#stealth ftm

[turgidscum]

haha i do not feel safe. i'm lucky i'm stealth.

[transmandad]

My chest, however many years post-op I am now. Need to get my nips re-rattooed still, but I am lazy and still never go shirtless in public so it doesn't really matter at this point.

It's heavily cropped cos I have tattoos I don't wish to publish. Apologies. Not as buff as I used to be, but you get that! 😅

[thesamthatiam]

To stealth or not to stealth, that is the question. Hello everyone! Today's video is a very honest chat about something that I am currently struggling with. I think it's one of those things that now I've spoken about it, it'll be easier, or I at least hope that'll be the case.

[raytothejtotheg]

Being a stealth gay trans man has some odd things about it

Starting with the fact that I’m stealth in terms of being trans, but I am out in terms of being a gay man, so I get all the posts about being out and being in the closet. It’s almost confusing, but it’s not?

[raytothejtotheg]

Trans story time!

(This was a few months on T, not sure exactly how long, but ball park figure of probably 6 months.)

When I was sixteen, my parents split and it was a pretty clean break (as in I haven’t seen or spoken to my father in ten years). Blah blah blah, time passed....

I was working the front counter with one of my coworkers, Don (at an auto parts store), when a man and a woman that had been at the back of the store looking at a few displays at the back of the store came up to the front counter with a couple cans of chemical and a quart of oil and plop them down on Don’s counter. Don worked right next to me, so his customers were a sum total of 3ft away from where I’m standing. I had been trying to find a missing reciept (hoping it wasn’t totally lost), when I realized that none other than my dearest POS father was standing with who I assume to be his girlfriend.

I was totally in shock. At thay point, I hadn’t seen or spoken to him in five years (he’s a special kind of asshole). My own father was standing a little furter than an arms length and had absolutely no bloody clue that his son was standing so close. Or even, for that matter, that he had a son.

Talk about weird shit happening.... So when they say Testosterone changes you, it does. It’s a promise of relief in a needle and knife.

[raytothejtotheg]

I DON'T IDENTIFY AS TRANSGENDER

I am transgender, but I don't identify as transgender. I'm just a normal man living his life. Once I had my name/gender (officially) changed in 2015, everything fell into place. It was like I was never not a dude and sometimes I forget that. For some, this is what it means to be stealth; for some, this is what is required to survive.

[transmandad]

Happy New Year everyone!

K starts high school in two weeks. It’s freaking us all out! The school he chose (yep, we let kiddo choose from a bunch we thought were good) is amazing. Robotics lab, forensic science in years 11 and 12. Actually ridiculous, and I am very thankful we only have one child as it’s an enormous amount of money. 

He couldn’t go to the (only) local public high school for a plethora of reasons, the least of which being I have come across seniors who are unable to read.  I’m fucking serious. 

Regardless, we had a great break. Mrs had some health issues which scared the living crap outta me (hospitalised for a while there, never life threatening), but Master K was kept at an arms length with friends and wasn’t aware of that. He has enough to deal with currently. 

Our homestead is coming along wonderfully. We’re already harvesting fruit and vegetables from the seeds we sowed when we first moved in. I love fresh tomatoes so very much. 

[raytothejtotheg]

Fuck guys can we PLEASE make this shit happen?!

Gus Kenworthy and Laith Ashley: Gay men must do more to challenge anti-trans hatred and violence

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