#selfbecoming

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If it helps on reconciling what Sounds and Feels weird about RSD, I don't read or hear many real clinicians discussing it outside specific Pop Psych resources because... everything about it is covered by Emotional Dysregulation, a widespread neurodivergence symptom. Resources on *that* tend to offer a lot more practical coping help, and feel a lot less like it's telling you you're cursed to sad snowflake disorder and fawning. Mileage, of course, may vary.

That does help a great deal actually, not even mainly because it reframes it conceptually away from Sensitive Snowflake Disease (which RSD isn’t! I know that! I just suck at internalizing it when it’s me!). I know at least a little about emotional dysregulation already from having an Autistic brother, so there’s that, but also that hooks the RSD aspect into a much larger struggle I have with negative emotions and depression. 

One of the reasons I often don’t consume new media until it’s old media with spoilers and plot summaries, and certainly one of the reasons I’ve had a hard no on apocalyptic/dystopian media for over a decade, is that I have no off switch for Sad. You know how people talk about listening to a sad song and having a cry and “getting it all out”? That’s not something I experience. If I’m sad about something, I’m sad about it for a really long time and it impacts my quality of life. Same with anger, and humiliation. I pretty well know what will cause those emotions at this point, at least most of the time, so I can minimize exposure, but I’ve never had great success with resolution -- I’m able to think “I don’t want to feel this anymore” but not able to do much about it. But if that’s tied into a biological inability to properly regulate emotion, then at least I have some new angles of attack on how to solve the problem, instead of just avoidance and repression. 

To be clear, I am not blaming things I say or do on emotional dysregulation; I’m a whole grown man and I take responsibility for my actions. But it’s a relief to know that this is at least in part chemical, not a flaw of personality. Something new to research, anyway, and I think it’s probably easier to separate the wheat from the chaff researching emotional dysregulation than RSD. 

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When You Stop Chasing and Start Becoming: Inner Alignment with Reform with Afsana

Much of modern life is built around chasing—chasing success, approval, happiness, healing, and even self-growth. From a young age, we are taught that fulfillment lives somewhere ahead of us, just out of reach. So we keep moving, striving, and pushing, often without stopping to ask what we are actually running toward. When You Stop Chasing and Start Becoming is an invitation to step out of this endless pursuit and return to inner alignment through Reform with Afsana.

Chasing creates movement, but not always direction. It keeps us externally focused, measuring ourselves against timelines, standards, and expectations that may not be ours. Reform with Afsana gently challenges this pattern by reminding us that true growth is not about reaching a destination—it is about becoming aligned with who you already are at your core. Alignment doesn’t demand speed; it requires awareness.

Through Reform with Afsana, inner alignment begins with honesty. When you stop chasing, you start noticing what feels authentic and what feels forced. Many people stay in constant motion because slowing down would require facing uncomfortable truths. But becoming cannot happen in avoidance. Reform with Afsana creates space to observe your inner world without judgment, allowing clarity to emerge naturally.

One of the most liberating shifts taught by Reform with Afsana is the move from external validation to internal grounding. Chasing often comes from a belief that something outside of us will finally make us feel complete. But inner alignment asks a different question: What feels true for me right now? When your actions are guided by this question, life begins to feel more coherent, even if it looks simpler from the outside.

On platforms like Tumblr, where depth, emotion, and reflection are valued, this message resonates strongly. Many readers are quietly questioning the hustle narrative and longing for meaning over momentum. Reform with Afsana speaks to this inner shift, validating the desire to live consciously rather than perform constantly.

Becoming is a quieter process than chasing. It involves shedding identities that were built to please others and reconnecting with your values. Reform with Afsana emphasizes that this process takes patience. Inner alignment is not something you force; it unfolds as you listen, reflect, and respond to yourself with integrity.

When you are aligned, decisions feel less chaotic. You stop overthinking every step because your choices come from clarity rather than fear. Reform with Afsana views alignment as a state where your inner values and outer actions are in conversation with each other. This doesn’t mean life becomes easy—it means it becomes honest.

Another important aspect of Reform with Afsana is the understanding that becoming is ongoing. There is no final version of yourself to arrive at. Inner alignment shifts as you grow, learn, and evolve. The goal is not perfection but presence. When you are present with yourself, you naturally adjust in ways that support your well-being.

Stopping the chase does not mean giving up ambition. It means redefining success. Reform with Afsana encourages success that feels sustainable, meaningful, and emotionally grounded. You still move forward—but from intention rather than pressure.

When You Stop Chasing and Start Becoming is a reminder that you don’t need to run toward yourself. Everything you are becoming is shaped in moments of awareness, stillness, and conscious choice. Through Reform with Afsana, inner alignment becomes a way of living—one rooted in truth, balance, and self-respect.

If you feel tired of chasing and ready to live with deeper intention, trust that readiness. Becoming begins the moment you choose alignment over urgency. With Reform with Afsana, that choice becomes the foundation for a more authentic and fulfilling life.

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Don’t imagine fights have them. Don’t hide at the back of the den Whilst the lion roars And someone’s out there baiting him Invite then to join, let them in To see your lions size deal And offer a meal To it or them In that den But whatever you do walk out of there.

Joanna Simms