To you, Mendes Army, from an old Directioner.
I’m not really in your fandom, so you clearly don’t know me. Don’t get me wrong, I love Shawn Mendes’s music and he seems to be a great guy, I even went to a show once, but I don’t follow his life and my blog isn’t about him at all.
However, I saw something on Instagram and then here. You, freaking out about him and that girl model, Hailey Baldwin I think?
So little story, I was a Directioner when I was a teenager. I remember the fandom, freaking out every time one of the guys got a new girlfriend. I saw so many people hating on these poor girls. It was crazy, really. But I did nothing to stop it. In fact, I wouldn’t talk on social media, but I was so freaking mad when Taylor Swift started dating Harry Styles, lol. God, I’m almost ashamed now.
So yeah, I understand how you feel. And I know that a small part of you, even if you would never admit that to anyone in this world, do believe that you have your chance with him. You imagine a life with him. He is the perfect boyfriend in your mind. And that’s why you’re so angry. Because you’re jealous, even if you don’t want to admit it.
You’re jealous, so you hate her. She rubs you the wrong way. You think she will be bad news. You think she might even change your fav. You don’t support the relationship. Maybe it’s even just some publicity stunt, right?
And I understand, I really do. I’ve been a teenager too, once. (god, I sound like I’m such an old lady. Let’s make one thing clear, I’m 19. Oh yeah, I just fucked up the whole thing now didn’t I?)
But now is the moment you’re going to hate me.
There’s, what, maybe a 0.000001% chance that you will be the one to end up with Shawn Mendes. So let’s be honest.
You’ll never be in a relationship with Shawn Mendes.
Not because you’re not pretty enough, or smart enough, or funny enough, or well, you get the point. You are all of that. You are enough. But he’s a celebrity. He will end up meeting so many people, so many other celebrities.
He will be in a relationship. Fall in love. Breakup. Do it all over again.
And it won’t be with you.
He loves his fan. I’m sure he does. But he doesn’t know you personally. And he is not in love with you.
I’m sorry, I really am. But you are wasting your time, hating on a girl you don’t know. You are hurting yourself and in the process, maybe hurting Shawn himself and his friend/girlfriend/fuckfriend, whatever she is.
Just be happy for him. Love his music. His personality. Supports him. But don’t get that into his personal life. It is none of your business, and you’ll be far happier the day that you’ll stop obsessing about what he is doing.
I know it’s hard, I know you don’t want to hear this and I’m ready to receive hate (well, I would rather not). But guys, calm down.