(just dabbled back into temperature play, so I thought, I'd share some quick, short wisdom for the baby doms and baby subs)
Curious about wax play?
Here's some nice little pointers, if you don't know where to start.
How to choose a candle that is suitable?
First off, beeswax? Nuh-uh (for beginners). It burns hot enough to leave second degree burns if you don't know what you're doing.
For starters, use natural (white), non-scented wax. It has a fairly low melting temperature - afterwards, feel free to explore with colored wax, if you're looking for aesthetic values.
What to do before the scene?
Obviously, negotations... always. Make sure to evaluate your sub's pain limit beforehand (are they a big masochist or not?).
Arguably The most important step: Test the impact of the hot wax on your own skin. That way, you can get a feeling for the pain (how it stings and how much it stings), and feel more confident and safe afflicting it onto your sub.
For easy removal after playtime, make sure to prepare your sub's skin with either vaseline or baby oil - you'll thank me later, I promise.
Adding onto that, use towels to avoid spillings.
What to do during the scene?
Make sure to light your playtime candle approximately 10-15 minutes before you begin your scene. That way, a puddle of wax can melt - although, anticipation and tension are your two big best friends with wax play.
For extra points, you can blindfold your sub and/or tie them up. That way, they can neither see your next move nor flinch away from the heated (hehe) impact of the wax.
Keep in mind that the distance between candle and your sub's body determine the wax' temperature when it is dropped onto their skin.
The higher you hold the candle, the less the impact will sting - the closer the candle is, the hotter the wax will remain; additionally to the heat radiating from the candle's flame itself (but let's not dive into that now).
As with all impact play, start light. Build your sub's pain tolerance slowly, take your time, so the both of you can enjoy the, again, anticipation.
For added stimulation (if you're feeling more confident), try using both hot wax and ice cubes on your sub's body, switching them up in between. A great time, Lace's guarantee :D
But frankly, there's endless variations of adding wax play to your scenes.
What to do after the scene?
Clean-up is very easy if you applied baby oil or vaseline before the scene - just take a towel and carefully wipe everything of.
Make sure to apply soothing balms or lotions on the affected skin afterwards, disinfect them beforehand if they seem very irritated.
Absolutely, ab-solute-ly, check in with your sub's condition the next day or two and look for serious burns.
That's it for the beginning. Stay safe, sane and consensual, and most importantly, enjoy yourselves :)
