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#StaceyRudin Updated July 27, 2019 #SurvivedASmearCampaign What is a #narcissist’s Achilles heel? https://qr.ae/pNaOcA Losing control. You can find this out for yourself the second you take control away from a narcissist. You will be astonished at the underhanded cruelty they will employ in an attempt to get you back under control (or discredit you completely if control isn’t possible). If they can’t control you, they will usually try to control what others think of you. The narcissist’s extreme behavior at this stage usually reveals how disordered he really is - normal people would cringe to air their dirty laundry in public and feel very uncomfortable “taking down” a fellow human. Not the narcissist and his flying monkeys (the people he manipulates to maintain under his control and attack the victim). This is an Achilles heel for a narcissist because, depending on the behavior of the victim and the integrity of others having knowledge of the situation, his mask will start to slip. It is very difficult for him to keep his story straight, and neutral parties will definitely notice that his approach to the situation with the victim is not normal. Therefore, losing control of the victim, followed by the inevitable smear campaign and gaslighting, creates a potential for the narcissist’s mask to come off and his carefully constructed world to come crashing down. If you are a victim of a narcissist and trying to find his Achilles heel to “take him out,”... Read More Here https://qr.ae/pNaOcA #SelfAbsorption #SelfAdmiration #ENTITLEMENT #Arrogance #LackEmpathy #Envy #Insecurities #Delusional #Fabricates #ChildlikeBehavior #BobbyBuck #ACRAWLB4UWALK #A_BobbyBuck_Promo #FinancialLiteracy #WealthBuilding #OutTheBoxEconomics #2021TimeToOvercome Contact: BobbyBuck.com Thanks For Supporting!! OutTheBoxEconomics.com (at Los Angeles/Hollywood California) https://www.instagram.com/p/CIeIbm7HumR/?igshid=80s64l9ydz2n

[nyborbwerdna]

Me me me me me me me me me. Me? Me! You? . Follow @tallestontheshortbus and please support me through Patreon,link in bio. . . . . . #memes #selfabsorption #comicsofinstagram #cartoonsofinstagram #comix #instacomics #instacool #comicsofig #cartoonist #comicartist #comicmemes (at High Park) https://www.instagram.com/p/B7rHImiAkJ_/?igshid=trsu61jw2hg6

[nyborbwerdna]

This was me at about two-and-a-half years old. . Follow @nyborbwerdna and please support me through Patreon, link in bio. . . . . . #selfrealization #selfawareness #selfaware #selfabsorption #philosophy #existential #existentialism #quoteoftheday #dailyquotes #torontocomics #torontocartoonist #dailycomic #webcomic #dailydoodle #canadiancomics #reality #realitysucks #selfdiscovery #lifejourney #comicsofinstagram #cartoonsofinstagram #blackandwhite #dailymemes #comicartist #comicaccount #comicpage #comicart (at Toronto, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/B5ikt0eARc1/?igshid=1jfuqbojjxkgd

[darinboville]

This used to be rare. Now it is daily. Woman at coffee shop having a business phone meeting, very loudly, right next to me. Thank god I had my headphones with me. #coffeeshop #peets #rudeness #selfabsorption. https://www.instagram.com/p/BwvLkASFgD7/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=91adkbdcv5az

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My World vs. Yours

“To them it’s their world.” – Dr Bertus de Villiers

In the self-absorbed society we live in, it’s easy to forget how caught up we are in our own world. It’s easy to deny the feelings of others as inconvenient or irrelevant because we’re too busy worried about the perception of ourselves, resulting in a lack of empathy and an inability to cooperate (1). Everyone assumes it’s a Millennial issue, but I’m not sure about that. I mean, we had to learn it from someone didn’t we? Our Baby Boomer and Gen X parents wanted to improve our chance of success, instilling in us a greater sense of self-esteem (2). So next time they complain, just tell them they brought it on themselves. 

My greater sense of self-esteem isn’t the only way I learnt self-absorption. When my parents fought, with each other or with me, they only ever cared about their world. Their argument. Their resolution. So, in a way, the self-absorption that I exhibit models their arguments. When I argue, I never want to budge from my own position. I’m too self-absorbed in my opinion and my resolution that nothing else matters. I do think however, that I’ve learnt from my parents’ mistakes. This is not to say that I’m not self-absorbed because in the end we all suffer a little from that. But it is to say that maybe I’m not as self-absorbed as my parents were. I taught myself to be neutral and trained myself to see things from different perspectives. You’d be surprised, how easy it is. You’d also be surprised at how much more work I still must do to master the ability to see and understand other perspectives. 

Conflict makes us forget about perspectives. The anger, the betrayal, all of it blinds us. This self-absorption is the thing preventing us from seeing other points of view. We don’t want to know their world, because at that moment, it’s only our world that matters. It’s only what we want that matters. Similarly, it’s easy to dismiss the anger and betrayal of others as nothing because only our world matters. But here’s the thing. To them it is their world. Conflicts that seem ridiculous or unreasonable are what the universe of the other person hinges on. It’s easy to laugh and ridicule someone else because they’ve taken a slight way out of proportion, but we’re all guilty of that. 

When my father died, my world didn’t matter. I put my grief on hold while I tried to save my sisters from themselves and watched the woman who was supposed to love my father tarnish his name. My father was her world. In her world, only her grief mattered. In her world, contesting his will matters to her. And if I’m to practice what I preach then I guess I must accept that. Even though my entire being despises every single piece of her and the mockery she made of grief.  I just wish she would take the time to understand my world. My perspective. 

Maybe if she did, it wouldn’t be so easy to hate her. 

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(1) Ronald E Riggio, ‘Are We All Becoming More Self-Centred?’ Psychology Today (online) 27 July 2017 <https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201707/are-we-all-becoming-more-self-centered>.

(2) Joel Stein, ‘Millennials: The Me Me Me Generation’ TIME (online) 9 May 2013 <http://time.com/247/millennials-the-me-me-me-generation/>.

[awantedmag]

Andy Warhol @thewhitneymuseumofamericanart #selfportrait #selfpromotion #selfabsorption #selflove #originalselfie #popart #kingofselfpromotion #AndyWarhol #socialmediapioneer #3in1 #supportthearts #NewYorkCity #currentexhibition (at Whitney Museum of American Art) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bqxb8_Lgr62/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=eqojrv8mygo5

[jonathantrapman]

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