question about dacryphilia: does the cause or source of the tears make a difference? like, is there a difference between tears caused by physical pain, by emotional pain, or by more autonomic responses like choking/gagging? or even like, tears of joy?
Next to sadism, this is one of my harder to explain kinks. Like, I just know deep down that it’s arousing to me but actually looking into why… I’m not too sure. I’m very sure of this one fact though. That the dacryphilia ties directly in with my sadism.
I can only speak for myself but yeah, I would say the context of why the person is crying matters but it all ends up with me getting turned on (but for different reasons and at varying levels). To make it as simple as possible…
Sadness = it’s sexy because they’re showing vulnerability and I like being a shoulder to cry on. I also like how “weak” they are compared to me (who’s calm and not crying). In a way, I get a power trip from it.
Physical pain/emotional pain= their discomfort is a major factor on why I like it. I like how they’re forced to show me their pain in a physical way. It’s hotter if I’m the cause of it though because it involves control.
Happiness is the lowest in terms of sexiness because of how dacryphilia ties in with my sadism but it does turn me on because I just like seeing people I like happy lol
As for autonomic responses like gagging/choking, I just think they look pathetic so that’s why I find it arousing. It’s akin to looking at your crush in sexy underwear. There’s no real reason why aside from the fact that they’re performing the act, I guess. Like a cherry on top?