ur so right omg, the way they would randomly just make him do the most out of character shit (propose????) not just for his character but for him around her (it all just felt so forced the way they where clearly trying to keep him “rafe” but adding but also make him seem in love? they went about it the wrong way im so sorry cos to me it just seems like with the way he ignores and disrespects her where they clearly meant it come across as his messed up way of loving… it just feels like he doesn’t care. they had the opportunity to make them so deep, she could’ve challenged him, taught him not everyone’s gonna take his shit, but the way they went about it just looks like she doesn’t matter to him at all (cos she doesn’t lol)) the way they would make him just not gaf to stay in character and then make him do big romantic gestures out of nowhere was so forced im actually sobbing. idk but their ship actually enrages me so maybe im pulling this out of nowhere cos i feel like that about jjiara too so maybe my brain just picks and chooses what to hate for no reason
if they get married you and end up together u will never here from me ever again for so many reasons. i said a while ago when i was bothering u in ur asks (🙂↕️) that i could write a whole ass paragraph about why they shouldn’t get married and how there’s so many reasons i never got round to it cos i forgot but i really wanna unpack it soon cos it’s like scratching at my brain
also ignore like spelling or grammar errors or if this just doesn’t make sense i’m high (i lowkey only go on tumblr when im high lmao😭😭)
it just seems like with the way he ignores and disrespects her where they clearly meant it come across as his messed up way of loving… it just feels like he doesn’t care
my mom used to tell me that the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference. she mostly said this because, as a teenager, i said i hated a lot of people and she was calling me out for my obsession—but it applies to rafe. he does have a messed-up way of loving, and it’s possessiveness, shouting, hypersensitivity. it ain’t pretty, but it’s what we have to work with. yknow what the opposite of rafe’s love looks like? aloof. dismissive. indifferent…
it just caused a pang in my chest when i saw multiple people insist that rafe’s notably out-of-character behavior around his girlfriend was indicative of some softer side inside him. he has one, but it doesn’t cause him to suddenly turn into prince charming (it really just turns him into a babbling, teary-eyed mess, which we don’t get with her). the idea of young people viewing the relationship that way… something something canon event
also drop the essay 😀

















