“Lilith in Virgo likes degrading sex!Lilith in Virgo loves to serve and kneel!”bitch,is Lilith in Virgo in the room with us?I’m so tired of seeing this interpretation
I have a Virgo 12 house stellium(Sun,Moon,Mars,South Node and Lilith) and I am really disgusted by the idea of degrading sex.Maybe that’s my Leo Venus speaking,but the idea of me being submissive makes me highly uncomfortable.I’d much rather be the one ruling at the very least,because I just can’t trust somebody with doing whatever they want with my body.Plus,what if they start to hit me or spit on me? That’s simply unacceptable to me and I would view that as an assault.Some might write to me “it’s because you have a 12 house” but I do not suppress my sexuality anyhow - I dress revealing,I’m okay with kinks and fetishes in the bed, etc.
Lilith in Virgo is about order and precision.The mood needs to be set at exact point,the bed must be tidy in exact way (or not tidy and not bed,but it needs to be okay for the native), the partner must be dressed and groomed in exact way.Everything must be perfect or otherwise they will not accept this intimate act at all.Plus,if anything bothers the native during the act, they will start to correct you right this second and even take lead themselves,if they see you are not able to provide what they need in the way they want.They might even stop the act altogether if you fail too much(by their standard).It’s very far away from submission.It’s controlling,but Virgos are controlling ,so what’s exactly the surprise?
They will teach you what to do exactly to please them and will be ready to learn about your own needs and wishes.They will remember and do that to you in the future.But you can hardly call it submission - it’s more about being equal.We are kinky, so if you have any fetishes you can freely express them and Lilith in Virgo will accept them,even if they’re not into that they won’t shame you.
So,pleeeasseee,stop saying we are into kinky submissive things.We are into perversion,but not the one where we are degraded.Some might be,but do not say it about the majority!