#stop grooming

[loving-laurence]

Why are we suddenly supposed to support groomers simply because they are playing victim and crying to mostly minors in their discord server, victim blame teenagers and ALWAYS back tracks after they've been called out.

You're in your 30's. Take some system accountability and stop crying omfg

Daily reminder that grooming doesn't have to be svxual!

It means to groom someone for a pecific purpose

[magnificentwolfface]

Let's talk about grooming - because its not normal, its manipulation.

When an adult asks a minor to touch them, undress, or turn around so they can look at their body, that is sexual grooming — a form of abuse, even without contact.

I want to specify that this was my experience.

When I was a child/kid, an adult asked me to turn around so they could look at my body. I knew it felt wrong, but I didn’t feel able to say no. A lot more had happend but I wont get into detail.

That’s grooming—when an adult manipulates a child through confusion, shame, confusion, or fear to get sexual access. Feeling like you “couldn’t say no”? That’s a trauma response called fawning, not consent .

What happend to me was wrong.

If it happend to you. YOU are not to blame. Grooming deliberately creates guilt and confusion to keep us silent. What happened to me was wrong — and you deserve safety and respect.

My parents know very little because I wouldn't talk about it then. But now im willing to try counseling or therapy because I never truly unpacked what happened. I just dont know how to bring it up.

If this sounds familiar:

You are not to blame.

You can talk to someone, even if it takes time.

You deserve to heal - at your own pace.

Need help now;

RAINN (US): 1‑800‑656‑HOPE

• CyberTipline (US, NCMEC): 1‑800‑843‑5678

In the UK: Internet Matters –

https://www.internetmatters.org/issues/online-grooming/resources/

You’re not alone.