On Glimmer and “you are the one who keeps being weird and leaving” (c) Bow, s01e08 [Ball]
I’ve seen the thing that Glimmer has to deal with their “jealousy” on their own (w/o “taking it out” on people) getting cheers. And I want to say smth about that.
Glimmer was expecting Bow to go with him.
They are mentioning the routine, ”well, there is nothing wrong with the new thing” (c) Bow. Er. Well.
A routine can be kinda very important? Just imagine that, mentally.
Going to social events where there are so many people. You always went with this one person, he is your best friend, you feel safe with him and you know you are going to be okay as long as he is with you. Glimmer mentions they are not good at making friends or at keeping them. They feel that he is going to support them and be at their side... but he takes the first offer he gets to be away from her when they need him?.. It’s gotta hurt.
And it’s probably not doing them any favours in their “trust issues” because their friends left them behind, it’s so obvious.
I think they are right to be afraid, to be honest. Maybe I and Glimmer just share the same issues.
I can easily imagine myself in their place. I don’t even have to imagine much. Maybe I and this person always go to this type of social events together. And then they go with another person - okay. They say they don’t want to leave me behind, why can’t we hang out together. And then I find out myself completely lost and alone. Yes, there are other people but I don’t know them that well.
I’m not comfortable. It’s a new place. There are new people. The only person that brought me any sense of calm and centre before isn’t here. Even though I told him about this being a routine.
This is shit.
Of course, I’m gonna be alright. I won’t have a meltdown. There’s not gonna be an overload. That’s what I’m telling myself sitting in the other corner of the room because there was no place near him and they, of course, didn’t go to search for places that we could all sit together.
I’m probably projecting on Glimmer now. But I was on the verge of tears the last time it happened to me. Well, Glimmer had Adora. And I was texting with my partner the whole time just to survive it.
But... I don’t know.
It’s a shitty thing to do to an autistic person. I have no idea if Glimmer is autistic. But they could be?
And there was no proper warning. At least, it seems like it has been only a few days before the ball.
And there was no proper reason? Okay, okay, he wanted a change, wanted to talk to Perfume and he doesn’t have to suit Glimmer’s needs all the time.
But would you do that to a person that depends on you during social events? Hm. Like, yes, you could. But is it really worth it?
The show won’t probably address it later the way it is now going through my mind, it’s going to go with “jealousy”.
I’m so totally projecting my issues.
Is it really worth it to abandon a person with abandonment issues like that? With no proper warning. Just wave at them saying it’s their routine and that they are not okay with that.
Yeah, absolutely, you can do that and they should take care of themselves. But it’s not what best friends do.
I’d predict a huge hit from abandonment issues? You were going to be in a situation where you don’t feel safe and it’s not seen as serious and whatever, I want a new thing, deal with your own problem yourself. Like, sure, Glimmer could do that. But it also means their closing up? Building more walls around themselves? Your relationships can be damaged.
Bow _knows_ them. And whether they are autistic or not (the routine’s thing importance depends on that; because if they are... this is just shit), Glimmer obviously discussed them keeping-friends issues with him.
Also, him saying that he just wanted them all to hang out together but “you are the one who keeps being weird and leaving” (c). Just a note, that people can have a limit to how many people they can closely interact at the same time or how much energy it takes from them. If Glimmer has similar to mine experience in that department, they would have to waste more energy interacting with more than one (in their case it might be two) person at a time. Especially people they don’t know well.
So, like I said, if Glimmer is autistic and they discussed their experience... *shrugs*
Like I said, from a certain viewpoint, this is shit.
Basically, Gator thinks Sophie and her have the same daily routine?
Allow me to prove my point, by copying Gator’s answer and just changing one word:
I’d say she’s seething with rage, getting high, demanding Gambles Benedict “DO SOMETHING”, trolling herself, and plotting Benedict’s downfall. And lashing out at anyone who crosses her path.
Does this not look like an accurate description of what Gator does in her blog?
