#sensory problems

[your-local-chaos-opossum]

Y'all ever get one of those days where just the feeling of your clothes moving on your body makes you want to file an HR complaint with God. This feels like a fucking hate crime.

WHY CAN'T I FIND COMFORTABLE UNDERWEAR

[marbledlights]

I hate when food tastes good but the texture is weird. Im so sorry my brain betrayed you

[prince-of-goths]

*bloodied, bruised, and breathing heavily*

I just brushed my teeth

[blizzyblitz]

The feeling of lotion genuinely makes me wanna cry and/or crawl out of my skin

[this-is-physi-sensory-ableism]

Sensory ableism is:

Explanation first

Cold water (/ water in general, especially running water) physically sends pain signals through my brain so I tend to avoid water when I can (it feels similar to a wire brush being run lightly across your skin when cold {not a pleasant thing, please don't do it, you might cut yourself [probably not but still, messes up your skin]} and it feels like my skin is melting off at other times {especially when hot})

Cut to the ableism

My mother always complaining about no one else doing the dishes (specifically as a way to guilt us because she always asks indirectly like that) while actively refusing to let anyone else do it (or washing it again after) and refusing when I explicitly ask to be taught how to do it because me needing rubber gloves was "too much work/hassle"

For clarification, she won't teach me because water on my bare skin is painful and so I wouldn't clean the dishes good enough but she also says that dish gloves are too much of a hassle that "at that point I might as well just do them myself"

Also for addition clarification, I do most of any kind of helping after being taught how.

My sister is supposed to (also) take out the trash, I haven't seen her do it once since I learned how, if I don't do it then it usually gets to the "overflowing" point which is what made me ask to be taught how to do it because I absolutely hate it.

I am basically now the only one who helps my mother puts stuff up or bring stuff into the house (dishes, groceries/etc) and some more things.

I do all of this specifically because if I don't then no one will do it until my mother is forced to do it and then she blows up at some random point about how she's the only one doing anything around here (she still does that to be clear) and I know that she knows that no one else will do anything to help. Not even her husband (I hate him, he's asked to take the trash out to the road like once a week and that's about it and he still complains {nonverbal body language mostly} about that)

You say you want help by passive aggressively saying out loud how much you hate dishes and how no one will do them, knowing full well that the only person who will offer to help has problems with water that could be easily mitigated by gloves but refusing the help because the gloves are too much work and continue to be passive aggressive about how no one well help you

Slightly sorry this turned into a rant/ramble and if you don't want to post it you don't have to. I thought this would fit here though and my brain just kicks the word box until it stops spitting out words so you get a ramble

This is physi-sensory ableism and emotional child abuse. You shouldn't be getting yelled at for not doing a task that causes you distress. You're already helping around the house in ways that you can, and you could literally do the dishes if she just did the simple act of getting you gloves.

[this-is-physi-sensory-ableism]

this is physisensory ableism: i experience sound as often violating physical sensations. i still don't understand what exactly my ex-neighbor had against me, but he purposefully tortured me once he figured out my triggers, making loud noises that he knew would cause loud autistic meltdowns, which he could then report to the landlord. the landlord, in turn, simply outright refused to read MY reports of HIS noise and gave me an eviction notice. i know this because, once the eviction notice was served, his loud noises (which were, by the way, louder and hourly, as opposed to my uncontrollable reactions). apparently, for reasons still unknown to me, i deserve to be outright tortured and then have my shelter revoked as punishment for it.

This is physisensory ableism.

God, fuck that neighbor, and fuck that landlord too. What cruel people. Sensory sensitivities deserve to be treated with seriousness, they are not a joke, they can cause genuine physical or psychological distress.

-Tom (he/him)

[plague-memoria]

kinda wanna try chia seed pudding but i also dont wanna waste money buying ingredients for a recipe and then end up finding the texture revolting or something ghsjdjdjjd it looks so good but im autistic and it could go horribly wrong lmao

[decadentqueentidalwave]

Tags in clothing are ableist. They are almost always harder than the clothes fabric, they itch, and they are very difficult to remove. (If you just use scissors, the leftover end itches you worse.)

I used to remove them with my thread pick, but the newer tags are sewn in such a way that I can’t do that anymore. The ones that get sewn into the seam are the worst.

It is important to correctly label clothing, and the washing instructions are nice, but they need to be easily removable.