Okay watch it peeps I'm about to talk about something that might make you guys uncomfortable. I'm going to talk about identity.
I'm no expert nor will I ever pretend to be, but sometimes I want to remind people that as teenagers, you are trying to figure out who you are. That means that you're not always gonna think and believe what you think now. When you say you'll never want to have children and your parents say "oh you so funny of course you will silly child" then you both really need to take a step back. Teenagers, you can't really be sure of much now, because I'm serious when I say that we're all trying to figure out who we are and what we want. That said, parents really need to cut that shit out because there is literally no point in saying that. What if they really won't? Then that's what they want and even now they know that; even if they change their mind in the future there's still no need to be a dick about it. You're the adults, act like it.
And so maybe teenagers don't really know who they are or what they want. When I was in 8th grade I realized that I liked girls in the same way I liked guys; I assumed I was bi, because I still liked guys. A lot of people jump immediately to being a lesbian (same for guys, really). And don't contest me on that, because I know several people who have gone back and forth on that issue. My original point there is just that I still don't know nor can I know for a while, really where I stand on that. I'm pretty sure I'm bi, somewhere like a 5-6 on the Kinsey scale, but I'm not gonna pretend I know for sure. And neither can anyone else.
But my point with this wasn't to call all teenagers out. Rather, I just want to rationalize some things for people who may not have realized it yet. As teenagers, we are trying to figure out where we belong, who we are, all that jazz. We're gonna reach bumps along the way, and we're not gonna be right all the time. It's hard to equate being a scene kid or a weaboo with being trans and I am in no way saying that. But really, I just want everyone to remember that not everything that's hard and fast truth to you now will be that way in ten years.
A lot of the stuff that we teenagers do now is based on the people we identify with, and sometimes, we "identify" with people who are our friends because they are our friends, not because we are exactly alike. We'll move on in time and get new friends and sometimes a new identity. Over all of this you are learning and growing, things you didn't know before are now common knowledge and sometimes what you did two years ago sounds so stupid and innocent. Remember that now, for perspective. Two years ago I was 15 and a Freshman; I can promise you I have learned and that things I thought were true then are not true to me now.
1. Remember that as a teenager you are trying to figure out who you are, and not always is what you think when you're 17 going to be a truth when you're 27 or 37 or 47.
2. Your friends are your friends because you like talking to them and hanging out with them; you do not have to be identical to them nor do you need to change yourself for them.
3. When you make fun of a scene kid for screaming "It's not a phase mom it's who I am!" then you really need to take a step back and get some perspective.
4. Labels suck and you should really be careful about sticking one to yourself; sometimes, that becomes who you are, when really, it isn't.
And no, this wasn't directed towards anyone in particular, I just felt like ranting. Also, I'm sorry that I'm terrible at keeping my thoughts linear, that was all over the place.
