At 5am, after a night of drinking with strangers, and pool, and fireworks in the street, and crappy pizza I was sitting in the living room…
Let's all hug each other more! <3
"We don’t even value platonic touch enough for it to exist in our lexicon without a sexual overtone. Most people in relationships have their need for touch met incidentally, but when you are single, it is very hard to get this need met. And, I have it better than most. I am female, I do massage trades sometimes. I have the type of liberal friends I can talk to about this openly with, or liberal friends I’m even a little cuddly with sometimes. I have a cat. But like, my god, years of not being touched is fucking hard and no one admits this.
I think it makes us uncomfortable to admit our interdependence. No one ever says to single people “it may be worth being single for a while, but it is going to be a challenge going without physical affection.” But, I’d say that. People condescendingly deride people who are “afraid to be alone,” but in our society, some of our needs are only allowed to be met by a romantic partner, and I’m not talking about sex. Casual sex is totally fine in my social circles. I’m talking about affectionate touch. And, it is completely reasonable to be afraid of not getting that.
Touch matters so much. Why do we keep acting like it doesn’t?"
