I am visiting your blog after a long break and I must tell you I loved everything that's happened since my last visit..the 11 years celebration posts were amazing...the OS was also very beautiful..
I loved all the answers you have been giving..Ur a just amazing. Your beliefs and sense of humor really come across and I am soooo impressed with how you articulate your thoughts... you're too good..
The year's more than half over and it seems life's been trying for you and me and soo many people ..i just hope you are well ...
For the ask...I started rewatching again and have a question around the arc where Arnav comes to know about Kushi's engagement. Khushi was still hurting and so confused becoz of the Diwali fiasco, her father's health, buaji's manipulation and the ensuing engagement. We have seen that there have been many instances when she has given a very befitting rebuttal to Arnav's insensitive and non sensical line of questioning.
So why do you think she never throws his words back at him when she asks him " apko kya farak padta hai?" As in why doesn't she call out his cruelty by saying something along the lines of " you have clearly stated that I don't mean anything to you Mr. Raizada so why are you all bothered with what happens in my life?"
I know she does call him out my question is regarding throwing his words back at him. We don't usually see her do this..is it because she is too hurt or she gets it that he didnt really mean them or she is knows quoting them will hurt him when he realizes he did not mean or something else entirely?
Once again...take care and stay well
I am doing well and so glad to see you again! Thank you so much for thinking about me *hugs*
why do you think she never throws his words back at him when she asks him " apko kya farak padta hai?" As in why doesn't she call out his cruelty by saying something along the lines of " you have clearly stated that I don't mean anything to you Mr. Raizada so why are you all bothered with what happens in my life?"
Because very few people have perfect memory. The pain, heartbreak and hours of tension has left the wounds raw in Khushi's mind - also that her aunt forced her to get engaged - clearly she doesn't remember the exact words Arnav threw at her.
But she remembered that he said that nothing matters to him. She means nothing to him. "Tumse, na uss baat se, koi farak nahi padta" Even now I'm paraphrasing Arnav from my memory.
So when Arnav is hurt and shocked by her engagement, she inflicts the farak on him like a slap. Because that broke Khushi. While he was being the center of her universe, he insisted that she didn't even matter.
is it because she is too hurt or she gets it that he didnt really mean them or she is knows quoting them will hurt him when he realizes he did not mean or something else entirely?
Ok this is one thing I want to address about Arnav to the whole fandom. Him not meaning what he said MAKES NO DIFFERENCE. If you accidentally cut a finger, or cut intentionally, you'll still bleed. She doesn't need to quote Arnav to get back to him.
And she quotes him on certain occasion. Such as when she says "you're right, if I didn't enter your life then you would've been happy and so would your sister." It made no difference that Arnav didn't mean it. If he didn't mean it, the thought wouldn't have existed. But he said it.
Arnav's "didn't mean it" does not mean he truly doesn't mean the words or that the thoughts didn't exist in his head. His "didn't mean it" often stems from him regretting the fact the he said the things at the worst time. I'm sure a part of Arnav believed that hypothetically if Khushi didn't exist, then Anjali would've been happier - but that makes no sense considering Shyam's duplicity is beyond Khushi. But he just saw that because Khushi met Anjali, Anjali was triggered to self harm. So, in anger, he wanted to express all his anger at Khushi. And of course later he realises he misspoke and he didn't "mean it" because what he said logically doesn't make sense and Khushi has shown it countless times that she loves his sister as much as he does.
And when it comes to these Diwali angsty moments, Khushi doesn't know Arnav doesn't "mean" it. That idiot means everything he said back then because that was a defense mechanism and he was saying out loud that she doesn't mean anything because she should not. He's emotionally cheating on La, he's a mess basically... no woman, Khushi included, should try to soften their blow assuming the other person didn't mean it.
Khushi just told him what he needed to hear. He has no right nor reason to inquire about her life when he clearly stated she's invisible in his life.
And in reality, people can RARELY make the right argument during fights *cries in memory*
