#screamfree

[mamamurey]

This is my read for December, it is very interesting and I am trying my hardest to pause and react less with my two children. My daughter likes to push buttons and throw shade at you. My son, doesn’t like to sleep, I’m sure he has ADHD but I am hoping it is just a phase with him and not ADHD to be honest. I have even been doing yoga to try to pause and react less. It is a very good book so far, I am in the middle of it right now and it has very good tips in it. I suggest this book for any parent that is trying to scream less. I can relate to this book in many different ways. If I had a book club of parents that would like to do this, I would love to chat with them about the book and give my thoughts on it.

[christianfamilymatters]

How to influence your kids to respect you

"If your children look up to you, you've made a success of life's biggest job." (Author unknown) End Game We all want our children to respect us. The difficulty is this: you can't MAKE someone feel respect towards you. In fact, the more you try to force that respect, the smaller you become in their eyes. And it's awfully hard to look up to small people. So, think of this. Who do you look up to and why? I'll bet that they are people who treated you with respect and through their actions and their integrity earned yours in return. A quiet calm in all of your actions will draw your children towards you and will enable you to access the best parts of yourself. Who won't respect that?

[eatrunworkplay]

"Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress." (Mahatma Gandhi) #dailypause #screamfree @screamfreeinstitute #motivation #wordsofwisdom

[tombbandy]

ScreamFree Parenting Intro.    Give your parenting a boost, and give you and your children a break!!

[christianfamilymatters]

Respecting Your Kids

Earl Woods, Tiger Woods' beloved dad, said repeatedly that the parent-child relationship is one built on respect. Most parents readily agree with that sentiment thinking primarily how kids need to respect their parents.  But Mr. Woods didn't mean it that way at all. He believed that it is our job as parents to earn the respect of our kids by how well we recognize them as individuals, as separate persons in their own right.  Individuals with not only a mind of their own, but a life of their own. Given the success of his son, as both an athlete and a man, I'd say Earl Woods was on to something.

"The sooner you treat your son as a man, the sooner he will be one." (John Dryden) 

[christianfamilymatters]

Making Mistakes

"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent doing nothing."  ~ George Bernard Shaw

Making Mistakes

Many parents find themselves petrified by possibilities. They know that the stakes are high in parenting and that the things they do and the decisions they make will have strong ramifications. Understandably, they want to know exactly what to do in every possible situation so that they don't mess up. Even if that were possible, it would make for a very heavy tool bag and a lifeless relationship.  

Do you want your kids to go through life being afraid to take chances, to follow what they believe? Certainly not. So, be an example to them in the very arena they see the most. Know what you really believe, what you really want, and then make decisions accordingly. If you approach any situation, no matter how volatile, with a calm and connected manner, you are well on your way to handling it well. And if you "mess up", just view it as an opportunity to grow some more spine and handle it in the best way possible.  Acknowledge the mistake and keep on keepin' on.

[wilko-k]

Ignorance is bliss

Dear neighbors. Since when are”playing kids” equivalent to “screaming” - and me wondering if I should phone family services. When I used to play outside as a kid and I would start to think the amount of noise we produced was a legitimate indicator of the amount of fun we were having, my mom would strongly object against those assumptions. A firm “be quiet” would set us back on the right track.

Her approach to parenting seems to have grown out of date. When I’m working in my home office (at the front of the house) I sometimes do wonder if the neighbourhood children (playing in the back of their house) are doing ok. The amount of screaming might indicate, from a layman’s perspective, they are not. There’s a wonderful book written on Screamfree Parenting, which must be popular with some houses on my street since the parents have stopped screaming and moved that trait onto their offspring. It still leaves me wonder whether they are ok, but it seems the more fun they’re having the louder it gets.

I have to admit - I don’t have any kids, except my beloved fur babies. While I seriously love hearing kids play, and have entertained and educated large groups of them in a previous life, the fact I can’t peacefully sip a glass of wine outside some days annoys me a little. How is it that others people’s life choice to not use birth control somehow becomes my problem? Luckily, in addition to wine I also love music, and my active subwoofer. Sometimes you just gotta turn the music up and ignore the world and people around you. Ignorance is bliss.

[housewifemama]

ScreamFree Parenting

I started reading ScreamFree Parenting a few days ago. I don't have time, so I'm only on chapter 3, but so far, I'm liking it. I always had a problem with handling situations in a crazy way, and I don't want to keep embarrassing myself. I've already had more than a few "crazy mom" moments here, and ever since I been paranoid at what everyone thinks of me. 

Yesterday, we were at the gym in the parent room. Long story short, my daughter kept fighting with another girl there. After many times of me and the girl's mom scolding them and telling them to play nicely, while the girl was climbing the squishy chair, my daughter moved the chair on purpose and the girl fell down and hit her head. 

I probably could have handled the situation better, but honestly, I was embarrassed by my daughter's actions, and I didn't know what else to do. I could feel the mom's eyes burning into me, and I knew if it was the other way around, I'd be pissed if another kid did that to my daughter. So, out of panic, I ended up raising my voice, in a small room I should add, and I began yelling at my daughter to say sorry and to leave the play area. In turn, my daughter started screaming and crying. It wasn't a pretty picture. I texted my husband, and he came and carried her out. It was horrifying. 

Anyways yesterday's episode is bothering me, and I can't stop thinking about it. I wish I could rewind time and handled the situation differently. 

ScreamFree Parenting is teaching me a lot, and I'm hoping to become a better parent. I don't want to have that kind of relationship with my daughter; a screaming match until someone wins. Especially in public lol