#the agender

[ritavonbees]

Getting locked out of your house is pretty under-rated, really. The first time, I got to do an IRL puzzle platformer level with a bin and a tiny window, and this time I got to chill with my totally adorable upstairs neighbours and their elderly and ill but enthusiastic dog. I have been thinking of them as the Lesbian Dog Parents because they fit the picture to a tee, but it turns out the butch one is actually a trans guy. (Also a carpenter studying set design, and literally made himself a burger and then cut it in half and offered me half? Who is that nice???) The femmish one works in disability support admin and actually uttered unto me the sentence “So, tell me more about your genderqueer identity!” The doggo may or may not be epileptic and apparently harbours a futile yearning to eat my cat. It’s all kind of perfect. I’ve never had neighbours I like before!

[lingermylingen]

Okay I feel the need to say something about Wonder Woman. I watched it yesterday online (due to accessibility issues i can’t get to a cinema) and this movie has done something no amount of body positive messages or anything else has ever been able to do.

I am Agender with a very feminine body. Hourglass build and very large breasts. Hard to escape being called a girl and having to use girl clothes such. 

Usually this gives me a big sense of social dysphoria and top dysphoria. Yet after watching this movie about a woman kicking ass i feel better about my body. it’s not perfect but it’s not Wrong either. 

So thanks Wonder Woman, for helping a goat not hate their body so much. Maybe I can wear bras again. 

[ritavonbees]

Here's a little puzzle to help you clarify your position in transgender philosophy. Create or Die artspace is hosting a series of nude dinners - one for women, one for men and one for everyone. As a person with a nonbinary gender identity, should I be allowed to attend all three events, or just the mixed-gender one?

[ritavonbees]

pre-distressed designer cat on Twitter

“Think I'm gonna do a thread later about why "gender and sexuality are totally separate and unrelated" is equivalent to "born this way" -

Done a Twitter ramble if anyone's interested!

[ritavonbees]

My grandma had a grumble about these being "boy clothes" but to be fair she is an old Russian person who doesn't spend much time thinking about lesbians i guess

[ritavonbees]

Another conversation with my therapist about me repressing my needs and desires out of a deeply rooted belief that they’re going to be too much trouble for other people (or, in some cases, me).

Obviously the topic of sex came up, and in the course of reassuring me that it was normal for ~women to have trouble figuring out what you want and how you feel in that department, mentioned a former trans patient of hers who’d noticed that it got more difficult after her surgery. She assured me that the patient gave her permission to share that anecdote, which was nice, but also somehow used “transgender” as a verb, which made me think she hasn’t seen another trans patient since like, 2009.

Which made me think I was probably right when I long ago decided not to bring up my own ~gender things~ with her in too much detail because it was going to be too much trouble to-

fuck

[ritavonbees]

Been finding it extra difficult to correct pronouns IRL lately. Don't know if Just That Tired or already resigned to the upcoming medical misgendering slog so there doesn't seem much point.