a black moon over the peacefield

31. System blog. See about. https://lachrymosian.tumblr.com/about

[lachrymosian]

Hey so we made this blog n kinda disappeared but basically. We've been havin issues with insurance such that we're not fully medicated anymore n aren't sure when we will be. We might have to do a detox of some of our meds if we can't get prescribed them again.

Probably due to this stress, and probably due to other factors that we can't pinpoint yet, we've been rapidly splitting a new sidesystem (called Killing Moon). It's either ppl from Obelisk's timeline (one of our alters who has a lot to do with what we were like in the late 2010s) or alters we might or could have had during this time period between 2018-2020 where we were ignoring the system and had bad internal communication.

Anyway. That's a whole thing but we're going to get through it!

[deutsche-bahn]

Ich bin auf so 'ne ganz unironische Art manchmal einfach überrascht davon wie schön diese super alltäglichen Tiere sein können, I guess

[grauline]

anyway in the hopes that i can save just one person from living the horror of my 20s: if you have a friend that seems a little too invested in callouts i hope you can get out of there safely

[grauline]

it's so easy to think to yourself "i don't have anything to hide, what do i have to worry about?" but having morals and generally doing your best not to hurt anyone will not save you. you can never be good or pure enough for these people. the target is constantly shifting and if they cannot find dirt on you they will change gears and tighten the circle of acceptable behaviors until you fit their new description of a threat. you are fully disposable to them and they are waiting to take the shot. don't confront them, don't give them the opportunity to darvo you. just hit the bricks 👍 the peace will be worth it

[calebwittebane]

impressively stupid post. straight up perplexing despite its brevity

[calebwittebane]

i cant get over this one it stunlocked me when i saw it. "'it's hot when my lover leaves bite marks on me' posts tumblr user who doesn't enjoy being bit by mosquitoes" "'i like penetrative sex it makes me cum' posts tumblr user who feels mildly annoyed when their junk itches" "'werewolves are hot' posts tumblr user who would not be very excited if someone's dog bit their ankle" incredible stuff

[calebwittebane]

actually i just imagined someone who gets off on their shoes being uncomfortable and i began to smile because that person can find joy in life so easily

[byjove]

Approximately 50% of marriages end in divorce and only around 8% of trans people detransition (with 62% of detransitioners subsequently transitioning again) so I think we should stop infantilizing trans people and hammering them over and over with “What if you regret this?” comments and start turning that scrutiny towards people who are engaged as they are statistically much more likely to regret their decision and suffer for it.

[lachrymosian]

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There is a very special frustration I have been experiencing.

Firstly, I understand that hierarchical polyamory is not the only way to be polyamorous, and that other models exist. However, the other models I am aware of do not work as well in a system as they would seem to work for externally-existing people.

So with that said, it bothers me that Tozek is my primary partner, but I am not xir primary partner.

Xir primary partner is Capriel. They're going to marry each other someday. But Tozek isn't going to marry me. He has no plans to. If he married someone else in the system, it would be Dust, not me. I'm someone he loves and takes care of, but I'm not his entire world in the way a primary partner is to me.

I would like to have someone to be my primary partner. To consider myself to belong to that person fully, and them to belong to me just as much. To travel live alongside that person, to be known as theirs.

I'm not entirely sure what to do about all this.

[lachrymosian]

So I've been thinking about gender, and I've concluded the following.

I generally don't have something on the inside telling me I'm a man, in the sense that most of the men of my system do. I don't know how to get something on the inside constantly telling me I'm a man, because nobody (including my own headmates) are able to explain that feeling to me.

However, I consider my romantic relationships with men to be gay, so I do have a little bit of something telling me I'm a man. However, the only thing telling me I'm a man exists via my romantic relationships, and I'm worried about vesting too much of my identity in that.

I'm not sure what to do about this...

[lachrymosian]

hey we made a blinkie blog called @blinkie-rat if anyone wants to get blinkie collections from us or request blinkies or whatever!

[spirulin4]

what ppl defending kids on ipads don’t seem to understand is that there are other ways to keep kids occupied. my mom had a whole bag full of little toys and games for me to play with while waiting in lines at disney world. once your kid is like 7 or 8 they can read a book. they can color. or they can literally just sit there and imagine things. i did that a lot as a kid.

[spirulin4]

thanks for putting your wrong and bad commentary in the tags where i still have to read all of it. most of what you said is untrue.

[imyselfamstrange]

OP: giving children too young to process things so much access to ipads isn’t good for them maybe.

People in the notes: So you hate moms??? You’re ableist?? You think we should go back to the Dark Ages?? (My personal favorite because it makes no sense) you’re poor shaming??

Why is it so difficult to explain that children not developing fine motor skills and losing their attention spans is bad actually??

[purplesweetpotatoes]

also children can end up being entertained by just about anything. I remember building "bird nests" with sticks in the backyard when I was like 7 years old. That was it. It took up my whole afternoon and I was entertained the entire time.

[atomicjellycat]

I worked at a kindergarten for a year, and Jesus Christ these kids are falling behind on so many milestones

Everyone knows who the iPad kids are

I've seen it all from kids who don't know how to use scissors, and can't perform the motions right compared to other kids in that age group, to kids who can't write the alphabet or spell their names (the older ones)

And one of the most startling thing I encountered was every now and then we have a country day, where we choose a country, color in the country's flag in the colors and watch a little film about said country.

And I was overseeing the coloring, and one boy just refusing to color

It happens, stubbornness, bad days, 'just don't wanna' s happen, but I sit with him and continue to try and encourage him and figure out why he doesn't want to

And he keeps saying he doesn't know how to color

And I'm like ??? Just pick up the pencil and put it on the paper buddy, cmon

So I'm showing him how, and he refuses to try over and over

So then I try like, coloring while guiding his hand, and again this is a flag were coloring it's a giant rectangle, not much precision is needed

And I realize while I'm helping him, literally moving his hand to color for him, he's CLEARLY never colored before. He's 4, there is no excuse for this when kids start coloring at like, 2 maybe younger.

By 4-5 kids can generally color inside the lines well enough and draw recognizable figures like people and landscapes and pets

Eventually he got into it, understood how to do it and requested to continue on by himself, which was great! I told him I was proud of him and we continued on with our day but it absolutely shocked me that these iPad kids are so beyond stunted like jesus

He didn't know how to grip a pencil, he didn't know the wrist movements and motions, he didn't understand the pressure control, he had no control over where or how he was coloring like, these kids NEED TO learn these things it's STARTLING how many kids don't have these milestones and are just not developing these fine motor skills

Ask any kindergarten attendant and they'll tell you the same thing-

The best thing you can do for a kid is buy them a shitton of construction paper, decorative child-safe scissors, and coloring books

Please please please kids need to cut paper up and color. It helps them develop so many fine motor skils

Now don't be mistaken, the percentage of these kids are low, for now. It's definitely not every kid, and thankfully not the majority but it is still a problem

[theclockwitch]

What you're going to start seeing is a social class stratification of this.

I was at an MVA call--car into a powerline. Three kids, 9, 5, and 2 years old, trapped in the back of a car, crushed against a pole, live lines on the car. Meaning they were fine as long as they stayed inside but we couldn't cut the car open until the power company came and killed the line.

It took about a half an hour. We were all losing our MINDS thinking about three kids who had just been in a significant car accident, unknown injuries, trapped in a car without their mom, and all these strange noises and people around them. We thought these kids would be terrified.

Nope. All three of them were on devices watching videos. Like they didn't even register what had happened or the danger they'd been in or why people were so worried, or even THAT we were worried.

The most distress I saw the kids in as we drove the 30 minutes to the peds hospital? Was when the 2 year old's device's battery died. She went from sitting unnaturally quietly staring at Cocomelon to SCREAMING and throwing things and biting anyone. She only calmed down when her older brother agreed to share his device with her.

It was spooky af, man.

The mom thought she was doing a great job bc her kids were 'so well behaved'. To this day I wonder about kids who cannot process anything other than visual dopamine. How are they going to do in school? Sure? But how about their social development? How are they going to have friends? Boyfriends? Girlfriends? Anything?

[jovialjuggernaut]

[unfamiliarsculptures]

Breaking away from the dinosaur theme, here’s a starry goat sculpture that’ll be available in tomorrow’s shop update. I love mixing these colors and patterns together! They’re a bit of a pain to get right, but it’s so satisfying when they work.

This piece will be available tomorrow, Friday July 11th at 8pm Eastern time!

[drinking-with-cupid]

Imagine your F/O waiting for you to wake up on a lazy morning. They're already up, making your favorite drink just the way you like it. When you finally shuffle into the kitchen, they greet you with a soft kiss on the forehead and a quiet, "Good morning, love."

[transmascemails]

requiem

[positivitygenic]

hello, plurals. specifically the very disabled plurals, the plurals who have high and really high support needs.

i hope you know that there's always a happy and satisfying life out there, for you. you're not inherently doomed, even if you're in a bad situation right now.

you're not too much when you need accommodations. yes, even when it's hard and costly. you always deserve to have your needs met, and i believe even more of your needs can be met.

you deserve love. yes, even when you're gross or considered gross to other people.

you are inherently deserving of live, love, and having all of your needs met regardless of what they are.

[mystery-incorporated-whore]

It's nothing that hasn't been said before but now it's my turn to say

if you are a cis boy who is following me and a dozen other transfem blogs and are attracted to us in a weird way that you can't exactly quantify and have a weird everpresent guilt that doesn't seem to go away but also doesn't seem to actually have a source every time you interrogate it

maybe you should try estrogen. Just for a month or two. It doesn't have to be committal. Just see how it feels. Who knows, you might discover that you really enjoy being a girl

[milfcastro-deactivated20251208]

Really annoying how every slightly sympathetic post to christians is treated with the grace and understanding that op isn't condoning religious extremists within that religion but as soon as I even mention Islam in any tone that's even slightly warmer than neutral,

[milfcastro-deactivated20251208]

You guys aren't beating the "we assume all Muslims are bloodthirsty and wildly misogynistic terrorists" allegations any time soon are you...

[adolere]

With an influx of asks and comments I have seen on multiple different blogs scolding people for talking in a simpler way (e.g. third person, less use of inbetween words, simpler words, etc), here is a non exhaustive list of why someone may speak like that:

- Intellectual disability

- Autism (All autistics. Not just level 3.)

- Dyspraxia

- Traumatic brain injuries

- Cognitive issues

- Processing issues

- Systems/plurals

- Not have the energy for "proper" wording

- AAC (It takes a while to type on AAC so it's often easier to use simpler wording)

- May just prefer it

I don't think I have ever seen someone who talks like this say that only people who always speak like that are allowed to speak like that. Unless the person is being mean with it (mocking) then they aren't doing anything wrong. Just let people speak comfortably and how they want to, please.

[vulturusmori]

"This horror movie didn't scare me"

Horror is supposed to touch on aspects of the human psyche that are socially viewed as negative. Fear is one yes, but also dread, discomfort, sadness, grief, the filth of nature and the human body, the unsavory parts of our reality and our experiences. Diluting your expectation of horror to "this should scare me" can make you miss what that piece of media is trying to say.

Also like. What do you want, a medal? You want your big boy trophy for being the bwavest widdol media enjoyer alive? Kills you with my mind. Stabs you with a thousand tiny needles.