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YO gives you lettuce gives you lettuce gives you lettuce gives you lettuce gives you lettuce

ough i am goiong SLUG WILD on this lettuce feast

For me, shifting therapy from a “thing I have to do when I’m failing at life” to a “useful tool that will help me be the best version of myself that I can be during both good and bad times” was vital and really helpful. Same with meds, I used to look forward to “being better” and I’m now accepting that I don’t exist in states of “broken” and “fixed” and I just have needs that fluctuate over time, but meds will probably always help. Honestly, staying in therapy for as long as you can afford even when you’re doing pretty well (just stretching time between sessions) is great because it teaches your brain this isn’t just something you do when you’re in crisis and you actually can work on underlying things that in a crisis are going to the bottom of the priority pile.

Also I can’t speak for you, but for me a lot of what I need therapy for is CPTSD from childhood trauma, and although I might not be actively retraumatised at some point, I’m never going to wake up one day suddenly never having had those experiences. Or I need support for my autism and ADHD, and again I’m never going to wake up with a neurotypical brain and wouldn’t want to.

Hope this doesn’t sound patronising or scolding because that’s not my vibe at all here, I just wanted to share what mindset helped me because my heart aches over the amount of shame in your posts. You have nothing to be ashamed of and are going through something incredibly common and normal, as harrowing as it is. Going to therapy is just sensible, the same way if you got an infection, taking antibiotics would be sensible, not an indication that you had failed at being Better.

You are a magical person, Zak, even if you don’t feel like that right now. All your friends and the followers/mutuals who care about you just want you to be kind to yourself and do whatever you need to do so you can see yourself the way we do again, including letting your emotions go through you be venting and being visibly sad and going back to therapy.

this is a really really really helpful reframing honestly. and one that has just like....never occurred to me before. i more or less see therapy as the You're Fucked Up Again And It's Your Fault So You Have To Fucking Fix Yourself Again So That You Don't Burden Everyone Around You panic button, same with meds, i kinda see them as like If This Dosage Goes Up That;s Your Damn Fault For Not Staying Well When There Is No Valid Reason For You To Not Be A Good Functioning Person

deep down i know these are flawed perspectives. it will take a while for me to believe otherwise, but i definitely see the value of reframing it.

it's just. yeah. like you said. Oodles Of Shame. all my life ive spent thinking that if my mental state tanks, thats a deep and unforgiveable moral failing. i would never consider it one for another person but i cant shake it off for myself....

lots to work on haha

"You are a magical person, Zak, even if you don’t feel like that right now" and here marks the part of the ask where i promptly burst into tears. thank you for saying that. ireally really dont feel like it and i doubt if i ever will, but knowing that someone out there thinks so makes me want to try to be the person you guys see

i'll try my best

thank you for this lovely ask, dirk :(

#asks #teacupsandcyanide

she’s here......

which dead philosopher that I’m personally invested in are you?

#quizzes #philosophy #mine #I got Bentham which I swear I did not deliberately skew the results to while taking it #magical friends #Arthur Shappey #teacupsandcyanide #beautiful and sad

dksjdlfkdj I'm writing a 100k fantasy fic set in a version of wendimoor too and am also fraught with anxiety that no one will give a shit about it when it's finally finished. it's a midsummer night's dream AU so hopefully ours will be different enough but now I am ALSO terrified that mine will come off as a hackneyed version of yours bc I've read a couple of ur fics and they're great (I'm usually an anon who thanks u for Douglas Adams references)

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo it’ll be AMAZING and the world n e e d s more fantasy/wendimoor fics omg???? that makes me so happy to hear????? p l z send it to me sometime i have no time for reading long fics til i’m done writing but i wanna get back into reading and a wendimoor midsummer night’s dream au? inject that shit d i r e c t l y into my e y e b a l l s

(also!!! douglas adams anon!!! ily!!!!!!)

#answers #also i don't think you have to worry about them being too similar #mine's sort of established relationship and quest-centric #so quite far out of my usual wheelhouse tbh!#but oh god it's been my life since fucking february #a month or so to go and i'm craving that sweet sweet validation #i can't wait to read youuuurrrrsss #more! fantasy! fic!!!!!!!!!!!#teacupsandcyanide

I’m outside your house with a set of two by fours and I’m gonna make a phantasmagorical palace

thats a bit awkward bc im outside your house already building a ten foot tall middle finger out of rusty nails, benedict cumberbatch plushies, and hatred

#teacupsandcyanide #♠️

i said this dumb shit the other day & then couldnt kill the mental picture so @teacupsandcyanide showdown time yaoi paddles at dawn

#rowan doodles #teacupsandcyanide #you are standing on a box or somethign

listy & 23 for the ask game! hehe reverse uni [runs away giggling]

CHASES U IM GNA GET UR ASS

23. Favorite picture of this character?

does a screenshot count :V this is just Peak Listy Aesthetic Era to me the jacket the hat the cockiness young dumb and full of..... you know ;) (chicken vindaloo)