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Meowdern Intersex Purrspectives
@intersexcat-tboy
tidings and mewsings of a cat-tboy (a catty boy, if you will) • Vulvar Hypospadias advocate • Exploring intersections of disability justice, intersex, and trans identities, some mewlings of being a system • neutroix hermafagdyke • one/none e/ey hy/hym kit/fae
Call me Whiskers or whatever idrc. This blog focuses on raising awareness, sharing personal experiences, and connecting with others in the intersex and ATM theory community. I love doing in depth research into topics, esp writing intersex educational essays. I am always learning. I tend to be very verbose as I'm hyperlexic, but I'm also dyslexic and dyscalculic so it's a struggle. While I am 21+, my account is not—occasional sex ed + kink discussion posts are tagged, and the latter are limited to interaction from bodily adults.
If you like what I do, or appreciate if I've helped you, you can always tip (link) me
I have read over 50 studies regarding anteriorly deflected urinary streams and vulvar/vestibulovaginal hypospadias. If you or someone you know has any questions, lmk (:
Most everything goes onto queue, tho sometimes some things skip the wait. As I have several communication disorders, it will usually take me several business days (weeks) to respond to posts because I can only manage my phone in short bursts, work full time, and am bedbound when I get home.
I use oneself, none, e/ey, hy/hym and kit/fae pronouns
Schrodigender's catoffboy. Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all. [PT: Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all, in bold /end PT]. I use it as an omninoun (link). I may occasionally use masc language for myself but I do not identify as a man. [PT: I do not identify as a man, in bold /end PT]. I'm not a man or a woman. Not your bro, not your sis. I am a SW and have done FSSW
I prefer not to be gendered or sexed by others at all, but I permit it sporadically from mutuals. I do not perform gender on the daily. Linaricgender and IntersexErrgender. Antanaver, obscurique, maintric, aliusmasc and ahuman. Neutroix tfemneumasc. TNC and ANC hermaphrodyke, hard femme, transfem guything. (s)t4t sapphillean tranny until I die. Transmisogynized
DNI/beware of cat:
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I write essays for fun.
Death, violent, rape threats / jokes, and suibait will not be tolerated. Neither will any form of bigotry—this means racism, ableism, sanism, classism, fatphobia, and queerphobia (including homophobia, inter+exorsexism, + forms of transphobia [transmisogyny, anti-transmasculinity, transmed / exclusionist beliefs, and transX/transID claims like “transitioning to intersex / Black / harmful / etc”]). I'm critical of TransID rhetoric and support alternative terminology. Individuals who use the belligerent language of bigots—"misandrodork," "theyfab," or "transandrobro"—will be blocked on sight. This is not a space welcoming to rad/LSD/basedqueer ideals or forms of fe/male separatism or superiority—namely MGTOW, masculinists, radfem, febfem, and perisex self-identified bæddels. Following or heavily reblogging from Plaidos (a known transphobe) or Strawberry-Crocodile (a known intersexist) forfeits the presumption of good faith due to the consistent lack of it on their accounts. Support for the Israeli government and its actions conflicts with the Land Back principles and other anti colonial values held in this space
Well what about [XYZ]?
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Individuals with BIID where their dysphoria is centered around the physical body rather than "not being disabled" are perfectly fine and welcomed here. I do not mind those with alters who understand that their body does not hold the responsibilities of enduring oppressions their marginalized alter would face (and thus will not be fully capable of understanding oppression regarding that minority), who do not describe their discomfort as being "transrace", and uplift voices of the minorities rather than speaking over ("I have a black/trans/IS/disabled alter so I get to decide what's bigoted" 👎)
More about me:
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I was UAAB and grew up as a trans girl, but now I'm growing into something else. I'm CTN and sociopolitically TMA, but don't use it as binaries (especially ones based on birth assignment "privilege") do not reflect my intersex experience, nor is oppression based solely on internal identity, but rather influenced by your material conditions and how you are perceived. I was raised a feminist and became a transfeminist before I ever came out. I believe in Transformative Justice and Community Accountability. Antigonist
I've been transitioning for over a decade as someone who is ambigonadal with a partial androgen resistance. I was part of the transgender craze seducing your daughters before Abigail Shrier even started taking notes. I've been called a bæddel since before Tumblr discovered it. I have survived and prevailed through a forced detransition. I've had more than a handful of people consider me a queer elder. I will remove you as a follower if I catch you being an ass in my notifs to someone I've responded to
I'm autistic, part of a small medically adaptive, disassociative, biconscious atrium collective, and am disabled on many levels. I use mobility aids daily and struggle to get anywhere without them due to my numerous musculoskeletal and soft tissue deformities, along with FND. I also have some disfigurements but don't consider myself Disfigured. I also have exfoliative keratolysis. Radinclu
I cannot tell you if you are intersex or not. I don't mind spam likes/reblogs, but be aware that coming back onto here to a bunch of notifs may startle me. I'm really weird abt compliments and tend to get overwhelmed. If we're mutuals and you unfollow, please soft block (blocking then immediately unblocking) me
Some posts:
Examining Sax's .018% claim (link)
No One Can Produce Both Sperm and Eggs? Think Again. (link)
Unpacking the Ethics of “Tboy Strap” (link)
Vulvar Hypospadias (link)
Problems with CAGAB’s Epistemology (link)
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender (link)
Some Tags:
#purrspectives for posts I've written or heavily added to. May occasionally contain others' posts if I completely agree w them and have no better way to convey
#transparency for criticism and #testimonials for praise
Forgot to add this onto the last, already too wordy post, but YES trans men should be centered in feminism lmao. This is because the rights of trans men hinge on the rights of women, and we are often excluded and thus affected disproportionately in some areas, for example in healthcare. This is ALSO because the class of “woman” deserve human rights, they deserve rights to self determination, this is what we are all fighting for in feminism, bodily autonomy and equality. You will know if all women achieve even close to that goal when trans men are allowed to exist in peace — this is because one of the rights given to “women” should be the autonomy to choose to not be a woman. The patriarchy can only be dismantled when the class divide is lifted — when you can make an autonomous decision in your gender, rather than hinge it on sex, appearance, and more. If we are forced into boxes this means there is an exploitative reason. This is why TERFs are so stupid — the rights of cis women will ALWAYS depend on the rights of trans women, men, nonbinary, neutral, ALL trans people. And ALL intersex people. And feminism is not complete without dismantling racism. This is because we all inherently challenge a class divide. Harming us means shooting yourself in the foot.
i was recently reminded of this woman i saw on tiktok sometime in this last year or so who was talking about how she had heard from other trans women how wonderful it is to date trans men, she goes on to express her upset because we’re never interested in her, and she asks where are the trans men who want to date the dolls. her comments were flooded with hundreds of trans men talking about how much they adore trans women and love to date trans women. she makes a follow up video. she says you misunderstand me, i am looking for a real man. all of you are nice but you’re all too feminine. where are the trans men who look like real men.
and yet she wonders why we have no interest in her, it must be because trans men don’t want to date trans women, the fault must be with us. the concept that it could be because of her doesn’t even cross her mind.
she was not asking for trans men who love trans women, she was asking for a completely cis passing, patriarchal man, who happened to share transsexuality with her.
and this thought has bumped into another thought in my head, about these trans women who say they are simply women asking for support from the men in their community. a deeply understandable request that i see trans men meet with joy on the regular, gusto even. and yet, they look around and go, no trans man is supporting us, no trans man is supporting me. and i’ve stopped in my tracks in this moment because, support isn’t whats being asked, is it. that’s why the support given is dismissed entirely. what’s being really asked for is worship. it’s servitude. and anything less is seen as a failure at our social duties of chivalry. a failure of our manhood. a failure to uphold our side of the patriarchal bargain it has been implicitly assumed we must have agreed to in the first place.
a third thought has been bumped into. the few trans men these women do surround themselves with, are without a doubt, in every instance i have seen, viscously misogynistic towards other trans men and transmasculine people, and deeply benevolently sexist towards trans women. that is what is given the seal of approval. that is what is required. anything less than looking up, anything less than that high pedestal that unconditional worship guarantees will never crack and fall, anything less than feet kissed and sexual favors freely given, anything less than a doormat, a punching bag, a sex toy, is akin to community abandonment to them.
these are not feminists. these are patriarchal trans people who believe that their transsexuality inherently makes the misogynistic structures they partake in progressive and radical. but they are nothing more than dime store lackeys to the patriarchy, and frankly, should be dismissed accordingly.
Now that pornhub released statistics showing that a significant number of cis women seek out porn of trans men under pretty fetishistic and transphobic names, can we finally admit that the rise in the amount of explicit gay fanfic/fan art/head cannons where the bottom is depicted as a trans man is fetishistic?
I can no longer pretend that there aren't a huge amount of tumblr users who hate trans men and transmascs. Making whole blogs about it ace-discourse-style
The irony of comparing talking about transandrophobia to gamergate when this whole "discourse" started with people inventing reasons to harrass Saint and hacking his side blog to find dirt on him is not lost on me. And all explicitly because they wanted trans men to shut up. The excuses came later
Likewise, anyone else talking about it gets the same of a handful of bad faith accusations. This is what happened during gamergate. A concerted effort to get the targets off the internet however they can, and control the narrative so no one can call them out on it.
i think transfems should be allowed to be good at sports.
sometimes a trans woman wins against a cis woman. sometimes a cis woman wins against another cis woman too. yet only one of them is allowed to win without facing consequences.
it's not enough to support transfems in sports if your support hinges on us being bad at them.
I keep seeing this shit during pride month and honestly im starting to feel like it’s hopeless. it’s hard to feel empathy from others as a male SA survivor already and now im realizing that no one gives a fuck if we do get harmed
edit: sorry i tend to post vents without context, poster uses they/them and is transfem from what i can see on the acc, not a cis woman as some comments are stating
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender
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Corrective Gender-Based Violence (CGBV) is a form of Gender-Based Violence (GBV) aimed at “correcting” a person’s gender expression or identity, with corrective rape operating within CGBV as an extreme form intended to punish or "fix" individuals who do not conform to perceived social norms regarding human sexuality or gender roles. Corrective rape lies at the crux of CGBV, paralleling how rape anchors the apex of the rape culture pyramid, illustrating the minor everyday social enforcement mechanisms that enable, uphold and sustain the violence.
While CGBV can affect everyone, it disproportionately affects individuals across marginalizations, particularly Marginalized Orientations, Gender Alignments, and Intersex (MOGAI) identities, also referred to as LGBTQIIA+ or, more broadly, queer individuals. It acts to uphold patriarchal gender roles through force, threat, and the weaponization of gendered expectations. For racialized individuals, CGBV is often shaped by layered forms of gender regulation: first, through culturally specific gender expectations enforced within their own communities—frequently in response to colonialism and survival under white supremacy—and second, through additional punishment for failing to conform to dominant white-coded patriarchal ideals of manhood and womanhood. These forms of correction are shaped by both racial and cultural contexts, affecting individuals differently depending on how their identities intersect with dominant patriarchal demands. The impact and expression of CGBV further vary depending on (dis)ability, class, and other intersecting social factors.
CGBV encompasses acts like threats of violence for noncompliance, for instance, if the perpetrator claims things such as "just be a man" while initiating fights against “nonconforming” individuals. For transmasculinized individuals, this is a form of malgendering, often intended to traumatize them by imposing a painful, damaging, and restrictive idea of what it means to be a man while punishing them for not meeting expectations. For transfemininized individuals, it is a form of misgendering, often functioning to belittle or delegitimize their womanhood, reinforcing the idea that they’re “really” men and deserve punishment for not meeting expectations. For non-binary individuals, it is both exorsexism and transphobia—an expectation to “pick one” or not transition at all.
For butch sapphics, it is used to frame their masculinity as an imitation of patriarchal manhood and their attraction to women as inherently manly—denying both their gender and their sexuality. For achilleans (men or masculine aligned people who are attracted to men or masculine aligned people), it often implies that masculinity must be heterosexual and emotionally restrained, casting any deviation—whether in sexuality, presentation or affection—as a failure of manhood. For disabled men, their disabilities are treated as an inadequacy that strips away their masculinity, reinforcing punitive ideas of what it means to be a man. This single phrase can be used both to Coercively Control Patriarchal Manhood (CCPM) and Coercively Control Patriarchal Womanhood (CCPW).
A Coercively Controlled Gender (CCG) is a pattern of CGBV characterized by coercive control, which is defined by the NHS (link) as a pattern of "assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim" into complying with a Socially Imposed Gender (SIG) (link). While CCG is not the same as Coercively Assigned Fe/Male At Birth—as the former 1) takes place during one's life rather than around infancy, and 2) is about the enforcement of gender(ed characteristics) and expression rather than the nonconsensual sex characteristic manipulation that intersex individuals face—CCG is proposed as a more accurate replacement for these terms when used by perisex trans individuals.
The conceptual problems motivating new terminology—the epistemological origins, its failures, and conceptual appropriation underlying CAFAB/CAMAB—are addressed in detail here (archive link). Tumblr post can be accessed here (link).
On your intersex enhanced flag, does that mean that intersex people like me who actively try to hide or remove certain intersex traits are like, downgraded? Like idk maybe I'm reading too much into the phrasing here or being too sensitive but this genuinely feels passive-aggressive towards a lot of intersex folks. I'm hypersensitive though so idk.
I've been looking for a term for a while now where your intersex variation makes it harder to transition to your transition goals, and like, now I'm just thinking of it like it's a downgrade. I would enhance my intersex traits if it didn't give me such horrible dysphoria.
I can understand the train of thought that leads from the word "enhanced" to concerns about "downgrades." However, I don't think it's fair to assume that a term describing one person's positive relationship with their own intersex traits is intended as a passive-aggressive judgment of people who have a different relationship with theirs, especially considering I am one of those people it is supposedly passive aggressive towards, as I am someone who has traits that do need to be modified for me to be able to comfortably enjoy life and other traits holding back my own transition.
The concept isn't about ranking intersex people; it's about rejecting the pre-existing ranking system that already treats intersex traits as inherently lesser.
Part of the point of the term is pushing back against the way intersex traits are so often framed as inherently undesirable, defective, unattractive, or something that needs to be corrected. There's a sense in which "intersex enhanced" is intentionally provocative: if society says these traits make me lesser, then my response is essentially, "fine, I'm making myself 'worse'." It's a rejection of the premise that having intersex traits is inherently a downgrade.
When I ask "does it diminish to conform to a norm?", I'm not asking whether changing your body to align with your own sense of self is diminishing. I'm questioning the assumption that moving closer to normative or culturally accepted body is automatically an improvement. Intersex individuals are expected to dislike their intersex traits and are encouraged to change them.
For other terminology, there is Octopus Intersex, tho that doesn't hit your request just right. One of sapphic-horror's terms (link) may apply to you, however I cannot think of a term specifically conveying how being intersex impedes the ability to transition
As a transmasc nonbinary person who is usually read as a very masculine cis woman because I'm not on T yet, I can tell you with full confidence that masculinity is not rewarded in everyone. I have had family members say horrible disgusting things to me and try to force me to be feminine. I've had friends who knew I was transmasc nonbinary try to force me to dress feminine for their sake. Once, I wore a tux for a friend's wedding. None of the cis men in the wedding party had to put on makeup but as the transmasc nonbinary person, not only was makeup demanded for me but it had to be feminine to offset me wearing a tux. I needed to have femininity to their standard. People treat masculinity in trans people as a threat. As a sign of evil. It can never just exist. I have been eating in a restaurant by myself quietly minding my business and had people glaring daggers into my soul because I existed as a masculine person and I knew that if there wasn't a camera they probably would've attacked me. A specific kind of masculinity is acceptable in cis men, but even then, it must be performed properly. The masculinity of trans men and transmasc people is seen as deviant and perverted. It's seen as a threat to the carefully balanced order of cisheteropatriarchy. As someone of lower status trying to reach above their station and attack their betters. It's seen as ruining innocent girls and taking away the wombs needed to incubate more babies. Refusing to accept this doesn't make it any less true; it just shows those of us with these experiences that you'd rather we die tragically as women rather than live as our vibrant trans masculine selves.
if you tell trans men to kill themselves and they get upset and your response to that is “you’re a man, you by default perpetuate the conditions that lead to my abuse, you deserve this!!!” then you clearly have no damn idea what the fuck you’re talking about or what it’s like to be a trans man
There is so much that could be said about this but I find the "lamb eaten by wolf," "you are the wolf" "be a good dog" very interesting. It's almost like they... aren't the wolf?
hey party people, I’m here to talk about my experience with transmisandry—
“you can’t call it transmisandry, misandry isn’t real and is an MRA talking point”
ok, my experience with transandrophobia—
“you’re not experiencing oppression for being a man, you’re just experiencing misogyny and transphobia (but you can’t call it transmisogyny, that doesn’t apply to you)”
ok, my experience with isomisogyny—
“you don’t experience misogyny, you’re a man, and you can’t call it your own special brand of misogyny anyways, you don’t have it worse than anyone else”
ok, my experience with anti-transmasculinity—
“transmasculinity is rewarded, as is all expressions of masculinity in this society. You’re transitioning into privilege”
ok, my experience with transandromisia—
“you don’t experience oppression, look at all these stupid words you made up to make yourself feel special you little birthday boy tMRA”
ok, how about we talk about your experience with shutting the fuck up and not taking others talking about their own oppression personally, since clearly you can’t stand hearing about us for even one second.
It pains me to inform you all that we have found @transfaguette He unfortunately has passed on. Thank you to everybody who aided us, reposted, and had conversations with us to help find him. I wish I had better news to share.
He’s at rest now.
Please take care of yourselves and each other. You are loved, you are cared for, you are so much more important than you could ever realize.
Special shoutout to hyperestrogenic transmascs and hyperandrogenic transfems!! Whether you want to keep your hypergonadal hormonal profile or not, you are so valid as a transfem/transmasc. You are awesome!! Never forget how much you mean to me!!!!
