A blog centered around spreading awareness of the discrimination faced by those with physical disabilities, sensory disabilities, or disabilities that cause physical symptoms! Please also check out our blog @this-is-neuropsych-ableism!
Don't talk about disability aids like they're a tragedy [link]
Glasses are disability aids [link]
It is not inspiring for people reliant on disability aids to torture themselves [link]
Include gastrointestinal, urogenital, reproductive, and sexual disabilities in your activism [link]
Who owns this blog?
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Hi hi! Our names are Star (she/her), Marco (he/she), and Tom (he/him) We are three members of @dhddmods system!
When we write a post, we will be signing off based on which of us wrote it. If a post is signed off as "-Stomco", it means it was written by all three of us.
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You may have also seen our headmates Arwen, Ally, Gwen, and Wendy over on the @inclusive-youth-liberation account! Check them out, too!
Other important activism blogs can be found here! [link.]
Who is this blog for?
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This blog is for anyone with physical disabilities, sensory disabilities, or conditions that cause physical symptoms (ie; anxiety that causes gastrointestinal issues) to submit their experiences with ableism.
Some examples of what this blog includes:
-Paralysis
-Seizures with physical manifestations
-Movement disorders
-Musculoskeletal disabilities
-Limb disabilities
-Deformities/disfigurements
-Skin and hair conditions
-Sensory processing disorders
-Synaesthesias
-Visual disabilities
-Hearing disabilities
-Olfactory (smelling) disabilities
-Gustatory (tasting) disabilities
-Eating/feeding disorders
-Oral disabilities
-Voice disorders as result of physical damage or physical differences
-Headache disorders
-Physical sleep disorders
-Chronic fatigue
-Chronic illnesses
-Cardiovascular & blood disabilities
-Respiratory disabilities
-Nutritional disabilities
-Gastrointestinal disabilities
-Endocrine & metabolic disabilities
-Immune disorders
-Genital & reproductive disabilities
-Mental disabilities that cause physical/sensory symptoms
And more!
Migraines, amputations, GERD, alopecia, infertility, erectile dysfunction, blindness, dyspraxia, sensory sensitivity, etc, etc, etc - it's all treated equally here! If it's a disability that has a physical or sensory symptoms, then that's all that matters.
Am I welcome here?
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This blog is safe for people of any religious and spiritual practices, so long as said practices aren't used to excuse bigoted behavior.
This blog is safe for people of all races and ethnic backgrounds.
This blog is safe for people of any weight or body type, and does not tolerate body shaming.
This blog is safe for people with physical/sensory disabilities and neurodivergence of any kind (including cluster b personality disorders, behavioral disorders, paraphilic disorders, addictive/dependent disorders, etc.)
This blog is safe for non-disordered systems/plurals, non-dissociative systems/plurals, and endogenic systems/plurals.
This blog is safe for alterhumans.
This blog is obviously safe for "contradictory" labels (ie; transfems AFAB, transmascs AMAB, lesboys, turigirls, etc.) Being against these identities is deeply exorsexist, intersexist, and pluralphobic at its core.
Over 100 million children are homeless and/or on the streets.
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That's the numbers estimated back in 2015, and regardless of whether they've grown or shrunk since then, the issue still remains that there are MILLIONS of minors on the streets.
Homelessness and street survival is an intersecting issue for people of all marginalized groups, and that includes the youth.
Homeless youth are very likely to be sex trafficked and targeted by dangerous people to be groomed into criminal activities or otherwise unsafe practices.
Many homeless youth are runaways, usually trying to escape abusive households.
Note for clarity: "Children" and "kids" throughout this post will be referring to teenagers as well, since minors of all ages are grouped together in these statistics.
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What is homelessness and street children?
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Homelessness is defined by a lack of stable housing. This includes living without shelter, in a tent, in a car, in a homeless shelter, couch surfing, or using public locations/transport for shelter.
"Street children" are children who spend a majority of their time on the street due to housing complications. Some of them are not considered "truly homeless", because they technically have a house, but this house is usually inaccessible or unsafe for them, and thus they do not reside in it much, if at all. Usually, they only spend the night there, but the rest of their time is spent outdoors.
When discussing the statistics of both these concepts, I cannot neatly discern between them, because so many of the studies use the statistics interchangeably. Street children have very few distinctions anyways, and thus trying to separate the two is usually not beneficial anyways.
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What are the statistics of homeless youth and street children around the globe?
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Around 30 million children in Africa are homeless/on the street.
There is no overall consensus on how many children in Asia (including The Middle East) as an entirety are homeless/on the street, however it is estimated to be quite high, with individual locations being given statistics (Bangledash having 445,000 homeless/street children, India having 11 million, Pakistan having 1.5 million, Indonesia having over 170,000, Iran having anywhere between 60,000-200,000, the Phillipines having 1.5 million, Turkey having 88,000, etc.)
There is also no overall consensus on how many children in the Oceania are homeless/on the street, however Australia estimates around 76,000, and New Zealand estimates around 33,000.
Around 400,000 children in the EU (European Union) are homeless/on the street. There is no overall consensus on how many children in Europe as a whole (not just the EU) are homeless/on the street, however individual countries also have statistics.
Over 1.2 million children in the USA are homeless/on the street. Over 40,000 children in Canada are homeless/on the street.
Around 40 million children in Latin America are homeless/on the street.
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What ways do homeless youth and street children suffer?
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A higher risk of sex trafficking, rape, assault, and kidnapping.
A higher risk of child labor/slavery.
A higher risk of being poisoned or suffering from oral, throat, or gastrointestinal system damage (as malicious people often put poison, razors/glass/sharp objects, and other dangerous things into the food provided to the homeless.)
A higher risk of sexual, reproductive, urogenital, and gastrointestinal disorders/infections.
A higher risk of respiratory disorders.
A higher risk of nutritional disorders, growth disorders, and starvation.
Higher rates of substance use and addictive disorders.
A higher risk of mental health disorders.
Low or no accessibility to hygiene products or showers/bathing (which significantly increases risks of infections and diseases.)
And, of course, a higher likelihood of death and grave injury, due to weather conditions, untreated disease/injuries, hate crimes, overdose, and/or suicide.
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What about intersectionality? How does that affect homelessness and street survival?
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Note: Whenever the discussion of employment comes up, we think it is important to remember that:
1- Unemployed adults can have children, and thus, the children in the equation will be effected.
2- Teenagers can also get employed in a majority of locations, and in many countries even minors younger than that, meaning their incomes could be contributing to housing as well.
The most obvious - being low income often risks loss of housing. Hell, being "average income" doesn't even afford housing anymore for most people, in the current financial crisis. Classism and homelessness go hand in hand, and the refusal to provide for the lower class their basic needs is the direct cause of homelessness.
Being a foster kid. Discussion:
Being a foster kid greatly increases the likelihood of homelessness, due to the foster system being notoriously abusive, and not providing minors with the proper funds, stability, and education necessary to survive in life. In the USA alone, 23,000 people age out of foster care a year. 25%-50% of those who age out end up homeless. Now imagine the statistics of that worldwide, of how many people are ending up homeless the moment they turn 18 (or younger, in countries where legal adulthood begins sooner)?
Additionally, minors will often run away from foster homes, because it is unsafe for them there. They wish to escape the abuse. A depressing fact is that a majority of sex trafficked youth are from foster care, usually runaways who were living on the street to avoid abuse.
(You can read our post about the statistics of foster kids here [link.])
Being disabled. (Note: Some of these statistics leave out emotional, behavioral, personality, or other mental disabilities, and also often leave out "small" physical disabilities, so the statistics may actually be higher if all disabilities were included.) Discussion:
We could not find any overall statistics on the intersection of homelessness and disability in Africa and Asia, unfortunately.
However, disabled people in Africa often suffer forced evictions and are more likely to be impoverished, and we did find statistics on specific locations of Asia (ie; 42% of homeless people [including adults] in Nagoya Japan are neuropsychologically disabled, 15% of homeless people [including adults] in Hong Kong are physically disabled, in South Asia 85% of disabled people [including adults] are unemployed which greatly risks homelessness, etc.)
We could not find any overall statistics on the intersection of homelessness and disability in the Oceania as a whole, however we did find statistics in Hawai'i, Australia, and New Zealand. in Hawai'i an estimated 62% of homeless people [including adults] are disabled. In Australia, an estimated 9.5% homeless people [including adults] are disabled, and 8.9% have an unknown disability status. In New Zealand, 4.1% of homeless people (including adults) are disabled.
We could not find any overall statistics on the intersection of homelessness and disability in overall Europe, however in the UK alone, 35-39% of homeless people [including adults] are disabled (and for comparison, only 20-22% of the overall UK population are disabled.)
In Canada, there is no minor-specific statistics for disability, however 50-60% of the overall homeless population (including adults) are disabled.
In the USA, 19% of homeless K-12 [pre-college] students are disabled (and for comparison, only 14% of the overall USA student population is disabled.)
We could not find any overall statistics on the intersection of homelessness and disability in South America as a whole, however in Latin America, disabled kids are 15% more likely to not attend school (and those who do attend are more likely to drop out), which inherently leads to employment issues down the line (and thus, housing issues) Additionally, 1 of every 5 households in extreme poverty houses a disabled person. And in some locations, people with disabilities are more likely to be unemployed (ie; in Argentina 91% of disabled people are unemployed), earn less money in work (ie; in Mexico and Costa Rica, disabled people earn 20% less than their abled peers), and/or have no insurance (in Ecuador, 84% of disabled people have no insurance), which can cause or exacerbate housing issues.
Being queer. Discussion:
In Africa, we could not find any statistics of the overall intersection of being LGBTQIA+ and homelessness, however homelessness is highly reported by LGBTQIA+ people (especially youth.)
We could not find any statistics of the overall intersection of being LGBTQIA+ and homeless in Asia, however we did find a few for individual Asian locations (ie; in Singapore 20% of LGBTQIA+ people [including adults] experience homelessness, in the Philippines 12% of people who are 15-25 are homeless, In Japan 4 in 10 LGBTQIA+ people struggle with housing, in India there is a hidden housing crisis within LGBTQIA+ people, etc.)
We could not find any statistics of the overall intersection of being LGBTQIA+ and homeless in the Oceania, however we did find some statistics for Australia and New Zealand. In Australia, queer-oriented people [including adults] are twice as likely to be homeless than nonqueer-oriented people, and 1 in 5 trans & gender diverse people aged 18-25 suffered homelessness (unfortunately we cannot find a statistics for people younger.) In New Zealand, 2.6% LGBQTIA+ people who are 15 and above are homeless, and unfortunately there is not a clearcut estimate on minors under the age of 15.
In Europe, 17.39% of LGBTQIA+ people [including adults] have been homeless, with 1/3rd of intersex people and 1/4th of trans people being homeless.
In the USA, LGBTQ+ minors are 120% more likely to end up homeless. They make up roughly 30-40% of homeless youth (and for comparison, only 9.5% of the overall population are LGBTQ+)
LGBTQ+ minors of color have an 83% higher risk of homelessness than their white peers. 44% of Indigenous LGBTQ+ youth, 16% of LGBTQ+ Asian & Pacific Islander youth, 27% of Latinx LGBTQ+ youth, 26% of Black LGBTQ+ youth, and 36% of multiracial LGBTQ+ youth have experienced homelessness.
38% of trans girl youth, 39% of of trans boy youth, and 35% of non-binary youth have experienced homelessness (compared to 23% of non-trans & non-gender diverse homeless queer-oriented youth.)
39% of intersex youth have experienced homelessness.
In Canada, 25% of homeless youth are LGBTQIA2S+ (and for comparison, only 5-10% of the overall Canadian population are LGBTQIA2S+.)
We could not find any statistics on the overarching intersection of LGBTQIA+ and homeless in South America, however we did find a few in specific locations (ie; 30-40% of homeless youth in Brazil, 30-35% of homeless youth in Argentina, 30-35% of homeless youth in Colombia, 25-30% of homeless youth in Mexico, 15-25% of homeless youth in Chile, etc)
Being a person of color. Discussion:
We could not find any statistics on the overarching intersection of race and homelessness in the Oceania, however we did find some individual statistics for Hawai'i, Australia, and New Zealand.
In Hawai'i, 28-50% of homeless people [including adults] are Native Hawaiian.
In Australia, 1 in every 3 Indigenous Australian is homeless.
In New Zealand, 31% of homeless people [including adults] are Māori, and 6.6% of Pacific Peoples [including adults] (and for comparison, 17% of the overall New Zealand population are Māori, and 8% are Pacific peoples.)
We could not find any statistics of the overall intersection of homelessness and being a BIPOC, however we did find statistics in the England, Ireland, and the EU specifically. In England, Black people [including adults] are 4x more likely to be homeless than white people. In Ireland, 15% of homeless people [including adults] are Romanian, and 6% are Black.
In the USA, Hispanic high schoolers are 2x more likely to experience homelessness than white highschoolers. Black highschoolers are 2.25x more likely to experience homelessness than white highschoolers.
Black and Hispanic people [including adults] make up 64% of the homeless population. Pacific Islanders [including adults] have the highest rate of homelessness in the USA. Native Americans [including adults] have the second highest rate of homelessness in the USA.
In Canada, 10-30% of homeless youth are Indigenous and 15.4% are Black (and for comparison, 5% of the overall Canadian population are Indigenous, and 4.3% are Black.)
We could not find any statistics of the intersection of race and homelessness in Africa or South America, unfortunately.
Other. Discussion:
In the USA, 17% of English learners (which are usually immigrants) in K-12 [pre-college] school are homeless (and for comparison, 10% of the overall student population are English learners.)
Being in areas of the world subject to war, genocide, political violence, and environmental disaster. Discussion:
16% of the population in Sudan had to flee their homes due to conflict.
90% of Gaza [including adults] are homeless right now.
46% of homeless people [including adults] in Ukraine became homeless due to the invasion costing them their homes.
Venezuelan immigration has led to a disproportionate amount of homeless Venezuelans in South America.
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Sources
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General:
Trends and dynamics of homelessness in Hong Kong: evidence from population survey in 2015 and 2021
Housing & Homelessness [link]
Global Homelessness Statistics [link]
Street Children - By Country [link]
Street Children and Homelessness [link]
28 Million Children Homeless [link]
Nearly 50 Million Children Uprooted Worldwide [link]
The Truth of Life in Accra (about Africa) [link]
The Health Profile of Street Children in Africa [link]
Street Children in Asia and the Pacific [link]
Street Children of South Asia [link]
5 Facts About Child Homelessness In India [link]
Understanding the Heart of Homelessness In Hawai'i [link]
Strengthening the European Child Guarantee to address Child Homelessness [link]
Statutory Homelessness in England [link]
Shocking Extent of Family and Child Homelessness in Australia [link]
Our Hidden Child Homelessness Problem (New Zealand) [link]
2023 Census Severe Housing Deprivation (Homelessness) Estimates (about New Zealand) [link]
Nationwide, More Children Live in the State of Homelessness than in Most American States [link]
The "Street Children" of Latin America [link]
Student Homelessness: Quick Facts and Resources for Governors (for the USA) [link]
Disabled homelessness sources:
Challenges and Struggles Faced by Persons with Disabilities Across Africa [link]
Forced Evictions and Disability Rights in Africa [link]
Prevalence of Mental Illness, Cognitive Disability, and Their Overlap Among the Homeless in Nagoya, Japan [link]
Trends and Dynamics of Homelessness in Hong Kong: Evidence From Population Survey in 2015 and 2021 [link]
Disability In South Asia [link]
People With Disability in Australia 2024 [link]
Disabled People Are Disproportionately Affected by Homelessness – And Getting support Feels Nearly Impossible (UK) [link]
Invisible Intersections: Disabilities and Homelessness (Europe) [link]
People With Disabilities in Latin America [link]
Disability In Latin America [link]
LGBTQIA+ homelessness sources:
Global Crisis of LGBTQ+ Homeless Youth: A Call for Inclusive Policies and Accurate Data [link]
Safe Homes for African LGBTQ+ Youth [link]
Experiences Of Conflict, Non-Acceptance and Discrimination are Associated with Poor Mental Well-Being Amongst LGBTQ-identified Individuals in Singapore [link]
2024, Philippines National Survey on the Mental Health of LGBTQ+ Young People [link]
4 in 10 LGBTQ+ People in Japan Still Face Report Housing Barriers [link]
The Hidden Housing Crisis Within India's LGBTQ+ Community [link]
Housing & Homelessness Transhub (Australia) [Link]
Homelessness Australia LGBTIQ+ People [link]
LGBTIQ+ Experiences of Poverty (Australia) [link]
LGBTIQ+ Population of Aotearoa New Zealand: 2023 [link]
Intersections Report: Homelessness (EU) [link]
LGBTQ+ Youth Homelessness (for the USA) [link]
LGBTIQ+ Population of Aotearoa New Zealand: 2023 [link]
LGBTQ+ Youth Homelessness (for the USA) [link]
LGBTQ+ Youth Homelessness & Housing Instability (for the USA) [link]
Intersex Youth Mental Health Report (for the USA) [link]
2SLGBTQ+ and Homelessness (in Canada) [link]
Homeless POC sources:
Paradise for Tourists, a Struggle for Natives: Native Hawaiian Homelessness in the Hawaiian Islands [link]
Out of Sight is Not a Solution (about New Zealand) [link]
Australia National Homelessness Facts [link]
Racism and Racial Inequality Within the Homelessness System Needs Recognition and Action From Government (England) [link]
Homelessness, Race and Ethnicity Research Programme Finds Shocking Evidence of Inequalities (UK) [link]
Census of Population 2022 Profile 6 - Homelessness (Ireland) [link]
Rooted in Trauma: Homelessness in Native Communities (USA) [link]
State of Homelessness 2025 (USA) [link]
Racial Inequalities in Homelessness by the Numbers (USA) [link]
Racism and Homelessness (USA) [link]
Young People of Color Facing Homelessness (USA & Canada) [link]
Aboriginal Homelessness In Canada [link]
Black Communities and Homelessness (in Canada) [link]
Other sources:
Sudan's humanitarian crisis: The facts and figures [link]
Crisis in Gaza: What to Know and How to Help [link]
46% of Those Experiencing Homelessness in Ukraine Lost Their Homes due to Conflict, Report Finds [link]
Four Years of War in Ukraine: Childhood has ‘Moved Underground’, Displacement Continues – UN humanitarians [link]
Ukraine - Street Child [link]
A Latino Learning About Homelessness in Latin America [link]
Venezuela Situation [link]
Venezuelans Sleep in Cars and Under Trees as They Question Where They’ll Live After the Earthquakes [link]
I have no idea where to send this. I'm pretty sure this is paramisia (and ableism?) but I could be wrong, and even if it's not I'd love to get your thoughts on this.
I remember quite a while back I watched a YouTube video about this girl who was an adult, but due to a disability (I think a tumor on the pituitary gland, something that interacted with hormones), she physically still looked like she was 7. She was talking about the struggles with people infantilizing her. Often getting dirty looks because she liked doing things that women her age often liked doing (ie wearing makeup, wearing skimpier clothes, drinking alcohol, ect).
In the comments section, there were so many people saying things like "Its sad she'll never be able to date or get married since she looks so young. Anyone interested in her would be a pedophile" or "shes gonna have to remain single forever, anyone interested in her would be gross."
This is physiableism, intersexism, and paramisia. It's deeply rooted in infantilization specifically. @this-is-infantilization
First and foremost, adults who don't go through puberty are still adults. I am sick and tired of the infantilization of people with growth disorders and intersex people with severe forms of hypogonadism and/or androgen/estrogen insensitivity.
Second, so what if an adult who has not experienced puberty decides to date a MAP? It literally isn't harming anyone, and it's not "creepy" if the non-pubescent adult is aware of their partner's motivation for dating them. They're both adults, they're both capable of making their own decisions.
Also, you don't have to be a MAP to be attracted to non-pubescent adults. They might be attracted to aspects about the person other than their physical "immaturity." Being an adult vs minor is more than just appearance, and thus, being attracted to minors vs adults is more complicated than appearance alone.
the fact that people have tried to take my glasses off of my face without asking. i need those, they're basically taking my eyes
This is physisensory ableism.
Touching other peoples disability aids is inappropriate unless given consent to do so.
The only time I can see taking someone's glasses as appropriate is if you fell asleep with your glasses on, and a person removed them so you wouldn't roll onto them in your sleep and break them.
my doctor dismissing the eczema that has left my skin peeling and entirely raw on a lot of parts on my body as something i 'just need to put lotion on' despite the fact that i've been doing that for...the last 8 years.
As someone who lives with chronic dry mouth syndrome, I need people to take disabilities like this more seriously.
From my experience, I struggle with constant stress due the following:
-Having to use specialized treatments multiple times a day, which I cannot easily access outside of the house.
-Constantly trying so hard to keep my teeth clean but knowing that I will inevitably have cavities next time I go to the dentist (and if you're like me, getting cavities filled is incredibly traumatizing.)
-Constantly having a dry and scratchy throat.
-Having constant tonsil stones because my mouth can't clean itself properly.
- Struggling to eat because my mouth is so dry that I can't swallow easily. (This does not pair well with eating disorders.)
-Overdrinking in an attempt to ease my mouth and throat (which also makes me feel sick and/or makes me have to use the bathroom a lot, which when paired with a pelvic disability is absolute hell.)
Don't underestimate the manner of which "simple" conditions can disable someone.
A compilation of my most important posts on @thisisparamisia
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Making this because Tumblr refuses to take off the mature account filter on the account, and so tons of minors are incapable of accessing paraphilia education. (Despite the fact that minors themselves can be paraphiles, and it's not uncommon for paraphilias to form during childhood [link.])
Alright, let's start.
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Post: "Educate yourself about paraphilic disorders this disability pride month!"
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Post: "Blog relevant terminology"
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Post: "OCD vs Paraphilia"
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Post: "Paraphilias can be nonsexual"
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Post: "Incest, inbreeding, and the issues with incest"
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[ID of the last segment (since it won't let me add it in the alt text):
Conclusive thoughts:
Incest is not technically "immoral" if all parties are fully consenting (that includes no grooming/coercion), but it is more often than not dangerous and unhealthy, and it is unlikely to even be considered by a mentally healthy individual.
Choosing an intimate partnership with a relative rather than an outside party is like metaphorically walking through a minefield when there is a world of non-risky land just behind you to explore instead.
I do not believe in arresting those who participate in consensual incest, but I also do not believe it should be encouraged, and I think they deserve psychological help, and that society should be questioning the reasons behind why such a dynamic may have formed rather than judging them.
There is a severe lack of studies on the long-term affects of consensual sibling-sibling incest, and I think that is something that needs some serious looking into.
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Post: "Pedophilia, hebephilia, ephebophilia, MAP, and child predator - what is the difference?"
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Post: "MAP is not a term for 'child predators trying to infiltrate the LGBTQIA+ community.' That is a myth."
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Post: "Most child rapists are not pedophiles, the same way most men who rape men are not queer."
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Post: "Harmful vs nonharmful acts for MAPs & Zoos"
Post: "The issues with corpse desecration"
Post: "Behaviors to avoid online"
Post: "Is it unforgivable to fantasize about real beings/real situations?"
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Post: "The issues with corpse desecration"
Post: "Behaviors to avoid online"
Post: "Is it unforgivable to fantasize about real beings/real situations?" /End PT]
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Post: "Proship vs antiship - an argument that is not actually helping anyone."
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Post: "What makes a paraphilia queer vs nonqueer?"
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Post: "Red flags that someone is not safe to come out to as a stigmatized paraphile! 🚩🚩🚩"
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As a bonus, here are posts not made by me (Kris) but instead made by my headmates. These posts are not marked mature (as of right now): or @pararecovery.
Why "paraphiles who don't act on it are fine" is still a paramisic statement [link]
Stop pretending to be a mental health advocate if you think people with "dangerous" paraphilic disorders are inherently predators, deserve to feel ashamed of themselves, or deserve conversion therapy [link]
Children can be paraphiles [link]
Parental controls and age verification are ineffective; so what is the solution? [link]
Here are some posts by @pararecovery (which is unfortunately marked as mature) that deserve attention:
Tips for coping with paraphilic disorders [link]
Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with sexual fantasies [link]
Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship with fiction [link]
I would share screenshots, but tumblr only allows 30 images per post.
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And here are some resources I recommend checking out, if you're struggling with your mental health:
General:
Get Self Help [link]Therapy Worksheets [link]
Project Lets [link]
Fireweed Collective [link]
The Wildflower Alliance [link]
Stronger U/Stronger Together [link]
^These four are non-carceral support for suicidal folks. (Non-carceral means they won't call the cops to forcefully institutionalize you.)
Self-harm resources [link] (Check out the "first aid" and "anatomy" information on the top of the screen for further advice about harm reduction.)
Also recommend checking out @thisis-suicidism, @support-for-the-suicidal, and @self-harm-harm-reduction for further resources and support.
MAPs (though non-MAPs may find it helpful too, by just exchanging words like "minor" for whatever other thing):
Self-help modules [link]
Advice, safety planning, and FAQs [link]
Stop It Now UK [link] / Stop It Now USA [link]
B4U-Act [link]
ASAP International [link]
VirPed [link]
Global Prevention Project [link]
OCD & intrusive thoughts:
OCD worksheets [link]
Grounding techniques for intrusive thoughts [link]
Sexual trauma:
Survivor's Toolkit [link] (Mainly recommending the worksheets there)
Care Package for Survivors of Sexual Trauma [link] (mainly reccomending the "managing common reactions to trauma" segment.)
Online Communities for Survivors (of sexual trauma) [link]
You can't really be an advocate for physical disabilities unless you also fight for the rights of people who are physically disabled due to their own choices.
People who choose to self harm (cutting, burning, restricting or overeating food, overusing substances, etc) for any reason. That includes people who self harm due to factitious disorder!
People who choose to physically disable themselves through cosmetic procedures (again, be normal about people who make unhealthy decisions due to factitious disorder or body dysmorphia!)
People who choose to go through with optional procedures that have high risk of physical disability.
People who choose to eat enough to be disabled by their weight.
Etc, etc, etc.
These people deserve advocacy too. They deserve accommodations too. They don't deserve to be scoffed at, laughed at, or excluded. They don't deserve to be treated as secondary or "less physically disabled" just because it is a consequence of their own choices.
And while we're here, please stop treating amputation as never the answer for body integrity identity disorder. It's the last case scenario, but it is proven to be beneficial to some people with BIID [link.]
I'm sure this has already been said before due to how painfully common it is, but people refusing to repeat themselves if you ask them to multiple times. I get that repetition can be annoying sometimes, but it's genuinely distressing to not know what people are saying to me.
Ugh, this! This is sensory ableism, specifically audism! @this-is-audism
We live with auditory processing disorder that can be pretty severe sometimes, and it is genuinely so frustrating how people treat it. Especially customers! We run a small business, and oftentimes the locations we sell at are playing music, so we struggle to hear our customers.
Customers hate to repeat themselves, and sometimes will just say "nevermind" and walk away from our booth when asking about a product, instead of making any purchases like they were planning to. Does it kill you to just take a moment out of your day to clarify to the disabled shopkeeper what you said?
Happy disability pride to disabled trans, gender diverse, and varsex folks!
[PT: Happy disability pride to disabled trans, gender diverse, and varsex folks! /End PT]
This includes all disabilities and all TGD and varsex folks! Happy disability pride, regardless of whether your disability is physical, sensory, neurological, psychological, or a combination!
Happy disability pride to intersex, ersex, and dysex [link] folks whose disability is directly connected to their variation!
Happy disability pride to intersex, ersex, and dysex folks whose disability is unrelated to their variation, or whose connection to their variation is unknown!
Happy disability pride to disabled binary gender diverse folks! To disabled non-binary folks! To disabled culturally gendered folks!
Happy disability pride to disabled trans & gender diverse fem, masc, androgynous, neutral, null, agenrine, xenine, outherine, aporine, multi, and unlabeled folks!
Happy disability pride to disabled trans, cistrans, and other modality folks! To disabled cis enben [link]! To disabled cis genderqueers!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with musculoskeletal disabilities, limb disabilities, bodily deformities/disfigurements/differences!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with paralysis, seizures, movement disorders!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with neurodevelopmental disabilities, learning disabilities, cognitive disorders, neurodegenerative disorders, brain damage!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with somatoform disorders, factitious disorder, identity incongruence!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex plurals!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with dissociative disorders and trauma & stressor disorders!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with anxiety disorders, mood disorders! To suicidal TGD & varsex folks!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks psychotic disorders, personality disorders, behavioral disorders, addictive & dependent disorders, paraphillic disorders! To TGD & varsex folks whose mental conditions are highly demonized by society, treated as the "crime disorders"!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks sexual dysfunction, perinatal disorders, reproductive disabilities, urogenital disabilities, gastrointestinal disabilities!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with endocrine & metabolic disabilities, immune disorders, nutritional disabilities, cardiovascular & blood disabilities, respiratory disabilities!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with eating/feeding disorders, oral disabilities, voice disorders!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with sensory processing disorders, synaesthesias, visual disabilities, hearing disabilities, olfactory (smelling) disabilities, gustatory (tasting) disabilities!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with headache disorders, chronic fatigue, chronic illnesses!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with sleep disorders!
Happy disability pride to TGD & varsex folks with skin and hair conditions!
Don't forget trans, gender diverse, and varsex (intersex, dysex, ersex, varsex, etc) folks in your disability activism! And don't forget disability in your queer activism!
[PT: Don't forget trans, gender diverse, and varsex (intersex, dysex, ersex, varsex, etc) folks in your disability activism! And don't forget disability in your queer activism!]
Let's talk about altering deformities on children against their consent.
[PT: Let's talk about altering deformities on children against their consent.]
Many people ask "at what point should you wait for the child to decide when they're older?" and this is the general consensus that I think should be followed.
Does the deformity impact their physical wellbeing, or is it purely cosmetic?
It affects their physical wellbeing -> Then see next point.
It is purely cosmetic -> Then don't do the surgery, it's unnecessary, wait for the child to get older and choose what they want for themself. Stop reinforcing beauty standards.
Can the impact on their physical wellbeing be improved from something other than surgery (ie; mobility aids, assistive tools, etc)?
Yes -> Then don't do the surgery, let the child continue to develop, and decide for themselves what they want when they are older.
No -> Then see next point.
Do the risks of the surgery outweigh the risks of the deformities?
The risks of the surgery are less than the risks of the deformity -> Then see next point.
The risks of the surgery are more than the risks of the deformity -> then don't do the surgery, let the child decide for themselves what they want when they are older.
The risks of the surgery are near-equal to the risks of the deformity -> Then don't do the surgery, let the child decide for themselves what they want when they are older.
Is the impact on their wellbeing actually significant enough to warrant the consideration of surgery?
Have you looked into the experiences of people who were put through this surgery as children? Have you researched how how they felt about it when they grew up?
Are you truly making this choice fully informed, or are you only making a decision based on what a doctor is saying?
I have not looked into the experiences of those who have undergone this surgery -> Then you better start now.
I have looked into the experiences of those who have undergone this surgery -> Then you better respect those experiences, and make your decision based on their input on the matter. Remember that the experiences of those who have actually gone through it will reflect your child better than your own personal opinions will.
And, finally.
The most important thing of all.
If, after all is said and done, you decide to go through with the surgery, don't just throw the child into it. Talk to them. Let them know what's happening.
Don't let them go into it uninformed. Explain in a child appropriate way what is going to happen. How long will they be at the hospital for? Where will there be scarring? What part of their body is going to change? How long will it hurt for?
And don't frame it as a "you're defective" talk. Don't demonize their deformity. Just explain to them the risks and benefits of what is happening. Explain to them that all bodies are different, and that sometimes people are born with bodies that might need help, and that's okay.
I’m sending Nintendo a feedback form of stuff they could add to TL:LTD, would it be okay if I included a screenshot of ur post about it? Or is that not okay? Thanksies :3
Yes, but please include the reblog that discusses disability [link], or just screenshot this ask instead!
Issues with TL:LTD!
1- No option to select "don't fall in love with this person" in the menu. The only wat to prevent people from falling in love is by putting them down as family, but that can make the family trees in the game weird (ie; what if you want Mii A and Mii B to date, but you selected Mii C as the family of them both, so A & B think they're related, and won't date each other? It's just annoying, the players should have the ability to just bar off certain Miis from falling in love with each other without having to turn them into family.)
2- No polyamory.
Solution: in the character creation, make these options
-Closed monogamous (wants a monogamous partner)
-Open monogamous (doesn't mind having a polyamorous partner)
-Ambiamorous (fine with polyamory or monogamy. Add a partner amount or a "no limit" option for the possibility of polyamory occuring.)
-Polyamorous (and then you'd select how many partners the character is interested in having, or a "no limit" option.)
Then, if a character has a partner, and falls for someone else, you have them ask you "I want to pursue [insert character]. Should I talk to [current partners] about it?" and then you can encourage or discourage them, and if you encourage them, then you get a little cutscene of them talking to their current partners about wanting to add a new member to the relationship. The current partner either accepts or declines, based on their personal feelings towards their partners other crush.
"But I like the cutscenes of them fighting over the person!" That could still happen, if the miis dislike each other, or one of them has the "closed monogamy" setting on.
2- All binary characters are default straight & gender conforming. Yes, you can change that in the menu, but there just shouldn't be a default in the first place.
3- Mii babies are always boys or girls, which reinforces negative stereotypes about how nonbinary is something that happens "later in life" rather than something kids can be.
4- No ability to make multigender characters. You cannot make a character female and nonbinary, male and nonbinary, female & male & nonbinary, etc. I get that they probably did this because they wanted an easier time determining what characters would be attracted to who, but I pose that if a character is attracted to women, and another character has "woman" as one of their genders, let them get a crush! (Or if you're so worried about it, have it where only people attracted to both women & enben can get a crush on someone with both those options selected.)
5- No ability to select multiple pronouns and create neopronouns.
6- No wheelchairs, walkers, rollators, canes, crutches, or prosthetics.
7- No ability to customize limbs/make amputees.
8- No ability to make asymmetrical features or customize individual eyes (so no heterochromia, no making one eye bigger than the other, etc.)
9- No ability to make characters mute, blind, or deaf. The mute one would be especially easy, you could just make them play every other game except for no repeats! And you could give options for mute or deaf characters to use AACs or write on notebooks! Like "Would you like this Mii to write, use an AAC, or communicate through gestures?" and you either select one of the options, or all of the options. There should also be semi-verbal options, where they speak sometimes, but not other times!
10- This is more nitpicky, but I actually would like it if you could choose to keep Mii babies...well, babies. Like, if the game asked you "Remain baby mode?" and if you said "no," then it does the classic cutscene. But if you said "yes", then you get to help your Miis raise their baby every day.
11- Why can't you select multiple personality quirks in each segment, and the character rotates between them? For example, if I select a mii to walk like a rodeo rider and walk shyly, it should rotate between both, not have me go into the mii menu to select between them. They already let you select multiple mii quirks in the random set, so why won't they let you do that for the walking set, standing set, etc?
I have had a headache for literally every single second of my life starting in first grade. This headache has lasted over fifteen years. The intensity varies, but it has never once gone away completely. And when I say that to doctors, they never believe me because of how unrealistic that sounds. They think I'm being dramatic. And when I bought up the possibility of new daily persistent headache, I got accused of using Dr Google and told that NDPH is extremely rare so I definitely don't have it.
There's a set amount for how many headaches you can have in a week before it starts being medically concerning. Apparently there's also a maximum.
This is physisensory ableism and medical neglect. You deserve to get the diagnosis and help you deserve.
ex-friend asked about my disability. I explained what it was. he proceeded to spend the whole hangout staring at me and talking about how a celebrity he has a crush on has the same disability. and telling me about the crush he has on her. and staring at me. because he "just liked watching me move" sooo much.
This is physisensory ableism.
It's one thing if he has a paraphilia for a disability - he cannot control that, people do not choose their paraphilias.
But its absolutely unacceptable to push ones paraphilia onto an unconsenting individual.
Fetishizing people against their consent is never okay.
And the attraction aspect aside, comparing you to a random celebrity just because you have the same disability is ableist. Disabled people, even those with the same diagnosis, are not a monolith.
people shutting down people who ask me questions about the way I move because they've decided for me that those questions are offensive (they were not) and not giving me a chance to speak. and then 5 minutes later talking about it in a way that I do find upsetting. someone's being ableist here and it's not the person who asked the question...
This is physisensory ableism.
People should not assume a question is offensive on your behalf, and they should not speak about your disability as if they are the authority on the matter.
