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So, we've become more familiar with the fullest range of things that can fall under the "persecutor" role, and we've concluded that a good number of our headmates might fit it. This would mostly be in the form of wanting to do (rarely actually doing) self-destructive or aggressive things.
We looked in the persecutor tags, but there was one insight we couldn't find: namely the reason of why a system or headmate would choose to use the persecutor role, especially in a system where a "role" is usually thought of as something beneficial.
In the case of my system, we do have something of a concept of "headmate who wants to do things that are bad for us", but we don't consider that a role but rather I guess a personality trait, or maybe an archetype. Most of the things we consider "roles" (e.g. caretaker, manager, socializer, etc.) are things that we consider beneficial to the system in some way.
Meanwhile, we don't fully understand why it would be considered beneficial to the system to have a persecutor, outside of the kind who could be regarded as a "misguided protector", which I don't think ours would.
To be clear, I don't think persecutors or any headmate needs to be "beneficial" to be allowed to exist in a system. However, if my system is going to label something in the system as a role (as opposed to a behavior, a trait, or something else), we tend to conceptualize a "role" as something that is beneficial.
If anybody has any insight, we would be interested in hearing.
Sometimes, fictives will absolutely refuse to source separate even slightly or even admit that there's a difference despite being completely different from their source character. So, you'll just have to give them a little mind sit down and be like, "Honey, I'm sorry, but you are not more canon than canon," while they pout like a five year old.
Soother who just. Makes music instead of talking. Okay. Works somehow tho
Okay I think someone here is gonna make their own sideblog soon. He cannot be contained.
Love when we wonder why we're a system and then we immediately half-dissociate through an entire day. Like hmmm I wonder why The Disassociator has the disassociation problem. Guess we'll never know.
Realizing now that though we definitely were plural pre-therapy (considering we've had conversations between different entities within our own head since as long as we can remember), IFS therapy seems to have kinda changed up HOW we're plural. Like before we were super blurry all the time and pretty much everyone was in control at once doing a kind of “collective effort to seem normal” thing, and while nowadays we still are like that very often, sometimes we can actually tell when someone's getting more of a foothold or who's saying what. Intriguing.
fictive post for when youre fucking crazy idk i dont relate to anything others post on here