#selfdiscovery

[abn-iiblis-666]

"The black art is not that of devil worship, but of hidden knowledge. The key to this lies in the depths of the subconscious, the will to explore and suggest, to destroy and create." -Book of the Witch Moon

[relatablejoe]

 Think about this — every person you’ve met keeps a version of you in their mind. None of those versions are the full, private you. When you accept that, it’s liberating. You get to define yourself from inside, not from the impressions others hold. Share if this resonates and tag someone who needs to hear it. 🩷

[glowettee]

emily fields and the myth of the "nice girl" + complete bundle

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it’s always the quiet ones.

emily fields was never the loudest in the room, she didn’t need to be. she was the one who knew exactly how to blend in while everyone around her self-destructed in plain sight. she moved like water, flowed around conflict, let people project what they wanted onto her. she kept secrets. she held space. she smiled when it hurt. and no one really asked how heavy it all was.

✧ the ‘nice girl’ isn’t always nice, she’s just scared

let’s start here: performative softness is not kindness, it’s self-preservation. most of us didn’t become the nice girl because it’s who we really are. we became her because we had to.

maybe you were parentified. maybe you were the middle child. maybe your household was high-stakes, and keeping the peace felt like the only way to stay safe. maybe you learned early on that if you were polite, agreeable, and helpful, you wouldn’t be left out or punished or abandoned. you were never rewarded for speaking up, so you stopped.

emily’s storyline is full of moments like that. remember how many times she was guilted into loyalty? how many secrets she kept for other people’s comfort? how her own desires got buried under what other people needed her to be?

girlhood teaches us to be mirrors for everyone else. but being a mirror means no one really sees you.

✧ how to stop shrinking: the nice girl detox plan

okay, soft girl. here’s how we deprogram the performance:

🕯️ 1. audit your people-pleasing patterns

go through your day and ask: how many of my choices are made out of obligation? → did i say yes because i meant it or because i didn’t want to upset someone? → did i compliment them because i meant it or because i felt awkward? → did i shrink myself so they could shine?

you can’t change a pattern you don’t recognize. naming it is step one.

🕯️ 2. start disappointing people on purpose

this sounds dramatic, but it’s necessary. begin small. cancel plans. say no. don’t explain. don’t cushion. practice letting people be a little upset.

you don’t owe anyone a version of yourself that’s emotionally exhausting to maintain. the real ones will adjust. the fake ones will fade. both outcomes are gifts.

🕯️ 3. reclaim your anger

emily had quiet rage. and so do you. it’s time to honor it. being “nice” for too long makes you numb, and numb girls don’t glow. you need to feel the anger. write it out. scream into your pillow. lift heavy weights. listen to music that makes you feel like the main villain. anger isn’t evil, it’s clarity.

→ rage reminds you of what you deserve.

🕯️ 4. romanticize boundaries

make them beautiful. → “i don’t do last-minute favors.” → “i’m not available for gossip.” → “i’m prioritizing myself this weekend.” boundaries aren’t walls. they’re doors you control. if you’ve been too nice, boundaries will feel mean at first. they’re not. they’re just new.

✧ softness doesn’t mean self-sacrifice

emily’s biggest heartbreaks came when she gave too much to people who didn’t give back. sound familiar?

we’ve glamorized being the selfless girl, the empathetic one, the ride or die. but when you’re always the one giving, comforting, understanding, you disappear.

the “nice girl” is often lonely. exhausted. craving someone to finally ask how she’s doing. if this is you, know that your softness is sacred... but it needs protection. being kind shouldn’t cost you your peace.

✧ the new softness

instead of being nice, be mysterious. instead of being sweet, be selective. instead of saying yes, say “i’ll think about it.”

you don’t need to explain yourself.

🕯️ glowettee’s new girl code: → soft girls are allowed to be strategic → kind girls are allowed to be assertive → helpful girls are allowed to stop helping → good girls are allowed to get angry

✧ your new routine

create a lifestyle that supports your unlearning, these are things i actually do as a certified-ex-people-pleaser:

🗝️ morning rituals: → tarot pulls + emotional check-ins (if you don't believe in tarot, try affirmation cards <3) → voice memo journaling: “what am i holding back today?” → setting your three sacred no’s for the day

🗝️ aesthetic habits: → muted lipstick, claw clips, satin robes → walks in nature without music → pinning eerie feminine fashion on pinterest

🗝️ glow-up goals: → therapy to unpack your good girl origin story → learn to say “let me get back to you” → start a private blog to tell your real thoughts

✧ soft girls can bite back

emily fields was never weak. she swam every morning. she held her ground in interrogation rooms. she loved hard. she took hits and kept going. she had the kind of strength that’s underestimated. and that’s what makes it lethal.

you don’t need to be loud to be powerful. you don’t need to be rude to be respected. you don’t need to be a “girlboss” to set boundaries. you’re allowed to be soft and sharp. delicate and dangerous. pretty and protective of your energy.

you don’t owe softness to anyone who hasn’t earned it.

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mindy’s final tip: if you’ve ever felt like being nice was your only power. reclaim your fire. you’re not mean for choosing yourself. you’re not selfish for having limits. you’re not “too much” for being done with pretending.

a brand new notion template, made by me, specifically for people pleasers!!:

🕯 a printable “soft girl sabotage” worksheet to decode your trauma-coded softness 🃏 a Notion tarot spread called “the soft girl spellbreaker,” where each card reveals a layer of your hidden power 📓 guided journaling altar to help you make a ritual out of self-reclamation 🎧 playlist to set the vibe 🖤 dark coquette, eeriecore, soft psychology aesthetic throughout

🖤

🕯 repost if you’re done being nice.

[moonshadowmystique]

The Right Person at the Wrong Time - A Reflection on Timing and Connection

All our lives, we have heard stories that involve the right person turning up at the wrong time. This concept is jarringly alarming because it layer-peels the facade of finding the right individual in regard to love, connection, or relationship. This indicates, if explained better, that two people fitting for each other might fail to emerge when the various elements of life are against their coming together.

What does it even mean to meet the right person at the wrong time?

The Complexity in Timing

Timing is an invisible force that shapes the connections we make, often in ways of which we are barely aware. You might meet your dream person, that person who checks all the boxes or sees the world through a filter instituted by your soul. But with you not being emotionally available, probably still recovering from injuries of the past, or perhaps in the middle of some personal crisis, such connection might just not blossom. On the other hand, it could be them who is dealing with troubles at this stage, which means they cannot also be fully present.

This is extra challenging because, by nature of things, there is tension between what we feel and what reality presents. There is almost something tragic in the beauty of having found someone incredible but at the wrong time. You're forced, then, to think that love and connection are about more than logical matches, but two lives crossing at a certain point where access and readiness are aligned.

The 'What If' Paradox

That is the question that will haunt when the right person shows up at the wrong time: What if things were different? It's such a haunting thought, and then you are left to wonder how, in some other world, maybe it would have worked between the two of you. You have a vision of how this might have been the case with another chapter of your life. You could run yourself into sleepless nights with 'what ifs' and yearn for something that may never be resolved.

But harboring such questions in one's mind forever would render living in the present light of day an impossibility. It is very human to reflect on the paths not taken, but living in the country of 'what ifs' blinds you to the new opportunities staring you in the face.

Growth, Timing, and Readiness

It might be that meeting the right person at the wrong time sometimes serves a great purpose. Sometimes such experiences will teach us more about ourselves, or perhaps are a reflection of where we need to grow or what we need to let go of to be truly ready for a meaningful connection in the future. Other times, the person you meet is but a mirror reflecting the work yet to be done on yourself.

That person may remind you that deep love is deserved by you, even if at the time that is not fated to be with them. They may provide a catalyzing agent that impels you to align your life through means that serve to better prepare you in the future for a relationship be it with them or someone else.

Embracing Imperfection

One of the most painful things we may learn is that imperfection meets us around every corner in life, and love is no different. Yes, even when we think we have found that person who fits every category on our ostensibly perfect list, it's not as if the universe necessarily plays a role in ensuring that all that lines up. That's just part of the mystery—and frustration—of being human.

But perhaps, other than cruel fate, that is the profound message: love is not about everything working out perfectly. It means the understanding that connections, no matter the depth, sometimes do not come out with fairy tales. It is about embracing the will-o'-the-wisps, beautiful moments for what they are and not necessarily needing them to last.

Moving Forward with Ease

So, what happens when you are in this situation? There isn't some simple answer to this proposition, nor is a one-size-fits-all solution for anything. Some can hold onto the hope that one day, in the future, the timing shall be right and the stars align. While others let go, realizing that even while a connection was powerful, yet it simply wasn't meant to be a permanent fixture in our lives.

Both are correct. The key is to move with elegance. Life, with all the moments of its unpredictability, is a journey that's really full of twists and turns. That person at the wrong time could have been one chapter in your story, but it need not define the whole narrative. Every experience in life adds to your growth, even the bittersweet ones.

Ultimately, the concept of meeting the right person at the wrong time invites us to consider what love, timing, and self-awareness are all about. It reminds us that not everything is about chemistry but about being prepared—about two people meeting at the crossroads of their journeys in life, ready to take that step together. And sometimes, such journeys are meant to meet only briefly, leaving an indelible mark but no permanent union. In those moments, we can only respectfully acknowledge the bond for what it was and know that each interaction—every human contact—is a part of our development and continues to shape us into who we are and who we will become.

[sayariastrology]

First Quarter Moon in Taurus: Pick-an-image Tarot Reading

Take a deep breath, tune in to this moment, and use your intuition to choose an image. If you're drawn to more than one, that's okay too. Take what you need, leave the rest...

Pile 1

You recently received the truth about a matter involving a lover or a friend. This new information has you weighing your options. It has left you feeling disappointed and potentially disillusioned about the entire situation. A third party, such as a family member, a financial matter, or even physical distance, is involved. This has shifted the energy between you and your person; it’s now the elephant in the room. Serious grief and sorrow are lingering here. This third party seems to be a trauma connection. Your presence serves as the light at the end of the tunnel. The connection that carries the promise of hope, the dream of what could be, the one that would be nice. It’s still too ambitious. You’re being nudged to use your better judgment here. Let it burn. You have to let this shatter, along with everything else built on expired prayers. Let it go so the Universe can send you something you can actually work with, something refined, a passionate connection of the highest quality. Look to the next full moon in Leo.

Oracle message: "He held radical light as music in his skull: music."

— A.R. Ammons

Pile 2

You’re searching for clarity around what will bring you true happiness, what will be both emotionally fulfilling and validating or affirming. You might be saying one thing but doing another because you’re confused about what you want. The traditional path may not look too appealing. If you’ve followed it until now, there is a yearning to veer off the trusted course, but you’re trying to do so justly and rationally. Consult your higher self and lead with compassion and sensitivity amidst this inner or outer conflict. It may be time to seek structured guidance. Someone objective and knowledgeable can offer assistance. The month of May is significant here. You may have taken a short trip and met this person then. If so, it’s time to contact them now. If you haven’t met them yet, between March and May, you could receive an opportunity to travel somewhere, and you should accept it. Not only will it lift your spirits, but you’ll also receive valuable information that will improve your situation. If you’re looking for work, focus on ways to be of service that allow you to express your creativity, innate gifts, and sensitive side. You may enjoy teaching art or music. You could even be persuaded to join a band.

Oracle message: "The woods are lovely, dark and deep. But I have promises to keep." — Robert Frost

Pile 3

You’re trying to figure out how to make lemonade from lemons. There is an answer you are waiting for, a creative solution to a current problem you’re facing. This could pertain to something you love and greatly desire at the moment. However, there is a gatekeeper. This person is short and dry; you can squeeze, but you won’t get much out of them. To make matters worse, you may have already left a sour taste in their mouth. It feels like the answer is increasingly delayed, and you are losing patience. This could involve a bureaucratic process, approval from a boss, or a parental figure with decision-making power. It could also pertain to being stonewalled by someone close to you. You’re advised to go to someone else who is also in a position of power, but lower in command, a more feminine energy. If that doesn’t pertain to your situation, embody these feminine qualities in your approach. If you come correct, pride aside, you can get this person to move a mountain for you. They can provide the right signature or whatever you need, as long as you take initiative and show enthusiasm while remaining humble.

Oracle message: "The roses in the gypsy’s window in a blue vase, look real, as unreal." — Denise Levertov

[jaggedjawjosh]

Self-Reflection and Awareness Journal Unlock the door to your inner world with the 'Self-Reflection and Awareness Journal.' 🌿✨ Perfect for writers, poets, and mindful creatives, this 100-day journey invites you to pause, breathe, and explore the depths of your soul, one page at a time. Embrace the beauty of self-discovery as you cultivate gratitude, nurture emotional awareness, and set your intentions for personal growth. Let each page be a canvas for your thoughts, guiding you toward a more mindful and fulfilling life. Self-Reflection and Awareness Journal

[sara32xsblog]

‏وكان في أفق غير أفقهم وبينهم كل تلك الحُجُب

[little-tiffany]

Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about un-becoming everything that isn't really you.

-Paulo Coelho