#sese24

[a-gender]

Is there a name similar to aceflux, but for agender?

Agenderflux! Also genderflux works (the flux, like with aceflux, indicates a null state as one end of the spectrum, so you may not need the “a-” part). 

-Ama

[undiagnosedautismfeels]

I'm like 99.999% certain I have aspergers, and my docters have brought it up a nubmer of different times, ut have never put it in my paperwork

That’s weird. But with that I think it’s safe to call yourself autistic, even just on a self-dx basis.

[lgbt-advise]

For the last couple of years (maybe longer) I've identified as pan, but now I don't think I'm all that attracted to guys that much, it's literally almost always girls. I seriously hate to admit it to myself. What sexuality do you think this is?

Well, you can have preferences.  So if you want to still call yourself pan, then you can.  But if you’d like a different term, poly might be better for you (attraction to many, but not all, genders).

-Brenna

[a-gender]

Could you help me understand the difference between agender and androgynous?

Agender is a gender identity, but androgynous is a state of being (as opposed to androgyne, which is also a gender identity). A cis straight person could be androgynous, and a queer agender kid could be very masculine or feminine. I, myself, lean pretty solidly feminine in presentation, so while I’m agender, I’m not androgynous, and I do have a cis friend who is very androgynous. Hope that makes sense <3

--Ama

[antlersintheleaves]

On the sexualities post, you forgot lithsexual and lithromantic Lith: people who feel sexual attraction, but do not want to participate in sex Lithro: people who feel love, but don't want their love reciprocated

That’s not what those mean and that’s not a sexuality.

[peerieweirdo]

Hi, I just found out about your YouTube, and I thought that you were a cool person. You seen real... If that makes any sense?

omg thank you so much aaaah 

that totally makes sense, and it’s really lovely to hear so thank you!!!!!!

i haven’t been making videos too often right now because school is getting BLEURGH but after exams i have plans so YAY FOR THAT

[shades-of-grayro]

So originally, I thought I was aro, then grayro, then demi-grayro, then demi-akoi-grayro, but now I'm starting to think that. I've always been aro, how can I know for sure?

Hmm, I really can't tell you what your orientation is for you! I think you should go with whatever you feel fits best. Don't worry about what other people think, and don't worry too much about fitting perfectly into a box. Just choose the label you think fits best and roll with it!

And remember, it's perfectly okay to change your label too if you start to feel something else fits better!

-Mod Lutari

[shades-of-grayro]

Is it possible to identify with more than one, because I identify as demi-akoi-grayro, like is this a thing, or am I just confusing myself more? Seriously, is there anyone else that identifies s that?

I think that's totally possible! Lots of people that feel a connection to more than one may shorten it (like, for example, you may just say you're grayro), but I know there are lots of people who fit into more than one category and thus use more than one label!

-Mod Lutari