#savior syndrome

[spokinette]

PEOPLE WILL NEVER CHANGE IF THEY DON'T WANT TO

With savior syndrome for several years, I was able to see if anyone had any kind of problems going on, mostly in silent people, the ones that don't feel heard and go unnoticed hoping for someone to care about them.

I was always there, helping everyone, listening to everyone even if I didn't want to and served as a psychologist even if I never studied psychology 🫠

So I attracted a lot of broken people that needed help or just someone listening, just by existing...

And sometimes, I had to learn that some people don't want to be helped even if they let all the signs that they need it.

For exemple seeing people that really need to seek therapy and you know that they will really feel better if they do, but you can't force them to go there unless the idea comes from them and sometimes it's killing me because there's nothing you can do except suggesting them the idea but that's all.

I had to learn to accept that I can't change people, I can't heal all of them, I just can give them a bit of guidance but the final choice is not mine it's theirs.

Remember that you can't change people and more important people will never change if they don't want to.

[jotunvali02]

Hey.

Don't you think Phoenix Wright has a complete, stark lack of empathy for other people? In the earliest games, at least?

Like it's really a clinical, psychological problem? I'm sure it has a specific name.

Like he craves to save people, especially the people he likes, but he's completely oblivious that they have feelings, stories, LIVES and basic humanity too?

Like he wants to save them because he thinks that's what he HAS to do, because it's the right thing to do, but he doesn't even try to know them, to understand them!

And I think his relationship with Edgeworth is the best (or worst) example of that.

(and an amazing topic for fanfics!)

On one side, we have Phoenix with a good, strong and naively optimistic will but with a total (and unintended) lack of empathy, who thinks he's a hero or arrogantly wants to be a hero, who easily shows his vulnerability, with a heavy and truly pathological savior syndrome,

on the other side we have Miles who on the contrary have so much empathy (and even love) for people and vulnerability he HAS to hide it all behind fake coldness, toughness and arrogance all the time and who's a heavily pessimistic and depressed baby.

Omg.

The one is the complete opposite yet completion of the other.

They're each other's yin and yang.

[dosestrellasbinarias]

unironically been saying "i can fix him" everytime diego appears on the screen

[wat3rm370n]

Don't count on saviours.

Anyone depending on doctors & scientists to stand up for us be warned — we've already seen how ineffective they were at protecting the high risk from the right-wing covid deniers, things have gotten worse & now vaccines are threatened too. Let them do for themselves & stand up for your own interests!

Don't wait for everybody.

And definitely don't wait on the influencers.

[stavathejut]

It has become obvious to me

that after years of reoccurring patterns of sadness and frustration that I have Savior Syndrome. The constant need to help, help, help others while asking for virtually nothing in return has resulted in headaches, debt, and resentment. Why am I always seeking these people? It's certainly not beneficial to me financially, physically, or mentally. I need to figure something out. Love myself for a change. 

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