so i want to write a fic that features some period elements lived through the eyes of a noble (elite?-- god, i am clueless) young woman in the victorian era. And i'd really appreciate recommendations of fics, books, articles, videos and guides which you think really nail the vibe and the descriptions of:
the dresses worn at the different times of the day (delicate embroidery and all and what it means)
the setting of table for dinners (ranging from small and private to hosting an entire neighbourhood; from casual and familial to formal/ military/ business)
the decoration for and description of dances and balls and getting ready for them (lady's maid and all), who can dance with who and how to greet partners etc.
and ofc, instruments of subtle (or not so subtle) control over the lives of women
also, (and i get that this one's pretty niche and frankly even i dont know where i'm going with it) the fostering of outside children (perhaps viewed as uncivilized) in noble houses (as a means of 'integrating them into what was mainstream or as a show of control) and how they would react to all the above stuff