all equal. The social threshold for stigma around weight gain is much lower than the threshold for stigma about being underweight. Fatphobia tends to activate quickly and at mild levels of fat gain, while stigmas around being underweight often only start at more severe extremes, which means a lot more people people are facing the consequences of medical fatphobia than there are people facing weight discrimination for being underweight
I fear many of us are forgetting that trans men belong to Men (the gender) but not Men (the sociopolitical class) and I think thats an important distinction
Sociopolitical classes are the result of what is called "social stratification", which divides people into categories of "social worth" based on factors like sex assignment, gender presentation and identity, wealth, skin colour, physical and intellectual ability, country or culture of origin, religion, etc.
Those in the highest sociopolitical standing would be cis het monogamous men who are white, physically and mentally non-disabled, neurotypical, wealthy, and not immigrants. There are other factors, but this is essentially the top of the food chain.
The hierarchy isn't a single vertical ladder, but more like a pyramid. The more of these factors differ from the societal ideal, the lower in the pyramid you are placed. And your place in this pyramid determines your access to things like education, jobs, social programs, and also determines how authority figures that govern the system categorize you and treat you. ie black men are perceived as more dangerous and violent than white men, despite there being little to no empirical evidence for this.
So sociopolitical class Men is reserved for cisgender men, and transgender men are seen as trying to "claim" power the system deems them unentitled to. Not only do trans men not get access to this class, they are often further punished for trying to claim masculinity, particularly because queer masculinity is not accepted as "true masculinity" by the system. The argument that trans men receive privelege for identifying as men ignores this fact. Trans men are only afforded the sociopolitical class of men when they are assumed to be cis (which requires access to a full regimen of transition tools like Testosterone and surgery), which ignores and erases their identity as trans.
It also for the most part to excludes men of colour, disabled men, cis men who are gender-nonconforming, and men who otherwise do not fit into the patriarchal standard of cisgender masculinity. Even a man who fits the patriarchal ideal but rejects toxic masculinity and male superiority can be ejected from the dominant social class for non-conformity.
Being a horny poster is not the same as being a sex worker I need you need to be serious right now. I am so tired of people acting like it's just a way to spend time and not a whole ass fucking profession that takes time, effort, and skill to learn. A person capable and eligible to service pipes but has only done so for their friends (which is well within their rights!) is not going to have more important and meaningful insight on what community shit, landscape or dynamics are like compared to someone who actually deals with offering it as a professional service. Your friend casually investing $10 in you doesn't make them a professional money advisor and/or investor who's insight should be prioritized over someone actively engaged in the field providing services as part of their professional workload and practice
also the thing about "we need to focus on the people most vulnerable, and transmascs may be vulnerable but not more than trans women!" is that it doesn't consider transmasc erasure as an active force.
its a take from the perspective that trans men are "vulnerable" is some vague abstract generalized way, not in a way which would behoove anyone to adjust their behavior or take action on their behalf. its the erasure of erasure; the assumption is that trans men probably have enough resources and support anyways, which could not be farther from the truth. some local communities may have more transmasc-focused resources, but many others do not. transmasculine people are left out of vital conversations, are excluded from vital resources, are ignored and forgotten when they are abused and killed.
it treats transmasc erasure as something which is passive in itself and which can be solved passively. which is erasure itself in action. i do not really give a fuck about "who has it worse," it is not about that. it is about the fact that if YOU do not make an ACTIVE EFFORT to advocate for transmascs, to make transmasc suffering and oppression visible and legible, it will not happen. it simply will not happen.
erasure is an active force. we all internalize transmasculine erasure and we can all easily contribute to it; we are expected to contribute to it. trans men&mascs cannot afford the model of "well we only need to raise awareness for the most vulnerable" because our vulnerability is defined by being ignored.
this is why unlearning anti transmasculinity has to start from (un)learning erasure. once you start to see it as an active force/tool of the patriarchy you realize it is the lynchpin that holds so much (especially intercommunity) anti-transmasculinity together. transmaculine absence is so normalized people experience our presence as an intrusion, and people genuinely do not understand why we would ever need to be more visible than we are. it is fucking everywhere.
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The (trans)gender of who coined CAGAB is irrelevant, it doesn't exempt the terms from critique, especially when the foundational theoretical framing is flawed.
According to Mahdialynn, the trans woman who came forward to dispute false claims about its origins in 2015 (link), the coining was focused on “trying to find a way to talk about gendered experience,” continuing with how she was “trying to make sense of trans ppl’s relationships to birth assignment.” She explained that “[what began as] ‘non-consensually assigned X at birth' became 'coercively assigned X at birth', probably just for the sake of an easier-to-pronounce acronym,” prioritising linguistic convenience over theoretical accuracy.
The issue lies not in authorship but in epistemology: the way CAGAB was conceptualized reflects a fundamental misunderstanding of the language it draws from, a language born out of a system in which coercion is not conditional or occasional, but inherent and structural. The concept of sex assignment at birth originates from intersex contexts, where it names a specific regime of biopolitical control often enshrined into law. This regime is defined first and foremost by violations of bodily autonomy, where consent is structurally impossible and harm is retroactively justified as medical necessity. Including, but not limited to, irreversible, non-consensual medical interventions, prescribed rape, and mutilation, rather than the medical neglect, gatekeeping, coercive control, and social conditioning trans people also face.
Framing coercion as a way to make sense of trans experiences isolates trans trauma as uniquely coercive, suggesting that non-coercive assignment exists. It overlooks how gender roles are forced onto everyone (especially queer individuals) and that perisex trans people face the enforcement of gender throughout their lives, whereas intersex individuals face both the enforcement of gender and the construction of the sexed body itself from birth. The phrase claims to address gender, yet conflates it by re-encoding sex categories as if they were gendered experiences. The terms originated from a conceptual misunderstanding of AGAB that equated multiple distinct axes of gendered experience, and their meanings have long since collapsed through perisex misuse. The conflation of coercive control, Socially Imposed Gender (SIG - link), rearing, and birth assignment into a single concept seen as indistinguishable and one and the same is driven by the majority perspective.
It is not just misuse—it reflects a broader pattern: a majority misapprehends a framework originally shaped around minority experiences, repurposes it for themselves, and erases its original connotations in the process. A member of the relative majority took an inherently coercive system, misunderstanding and unaware of its depth; treated it as something that needed changing, and reshaped it to fit her own experience because she didn’t grasp what it meant in the first place. I can’t help but be reminded of the similar phenomena regarding "racist Karen"—as if "Karen" didn’t originally mean a racist white woman weaponizing her white privilege against racialized (particularly Black) people. The terms have been appropriated to such a degree that their original meaning has been obscured—so much so that people now treat what was already inherent as if it were a distinct, additional feature. For these and further reasons, many intersex individuals consider the terms inherently intersexist. On a separate note, as a species, we are required to eat to sustain ourselves, but we understand being "forced to eat" to live is different from someone being forced to eat by being force-fed.
She didn’t develop it from a place of reckoning with the medical system’s coercive control over bodies; she borrowed the language of intersex trauma and reformatted it to describe her own, without grasping its original weight. Her goal didn't seem to be about illuminating systemic violence, but to make describing trans experiences linguistically convenient.
When used by perisex trans individuals, these terms function as misnomers, category errors, and forms of conceptual appropriation (borrowing a concept and applying it to another context in a way that changes and distorts its meaning). Under this framing, “coercively assigned” misrepresents a system in which coercion is not incidental, but both foundational and systematic—a rule, not an exception—by portraying coercive assignment as unique to trans individuals, rather than acknowledging how coercion disproportionately targets them. Perisex trans people are not coerced into "correcting" their sex characteristics to be assigned a sex systematically in the same way that intersex people are coercively subjected to nonconsensual sex characteristic manipulation. Medical intersexism is rarely used to impose sexual characteristics onto perisex individuals—cases such as botched circumcisions resulting in vaginoplasty are nearly unheard of outside of David Reimer cited as the sole example. There have been perisex trans individuals with developed uterovaginal structures—particularly those transmasculinized—forced to take birth control in an attempt to feminize them, however, such events occur after infancy and target the enforcement of characteristics rather than the erasure of sexual characteristic nonconformity.
While the experiences are very real, more often than not the abuse described aligns with established patterns of coercive control. Using CAFAB/CAMAB to convey violence that occurs later in life and unrelated to nonconsensual sex characteristic manipulation obscures the specific language needed to describe distinct forms of violence intersex individuals face, such as forced, coercive, or "corrective" manipulation of their sex characteristics. If these terms are generalized, what remains—“surgically assigned”—leaves behind those who were subjected to forced exogenous hormone treatments to explain their trauma in explicit detail rather than having a colloquial shorthand. For some survivors, the shortest is: medicalized violence, medicalized rape, prescribed rape, being raped with medication, and legalized incest.
These conceptual failures and problems with CAGAB’s epistemology underscore why more precise terminology is needed to describe experiences of enforced gender, which I refer to as a “coercively controlled gender”—a framework I’ll explain in detail in the following discussion (link). The Tumblr post can be accessed here (link).
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