Living In Your Truth: Infinity & Beyond
Wowsers, this totally sounds like a giant to an ant just the words alone in big bold letters “LIVING IN YOUR TRUTH” just the caps alone, makes you want to ask, “who me”? HAHA. If not thought about and just living through action it can be done with ease and then again if you want to get philosophical chasing the bunny down the hole, how far?
Decisions, decisions if you think that you get confused when you want to choose just one ice cream from 30 flavors, try standing in the aisle looking at 20 ketchups to choose one? HAHA. Life can get real dot com no computer when it comes to decisions in life. How about thinking am I making the right decision, but the outcome is wrong, trusting your own decisions. How reliable can you depend on you?
If there was anything to share from one real being to the next passing the baton to run this race, living in one’s truth, now my opinion doesn’t cash checks, but decisions give biofeedback in whether one is staying true to themselves or not.
Saying yes, when you meant no, listening to your gut, suppressing emotions, not sharing how you really feel. There are levels to oneself like layers to an onion it’s so good for the body, but it can make you cry, un-shedding the layers from within when coming from the shadows to the light, such relief it can be.
When a family member asks you to do something and you already made plans, how would you go about it? Do you run and drop everything, risking you own needs being met? Or are you able to allow self-compassion for yourself to refuse in that moment, without rescheduling?
Your boss asks you to stay an hour later than what you are scheduled, and you can answer yes or no, they just wanted to know if you wanted to make extra money. Even though you anticipated getting on the bus and going home to relax bus doesn’t run at that hour and you will have to call for a cab? Welp, do you stay or go? Do you say yes, or no? Sounds like the hit to a song, there is literally a song for every feeling and emotion.
Small steps do lead to the bigger picture, but I would have to say please don’t make all the mistakes on your own learn from me. I will pass the fruit of knowledge; small decisions may seem minuet but the add up. Each action either brings you closer to you living in your truth or away.
Honestly there is no rule book and when it comes to life. The experience saying goes, use the steppingstones from the past to use as steps moving forward. Since you don’t have to make all the mistakes on your own, I am willing to share:
1. What does it mean to live in your truth?
Wanting to fit it, throws you off track from connection with thy true self when wanting to be liked. Life is so much more than social norms and family. Exploring traits could start with your horoscope, see how your horoscope compares or contrast to your being; we all have a unique set of traits that changes, energy; along with age and time. Perceptions can shape one’s reality. Say what you mean and mean what you say brings light to when being asked something if wanting to say no, say it creating resentment, there is no need. You may feel ignored by the external environment and let it discourage who you really are or want to be deep down. Rejection doesn’t feel good but at least it wasn’t a lie. Reconnecting self-awareness it can be helpful to start how conditioned one is to live by society’s truth and not your own.
2. It’s Challenging to Live in One’s Truth
Society has rules of social conditioning on all levels from the macro to the micro systems to family and communities. Some rules are formally defined, like the law and others are discreet. Almost like office rules, there are ethics written down to follow, there is also the unspoken rules of the norm of the institutions/agency everyone just “knows”. Rules are necessary for the collective to function knowing universally the function and prevention outcome. There nothing wrong with rules it’s a pro. The con social conditioning hinders the connection of freedom of expression with thyself without adding benefit to the collective.
Also, from one generation to the next is like playing telephone with no cord adding to another layer social conditioning within the family dynamics can turn into generational curses, slippery slope of no balance that is a whole other tea party. Especially when it comes to the saying “but we always done it this way” when it comes to relationships, respect, who to trust, who to fear; these scenarios can interfere with perception creating reality that can lead to a disconnection with self than a connection within.
Following society’s norms before your own inner guidance you could more likely focus on the material gain that the feeling self-fulfillment. Validation from others you want totally okay we are human in tribes’ approval was essential to survival but being absorbed in seeking validation from others will put an anchor on your ankle to nowhere. Nowadays, if feeling like one is not kept in the “loop” of what is happening one can feel out of place with thought of thinking one is “not enough” or “too much” or just not suited for life.
It's a thin line between love and hate when it comes to social conditioning if not aware in a sense giving that it can give an adrenaline rush, could it be addicting? In some cases, research does suggest with cell phone usage and the use as a collective; there are pros and there are cons. Conditioning also starts from early childhood, overriding old thought processes to growth will take practice when beliefs start to align with personal values rather than conditioning.
Encouraging beliefs such as realizing that you are already enough, believing in you and your own capabilities no matter the naysayers, see life as happening for you rather than happening to you. What wolf spirit are you feeding the ego or the soul?
3. Continuous Journey to Alignment
Maslow’s theory and development for each stage needs must be met before elevating. The first level is food, shelter, water. Lower-level needs must be met first before a person can even focus on higher level growth needs. The first three stages focusing on the hierarchy of needs Reaching all the way up to self-actualization. Direction in the hierarchy of needs the stages isn’t linear, guarantee that moving back and forth- adding subtracting what you want and do not is going to feel like you’re on a boat with no paddle waiting for the wind for direction. Trust your sail. Embracing your own soul song takes time to explore. Sometimes one can be guided by the soul then again from ego, to on the other hand personal values or by social conditioning. How can one trust themselves? What can be explored? What is the difference between your values and society values?
4. Difference Between Personal & Social Conditioning
What are you being driven by the soul or the ego? Tricky yes it can get with no treats well maybe the treat in knowing that you trust yourself. Yes, it may be a whole job and worth it. Uncomfortable is it because you are suppressing how you truly feel and being driven by social conditioning? Or is the soul meeting the ego and the feeling is scary of the unknown? Signs of discomfort and resistance can be validation that you are on the right track, when doing the opposite, the more scared you are that’s when you know you must go for it. Going outside the comfort zone and it may not be for everyone and that is the best part about being an individual but when you can’t sleep and it is always on your mind, what do you have to lose, you fail when you do not even try.
Not sure where your thoughts, beliefs and assumptions are coming from, time for a self-check. I feel just like the seasons change so do we as beings are allowed to anyways to change out mind at any time with no harm done to none. Whatever noticed from your self-assessment, judge yourself not. Your only job is you and learning how you work. Living in your truth is not something to force and sure can’t pretend that path of truth. Be the observer of your own truth.
Changing a fixed mindset to a growth mindset from “I have to” vs. “I choose to”. There is power in choice to always remember. Sometimes without even thinking we give that power away through decisions even when thought to be small remember they add up. To feel like you must do something feel like a chore rather a choice. Yes, life and its tasks can be lengthy, adulting can get boring and the outcome you don’t have to do anything. Would you look at that, not a thing. Therefore, if it didn’t get done it’s because you didn’t do it.
Making decisions starting from your values changes the dynamic and delivery of your choices to keep you feeling empowered. Ego starts to meet the soul when you are more concerned with what the experience must teach you rather than what can you get out of it. Challenges when they arise, the feeling of nervous and excitement surface than feelings of timid and anxiety. It’s like a gaslight that clicks on for gas running low, but the check engine is needed for the mind. Self-check in should be taken into more consideration asking oneself: what is my truth in this moment?
C.Y.P. Change Your Perspective and Chat
Living your truth doesn’t not have to be a statistics question. Aligning the ego with the soul takes patience, experience and understanding to know you do not have to make all the mistakes on your own you can learn from other people. As the walls of conditioning begin to crumble, please be mindful the process if about being rather than doing. This chat made my tea cold. Until we C.Y.P. again. Stay healthy. Keep walking in love.
