Disabled people are only “believable” once someone without our struggles decides our pain is real enough to echo. We’re only visible when someone more palatable repeats our words. Until then? We're treated as inconvenient, dramatic, or just not trying hard enough.
You don’t get to call a space inclusive when it only starts listening once an abled voice speaks. That’s not allyship. That’s erasure.
Band spaces aren’t truly safe for disabled people - not until someone without those struggles barges in, speaks over them, and decides how accessibility should be handled.
Because it’s never about listening. It’s about control.













