Aug 1, 2021
I haven’t posted here in a while… a long while, but I was a pulling my card for the month and for the second time in a row I got Death… I’m trying hard to just go with the flow but another month? 😂
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I haven’t posted here in a while… a long while, but I was a pulling my card for the month and for the second time in a row I got Death… I’m trying hard to just go with the flow but another month? 😂
What Bothers You About Others?
Sorry this post is late yesterday we had a birthday party and I was busy all day so today will be Day 4 and 5 of my shadow work. So it wants me to list things I don't like in others so I will be trying here.
I don't like when people in these times don't wear masks in public. Especially if they have children or elderly people with them it just seems so inconsiderate.
People who talk to much or get to close to me while in public. I have personal space issues.
On a date and the guy can't focus on talking or anything not physical or sex related. I hate that, have a conversation I am not just here to boink thanks.
People that don't try to read. You need to read at least one book in your life. I have so many classics that I love so much. It is the best feeling in the world to finish a book for me. I grew up with ADHD and reading use to be hard, but once I got medicated books were my best friends. Mostly because I used words like 'ambivalent' and 'travesty' in political debates at age 11 in a backwards farm town full of morons. It made life for me hard, but books were my safe haven.
I don't have many things for this topic mostly I don't hate a lot about they population. Sure their are things we can fix, but in general most people just live their lives without hurting people and that's all anyone should strive to do.
In case folks are interested, I’m hosting a shadow work support group for a few Sundays at 8pm EST.
~25 minutes of special topics lecture
~25 minutes of small group sharing
~10 minutes of q+a and closing
Sign up here and I’ll send you a Zoom meeting room link along with meeting notes, discussion questions, and optional donation link. Essential workers and folks out of work - I explicitly ask that you not pay me and come anyways. Your participation is worth the world to me.
You’ll need a pen and paper and a willingness to chat in a group of about 5ish people.
It’s not a beginners class but all levels are welcome! I’ll put out a glossary with commonly used terms in the email I send out.
Hope to see folks there!
A lot of people I talk to experience some amount of embarrassment or shame around what they enjoy doing, learning about, or being around. But it can extend to sexuality and gender presentation too. Where did you learn that shame? Who can you begin to reclaim your pleasure?
Imagine yourself having made the changes in your life that you really desire. What does that version of you believe that you don’t currently? How could you build up enough proof to begin believing it?
I find it helpful to switch between reflecting according to theme and reflecting according to a period of time. The latter is helpful because you have to include more of a mix, your wins and you losses. The last year have been a real mix for me but I want to honor that in my shadow work as a way to combat black and white thinking. So as we approach Samhain, take time to reflect on the year. Think about what you’ll mourn and what you’ll bring with you.
Make a list of people who’ve made you who you are today. Select one person and write a letter to them.
Format your letter as follows:
I think: stick to the fact of what happened between you and they
I feel: speak to your feelings as honestly as possible
I want: write what you want to be different in a clear way
I will: write about what you’ll do they do or don’t give you what you want
Do not send the letter. Keep it in a place where you won’t be tempted to. This is so you will be blisteringly honest. If you really want to reach out to them, use the same format and use compassionate language.
Is there something you really want to share with others or give but you aren’t sure it will be accepted or valued? Why do you want to give it? What would happen if the approval of some else didn’t factor in - would you still give it?