Hi boo! Recently got into the bowl after months of research. Started using Tinder (SA still intimidates me and I'm 20, so freestyling at bars is out) and I don't have SB anywhere in my bio since I'm not tryna get banned. How exactly do I make sure the men I'm matching with know what I'm really looking for? What do I ask/How can I tell that a man is looking to be a SD and not just an old guy looking to bang/have a vanilla relationship with a young girl?
this is my exact bio “I am looking for someone that can assist me with tuition as well as provide mentorship. I am looking for an older, generous gentlemen who is keen on spoiling me and traveling together. ” I recently changed it and they have been rolling in. Of course there are still some BSers but it is a lot less than before.
as far as making sure they are what you are looking for, i would look at how they are dressed (tailored suits, watches, etc), whether they are well groomed, look for out of country vacation pictures, and definitely look up their job. It sounds really cliche, but you can tell if a man has money just from his pictures.
to tell them that you want a SD, you need to kind of talk in code lol. there was girl, i can’t remember who (if y’all know who she is, mention her or reblog with her post), but she had a template message that i tweaked, “Well, I really don’t have a lot of time to date due to school and my externship taking up most of my time. Many of the men I have dated were older and assisted me financially. Since they are generally successful men with busy schedules, we saw each other whenever we could. They had the pleasure of my companionship without the pressure of a traditional relationship. I have had success with with relationships of this sort in the past, so I am looking for a similar one :)” that basically tells them you want a SD without you blatantly saying you want one.
once you guys seem to be on the same page, give them your number or email or whatever you use (don’t use your real info) and all conversation mentioning a sugar daddy should be had off site. once you start texting them, go back on the app and unmatch them. men are big babies and i have had my bumble account suspended FIVE times before i realized they would go back and report me because they were mad they couldn’t afford my terms. i would say just be upfront about what you want but in a respectful way.