tidings and mewsings of a cat-tboy (a catty boy, if you will) • Vulvar Hypospadias advocate • Exploring intersections of disability justice, intersex, and trans identities, some mewlings of being a system • neutroix hermafagdyke • one/none e/ey hy/hym kit/fae
Call me Whiskers or whatever idrc. This blog focuses on raising awareness, sharing personal experiences, and connecting with others in the intersex and ATM theory community. I love doing in depth research into topics, esp writing intersex educational essays. I am always learning. I tend to be very verbose as I'm hyperlexic, but I'm also dyslexic and dyscalculic so it's a struggle. While I am 21+, my account is not—occasional sex ed + kink discussion posts are tagged, and the latter are limited to interaction from bodily adults.
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I have read over 50 studies regarding anteriorly deflected urinary streams and vulvar/vestibulovaginal hypospadias. If you or someone you know has any questions, lmk (:
Most everything goes onto queue, tho sometimes some things skip the wait. As I have several communication disorders, it will usually take me several business days (weeks) to respond to posts because I can only manage my phone in short bursts, work full time, and am bedbound when I get home.
I use oneself, none, e/ey, hy/hym and kit/fae pronouns
Schrodigender's catoffboy. Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all. [PT: Call me a catboy or don't call me a boy at all, in bold /end PT]. I use it as an omninoun (link). I may occasionally use masc language for myself but I do not identify as a man. [PT: I do not identify as a man, in bold /end PT]. I'm not a man or a woman. Not your bro, not your sis. I am a SW and have done FSSW
I prefer not to be gendered or sexed by others at all, but I permit it sporadically from mutuals. I do not perform gender on the daily. Linaricgender and IntersexErrgender. Antanaver, obscurique, maintric, aliusmasc and ahuman. Neutroix tfemneumasc. TNC and ANC hermaphrodyke, hard femme, transfem guything. (s)t4t sapphillean tranny until I die. Transmisogynized
DNI/beware of cat:
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I write essays for fun.
Death, violent, rape threats / jokes, and suibait will not be tolerated. Neither will any form of bigotry—this means racism, ableism, sanism, classism, fatphobia, and queerphobia (including homophobia, inter+exorsexism, + forms of transphobia [transmisogyny, anti-transmasculinity, transmed / exclusionist beliefs, and transX/transID claims like “transitioning to intersex / Black / harmful / etc”]). I'm critical of TransID rhetoric and support alternative terminology. Individuals who use the belligerent language of bigots—"misandrodork," "theyfab," or "transandrobro"—will be blocked on sight. This is not a space welcoming to rad/LSD/basedqueer ideals or forms of fe/male separatism or superiority—namely MGTOW, masculinists, radfem, febfem, and perisex self-identified bæddels. Following or heavily reblogging from Plaidos (a known transphobe) or Strawberry-Crocodile (a known intersexist) forfeits the presumption of good faith due to the consistent lack of it on their accounts. Support for the Israeli government and its actions conflicts with the Land Back principles and other anti colonial values held in this space
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Individuals with BIID where their dysphoria is centered around the physical body rather than "not being disabled" are perfectly fine and welcomed here. I do not mind those with alters who understand that their body does not hold the responsibilities of enduring oppressions their marginalized alter would face (and thus will not be fully capable of understanding oppression regarding that minority), who do not describe their discomfort as being "transrace", and uplift voices of the minorities rather than speaking over ("I have a black/trans/IS/disabled alter so I get to decide what's bigoted" 👎)
More about me:
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I was UAAB and grew up as a trans girl, but now I'm growing into something else. I'm CTN and sociopolitically TMA, but don't use it as binaries (especially ones based on birth assignment "privilege") do not reflect my intersex experience, nor is oppression based solely on internal identity, but rather influenced by your material conditions and how you are perceived. I was raised a feminist and became a transfeminist before I ever came out. I believe in Transformative Justice and Community Accountability. Antigonist
I've been transitioning for over a decade as someone who is ambigonadal with a partial androgen resistance. I was part of the transgender craze seducing your daughters before Abigail Shrier even started taking notes. I've been called a bæddel since before Tumblr discovered it. I have survived and prevailed through a forced detransition. I've had more than a handful of people consider me a queer elder. I will remove you as a follower if I catch you being an ass in my notifs to someone I've responded to
I'm autistic, part of a small medically adaptive, disassociative, biconscious atrium collective, and am disabled on many levels. I use mobility aids daily and struggle to get anywhere without them due to my numerous musculoskeletal and soft tissue deformities, along with FND. I also have some disfigurements but don't consider myself Disfigured. I also have exfoliative keratolysis. Radinclu
I cannot tell you if you are intersex or not. I don't mind spam likes/reblogs, but be aware that coming back onto here to a bunch of notifs may startle me. I'm really weird abt compliments and tend to get overwhelmed. If we're mutuals and you unfollow, please soft block (blocking then immediately unblocking) me
Some posts:
Examining Sax's .018% claim (link)
No One Can Produce Both Sperm and Eggs? Think Again. (link)
Unpacking the Ethics of “Tboy Strap” (link)
Vulvar Hypospadias (link)
Problems with CAGAB’s Epistemology (link)
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender (link)
Some Tags:
#purrspectives for posts I've written or heavily added to. May occasionally contain others' posts if I completely agree w them and have no better way to convey
#transparency for criticism and #testimonials for praise
Corrective Gender-Based Violence and Coercively Controlled Gender
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Corrective Gender-Based Violence (CGBV) is a form of Gender-Based Violence (GBV) aimed at “correcting” a person’s gender expression or identity, with corrective rape operating within CGBV as an extreme form intended to punish or "fix" individuals who do not conform to perceived social norms regarding human sexuality or gender roles. Corrective rape lies at the crux of CGBV, paralleling how rape anchors the apex of the rape culture pyramid, illustrating the minor everyday social enforcement mechanisms that enable, uphold and sustain the violence.
While CGBV can affect everyone, it disproportionately affects individuals across marginalizations, particularly Marginalized Orientations, Gender Alignments, and Intersex (MOGAI) identities, also referred to as LGBTQIIA+ or, more broadly, queer individuals. It acts to uphold patriarchal gender roles through force, threat, and the weaponization of gendered expectations. For racialized individuals, CGBV is often shaped by layered forms of gender regulation: first, through culturally specific gender expectations enforced within their own communities—frequently in response to colonialism and survival under white supremacy—and second, through additional punishment for failing to conform to dominant white-coded patriarchal ideals of manhood and womanhood. These forms of correction are shaped by both racial and cultural contexts, affecting individuals differently depending on how their identities intersect with dominant patriarchal demands. The impact and expression of CGBV further vary depending on (dis)ability, class, and other intersecting social factors.
CGBV encompasses acts like threats of violence for noncompliance, for instance, if the perpetrator claims things such as "just be a man" while initiating fights against “nonconforming” individuals. For transmasculinized individuals, this is a form of malgendering, often intended to traumatize them by imposing a painful, damaging, and restrictive idea of what it means to be a man while punishing them for not meeting expectations. For transfemininized individuals, it is a form of misgendering, often functioning to belittle or delegitimize their womanhood, reinforcing the idea that they’re “really” men and deserve punishment for not meeting expectations. For non-binary individuals, it is both exorsexism and transphobia—an expectation to “pick one” or not transition at all.
For butch sapphics, it is used to frame their masculinity as an imitation of patriarchal manhood and their attraction to women as inherently manly—denying both their gender and their sexuality. For achilleans (men or masculine aligned people who are attracted to men or masculine aligned people), it often implies that masculinity must be heterosexual and emotionally restrained, casting any deviation—whether in sexuality, presentation or affection—as a failure of manhood. For disabled men, their disabilities are treated as an inadequacy that strips away their masculinity, reinforcing punitive ideas of what it means to be a man. This single phrase can be used both to Coercively Control Patriarchal Manhood (CCPM) and Coercively Control Patriarchal Womanhood (CCPW).
A Coercively Controlled Gender (CCG) is a pattern of CGBV characterized by coercive control, which is defined by the NHS (link) as a pattern of "assault, threats, humiliation and intimidation or other abuse that is used to harm, punish, or frighten their victim" into complying with a Socially Imposed Gender (SIG) (link). While CCG is not the same as Coercively Assigned Fe/Male At Birth—as the former 1) takes place during one's life rather than around infancy, and 2) is about the enforcement of gender(ed characteristics) and expression rather than the nonconsensual sex characteristic manipulation that intersex individuals face—CCG is proposed as a more accurate replacement for these terms when used by perisex trans individuals.
The conceptual problems motivating new terminology—the epistemological origins, its failures, and conceptual appropriation underlying CAFAB/CAMAB—are addressed in detail here (archive link). Tumblr post can be accessed here (link).
On your intersex enhanced flag, does that mean that intersex people like me who actively try to hide or remove certain intersex traits are like, downgraded? Like idk maybe I'm reading too much into the phrasing here or being too sensitive but this genuinely feels passive-aggressive towards a lot of intersex folks. I'm hypersensitive though so idk.
I've been looking for a term for a while now where your intersex variation makes it harder to transition to your transition goals, and like, now I'm just thinking of it like it's a downgrade. I would enhance my intersex traits if it didn't give me such horrible dysphoria.
I can understand the train of thought that leads from the word "enhanced" to concerns about "downgrades." However, I don't think it's fair to assume that a term describing one person's positive relationship with their own intersex traits is intended as a passive-aggressive judgment of people who have a different relationship with theirs, especially considering I am one of those people it is supposedly passive aggressive towards, as I am someone who has traits that do need to be modified for me to be able to comfortably enjoy life and other traits holding back my own transition.
The concept isn't about ranking intersex people; it's about rejecting the pre-existing ranking system that already treats intersex traits as inherently lesser.
Part of the point of the term is pushing back against the way intersex traits are so often framed as inherently undesirable, defective, unattractive, or something that needs to be corrected. There's a sense in which "intersex enhanced" is intentionally provocative: if society says these traits make me lesser, then my response is essentially, "fine, I'm making myself 'worse'." It's a rejection of the premise that having intersex traits is inherently a downgrade.
When I ask "does it diminish to conform to a norm?", I'm not asking whether changing your body to align with your own sense of self is diminishing. I'm questioning the assumption that moving closer to normative or culturally accepted body is automatically an improvement. Intersex individuals are expected to dislike their intersex traits and are encouraged to change them.
For other terminology, there is Octopus Intersex, tho that doesn't hit your request just right. One of sapphic-horror's terms (link) may apply to you, however I cannot think of a term specifically conveying how being intersex impedes the ability to transition
As a transmasc nonbinary person who is usually read as a very masculine cis woman because I'm not on T yet, I can tell you with full confidence that masculinity is not rewarded in everyone. I have had family members say horrible disgusting things to me and try to force me to be feminine. I've had friends who knew I was transmasc nonbinary try to force me to dress feminine for their sake. Once, I wore a tux for a friend's wedding. None of the cis men in the wedding party had to put on makeup but as the transmasc nonbinary person, not only was makeup demanded for me but it had to be feminine to offset me wearing a tux. I needed to have femininity to their standard. People treat masculinity in trans people as a threat. As a sign of evil. It can never just exist. I have been eating in a restaurant by myself quietly minding my business and had people glaring daggers into my soul because I existed as a masculine person and I knew that if there wasn't a camera they probably would've attacked me. A specific kind of masculinity is acceptable in cis men, but even then, it must be performed properly. The masculinity of trans men and transmasc people is seen as deviant and perverted. It's seen as a threat to the carefully balanced order of cisheteropatriarchy. As someone of lower status trying to reach above their station and attack their betters. It's seen as ruining innocent girls and taking away the wombs needed to incubate more babies. Refusing to accept this doesn't make it any less true; it just shows those of us with these experiences that you'd rather we die tragically as women rather than live as our vibrant trans masculine selves.
if you tell trans men to kill themselves and they get upset and your response to that is “you’re a man, you by default perpetuate the conditions that lead to my abuse, you deserve this!!!” then you clearly have no damn idea what the fuck you’re talking about or what it’s like to be a trans man
There is so much that could be said about this but I find the "lamb eaten by wolf," "you are the wolf" "be a good dog" very interesting. It's almost like they... aren't the wolf?
hey party people, I’m here to talk about my experience with transmisandry—
“you can’t call it transmisandry, misandry isn’t real and is an MRA talking point”
ok, my experience with transandrophobia—
“you’re not experiencing oppression for being a man, you’re just experiencing misogyny and transphobia (but you can’t call it transmisogyny, that doesn’t apply to you)”
ok, my experience with isomisogyny—
“you don’t experience misogyny, you’re a man, and you can’t call it your own special brand of misogyny anyways, you don’t have it worse than anyone else”
ok, my experience with anti-transmasculinity—
“transmasculinity is rewarded, as is all expressions of masculinity in this society. You’re transitioning into privilege”
ok, my experience with transandromisia—
“you don’t experience oppression, look at all these stupid words you made up to make yourself feel special you little birthday boy tMRA”
ok, how about we talk about your experience with shutting the fuck up and not taking others talking about their own oppression personally, since clearly you can’t stand hearing about us for even one second.
It pains me to inform you all that we have found @transfaguette He unfortunately has passed on. Thank you to everybody who aided us, reposted, and had conversations with us to help find him. I wish I had better news to share.
He’s at rest now.
Please take care of yourselves and each other. You are loved, you are cared for, you are so much more important than you could ever realize.
Special shoutout to hyperestrogenic transmascs and hyperandrogenic transfems!! Whether you want to keep your hypergonadal hormonal profile or not, you are so valid as a transfem/transmasc. You are awesome!! Never forget how much you mean to me!!!!
"Oh my god, you birthday boys need to learn to shut up, transandrophobia isn't real. You're NEVER silenced, you literally face no problems and are privileged. You cannot say you have any oppression-"
there's this specific grief that comes with being trans and hearing another trans person has died. because no matter how far away they were, it never feels distant, it feels communal. cellular. like someone reached into the wiring of your own body and cut a thread. trans people learn early on in their journey - often even before they begin transitioning - that survival is treated like a political statement. joy is political. transition is political. getting to exist long enough to become boring is political.
and now mourning is political, too.
i'm so sorry, murry foust. i keep thinking about how tired you must have been. how tired all of us are. how humiliating it is that even when we die alone, people still laugh and debate whether we deserved to live a happy, dignified life at all.
there are trans kids online right now learning your name – and the names of juniper blessing, lucas redbeard knapp, aleanna belcher, and davonta curtis – through grief. through fear. through that horrible, familiar ache of "that could've been me." and i hate that this is part of our inheritance from one another. not just chosen family and resilience and beauty – but memorials. vigils. apology letters to ghosts.
you deserved better. you deserved to grow old and live a happy, fulfilled life. all of us do. i promise we will keep fighting for our community to have a better future and we'll carry our lost siblings the whole way through.
