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[mionghairearracht]

i'm confused...why is it important to spread Awareness about James Somerton, or any internet microceleb who's a douche, for that matter ? how does it help anything, exactly ? how does this knowledge benefit the average queer person ? I just don't understand why talking about one specific guy is better than talking about the plagarism, misogyny and racism in the queer community as a whole. Somerton is not the only guy who does those things...

the issue with somerton specifically is that he has repeatedly tried to get back into making money from videos and his videos regularly spread sexism, bigotry, and historical misinformation to the entire community while he was seen as a trusted source of information.

there is a huge amount of misinformation, discourse, and bigotry within the community that can be traced right to him.

knowing who he is, what he's done, and what he's doing now prevents him from getting right back to that and spreading harmful shit to thousands of people.

he isn't comparable to any random internet celebrity because there aren't really any of those who had been in the position he was, being seen as a scholar and historian of the queer community, while directly spreading bigorty and misinformation towards that community.

if somerton had shown at any point that he realized he'd done wrong i wouldn't be for spreading his shit around, but from the point the video released he's tried to shove blame onto others, minimize his actions, and get right back into what he was doing before and what he did before was directly harmful to the queer community.

basically somerton is a lot closer to a scam artist then random internet celebrity and generally the best way to deal with scammers is to make sure potential victims know who they are and how they work

[smilestimz]

Well now I gotta gif Green Beans and Mac and Cheese.

[smilestimz]

Christ that sounds scary as fuck- I dont think mines nearly as much? Maybe like, a year or two worth of posts. Not sure- But god I hope its just a bug n they come back. Really cool new feature tumblr, thank you.

[mionghairearracht]

Oh shit yeah huh... do you think part of the reason why so many teens are anti fiction is because of the mandatory reading in schools so when they get on the internet they don't know how to exercise the choice they now have.

ALSO please check out "does the dog die" for mandatory readings as it has an extensive list of trigger warns and I hope it will help take the edge of atleast!

so like preface that we're on the end of a 4?5? day migraine and not the best with words right now. also pretty much any time you is used it's the general you

honestly we think the whole "force kids to read triggering material with no support or warning" is probably the cause of a ton of media related issues not just people* not understanding that the can disengage with triggering material, or that reading things can trigger you and that's completely independent of morality on anyone's part**

like the whole "you need to keep engaging with current events even if your triggered and/or burnt out" is basically what many people where taught for years directly and indirectly in school and by many authority figures.

kids and teens are constantly told their boundaries around media don't matter and that those bounderies can be violated for education. thus a shit ton of people thinking that the proper way to educate on current issues being expose yourself constantly even if you are triggered is a pretty natural consequence.

this also ties into the whole "people can't do media analysis" yeah no shit. if you are spending most of your time and energy dealing with the effects of being triggered by the thing you are supposed to analyze, you probably aren't actually learning much about the media or how to analyze it, that's what happens when you're triggered repeatedly

and yeah no shit you're going to think analysis is bullshit if your experience is "the thing i was forced to trigger myself into breakdowns to do" because that's fucking bullshit and a disgustingly normalized experience.

basically i think the lack of choice, respect for the bounderies and triggers of kids/teens, and the normalization of what's basically emotional abuse under the guise of education has fucked shit up

also does the dog die is great, i think we actually made a post about it a while ago thanks for reminding us of it

for books specifically we hightly recommend storygraph***. its a book tracking app that has an extensive inbuilt trigger list that users can add with reviews and there are a ton of books from bestsellers to indie and self published on there.

if you want to start reading but worry about triggers its a great resource.

and since this is long enough already, tangents/context notes are under the read more

*in our experience this effects people of all ages, and despite the idea of teens being particularly pro-censorship our experience is that its more a case of specific fandoms just having more young people in general and thus more young people who are pro-censorship (and those people being extremely loud and aggressive in general) driving/drowning out others; and the fact that a lot of pro-censorship groups online vs. offline are pretty different demographics wise and having issues with one doesn't guarantee experience with the other

**often people are taught that not being able to handle certain topics is basically a moral failing or willpower issue of their part, which is not true. this can lead to thinking that the moral failing actually came from the topic that hurt them, also not true.

the real problem was being forced to engage with it to the detriment of health under the threat of varies penalties, but that is a huge complex problem which isn't as easy to grasp or readily apparently

*** we really recommend it if you are a reader or looking for information on books in general not just triggers. its much better then goodreads imo and as a bonus you can actually filter out certain warnings from being shown in recommendations.

[smilestimz]

@dizzy-pops Hey, so I don't think age regression is bad- age regressors are a ok to interact with my blog(as long as they aren't anything else on my DNI or interact w anything/anyone else on my dni) but the term 'Lit-tlespa-ce' is commonly used by those in dd-l-g/c-gl ki-nk communities- and I don't want them interacting w my/my blog.

[smilestimz]

@whalefalll​​

YES I love every single one of them, I’m tempted to make a stimboard for them too d:]

[mionghairearracht]

what you said about the 'kin community feeling more hostile than the kff community resonates with me. i wish more 'kinfolk understood that gatekeeping identities doesn't suddenly work out if they're opposing kinnies

its frustrating and i was admittedly kind of grouchy after a long shift but i keep seeing this push to gatekeep and sanitize our image to outsiders and it just makes me want to scream

im out as a queer trans person and have done quite a bit of lgbtq+ and disability related activism and i've seen this push to make a community look good to outsiders and where it leads with both. it always starts as 'we need to look good so people will take us seriously' and that's understandable but it never stops there and its always the most vulnerable people caught in the crossfire

and like people thought we were crazy and weird before kff, this isn't new or they're fault, and i'm genuinely worried with the amount of focus i've seen on kff this is going to turn into a scenario where everything is the fault of kff and we end up chasing out vulnerable people and not making any actual progress on building a community or increasing acceptance.

[mionghairearracht]

smile. it/its. eldritch endel. bi aroace. very much an adult and very much wants a nap. part of a plural collective. this is my blog however i'll likely switch between i/we in posts as its something i've struggled to keep straight and i don't care enough to do it here

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