Anon Advice Asks - January 20
the anon, spotify anon (new), friendship weird anon (new), fearless anon
the anon
Okay it’s the anon I got updates with the exhibit and whatnot
First of all, I do wanna say that after reading your response to my last ask it made me realize I don’t think I was ever this happy with my ex. Seriously, I feel like I can breathe and it’s amazing
Anywho
We went to the exhibit today, and what was there was pretty cool. It wasn’t too use it was obviously geared towards younger kids. Like, it was a lot of activities and not a lot of reading or learning. But the models were cool!M (and I stimmed a lot because I love dinosaurs and Lego so much)
But Connor said multiple times throughout the exhibit je was going to buy me something, which was followed by me saying “I don’t need anything!” Yeah apparently that doesn’t work with him and every time I seemed remotely interested in something at the gift shop I looked at him and went “no. Do NOT think about it”
But it was pretty fun :D
We also checked out the space exhibit the place had, so that was an added bonus for today
After today I have to admit that holy crap this man gives me butterflies. Like, at lunch after the exhibits we were sitting there chatting and even just his voice had me flustered
Is this what genuine attraction feels like? Because I’m staring to wonder if I ever had this with my ex
awwwh this sounds so fun and it sounds like he treated you wonderfully. it makes me happy to hear you're so happy! I mean, all relationships are different but it sounds like he makes you really happy and that's what matters. rather than comparing him to your ex, just focus on what you're doing and feeling now, you know? Enjoy what you're feeling <3
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spotify anon (new)
Hello cas, how have you been? Ur microfics are still the highlights of my day so like, I love you so much for that.
I wanted to ask if u heard about the spotify boycott thing. I'm not in america so I jst found out that it ran ice recruitment ads and stuff, promoted ai, and other bad things for their image which sucks...
If u did hear and you do plan on switching platforms (unless u never were on Spotify which would be awkward) what platform are you using?
I'm thinking YouTube music but I'm not sure.
How is your cat? (I'm sorry I'm bad with remembering names 😭😭).
Hi!
This is a fair question. I do use spotify and I have for a while. When I heard about the ads, I did consider switching, but when I did some research, I found out that the other major music platforms also have done problematic things? Sometimes it just feels like no matter what you do, you're feeding into the problem, it's so frustrating. Like I just want to listen to music lol. I don't mean to make it all about me, but I know other people are feeling like this too: it becomes so exhausting, to try to exist without supporting horrible people.
It's not an excuse, but I kind of got into the mindset that it wasn't worth it, because I might as well stick with the platform I had, since I already had all my playlists there, and every platform was problematic in some way. I also heard that spotify pulled the ads, which is good.
Based on that, I decided not to switch yet. Idk, I think it's hard. I probably should switch.
The cats are good!
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friendship weird anon (new)
Hiii!!
I'm in highschool and I leave after next year and I like my best friend.
I am gonna ask him out but I just don't want to make our friendship weird if he rejects me.
Do you have any advice to ask him, and maybe some on how to react if he says no, and how to just keep being good friends with him??
Thanks so much!!
Hi!
Honestly, I think communication is important, here. Be honest with him! Tell him that your friendship is most important and you really, truly don't want to ruin that. If he says he doesn't feel the same way, tell him your fears about things changing, and ask him if there's something you should do to make sure things don't change.
The truth is, you can't control his answer or reaction, but communicating your needs and fears can help make sure there's no issues with miscommunication, which causes so many problems.
Good luck!!
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fearless anon
Hi!
Ugh I feel like friendships are so hard in high school because honestly, even in big schools, your choices are limited. And not only that, but people tend to be very similar. Most people were all raised similarly so they have similar views, and it sucks when you're different. Please know that when you go to college, it's SO different. There are so many people and so many different views and it gets so much easier to make connections with people who share your views (read: aren't homophobes.)
As far as your friends being defensive of their partners...yeah, that's so fucking annoying. I get it--I once had a friend who married a die-hard Trump supporter. That friendship ended because I just couldn't deal with being around that and i felt betrayed that she accepted his behavior, but it sucks to see people you care about making poor decisions. I think there's a balance between like...calling your friends out when they make those bad decisions, being there for them when things dont go well, and also protecting your own peace. It's hard to find that balance, and I don't wish that problem on anyone <3














