#this one doesn't

[help-my-relationship]

I (31 M) feel like my girlfriend (28 F) actually fundamentally doesn't like me, and I'm not sure what to do?

So, for background, my girlfriend and I started seeing each other amidst her breakup from her ex boyfriend whom she had been in a relationship for 6 years. I fell for her quite quickly due to a lot of similarities between us and attraction, and just imagining the future, and she blew very hot and cold, going from saying we should go on holiday together to then saying she can't do this anymore and needs to be on her own. We'd then go through this cycle of me pulling away a bit to recapture her attraction, and she'd ask me to come round, before I would then push things too far, and she'd call it off again. Eventually, we did become official, but it often felt like I was still just seeing her rather than being a proper couple, and she'd blow hot and cold. We did eventually get into a bit of a groove, but it would involve intermittent arguments (probably arguing 4 times a week), where it was usually a conflict in how we were living our lives (with me requiring a lot of attention and talking, and her needing a lot of downtime). It has always been in the back of my mind that I'm not sure if the issue is that she just fundamentally doesn't fully like me or love me, and that instead she just settled into a relationship with me because she became attached to me being there and being there for her when she needed it. Recently, I saw a job opportunity near where her grandparents live and where her family is from, and she doesn't want me to go for it. When she got annoyed with me, she said that she just feels like I need to go away and do things in my own space and have my own things going on. Surely if you had been going out with someone for 4 and a half years, you wouldn't be worried about them working in the town where your family is from? It feels like she's embarrassed by me somehow? Our living situation is also unusual in that, because we argued so much living together at the house I owned, she didn't want to buy a house together, just in case it didn't work, and so her parents helped her buy the house we now live in. She also didn't like the area I lived in, and it was felt that this was a big source of the arguments. The plan is for me to buy into the house when we feel like it's properly working out and that it is clear that the area of the house was the issue, but it feels like I'm allowing someone to tell me when I'm good enough for them.

Why do you want to date someone who you feel doesn't like you and who makes you feel bad about yourself? What is it you want from a relationship? Is it really this?

[lucithornz]

Wait oh shit I have to title this fic

[zitasaurusrex]

i only enjoy holidays if they get me extra time off work

[nim-lock]

tbh something interesting is that the way bodies are drawn is not necessarily how bodies actually look, + sometimes an accurate depiction of a figure “looks” wrong. For example, we’re used to seeing arms move in a certain limited range of motion. However, if you are double jointed you can easily have your hands in a really twisty way that is natural & comfortable for you but looks strange to everyone else (lol I do this). Body can do things at certain angles but we’re not used to seeing them depicted like it. Hmmmm. (where am I going with this? absolutely nowhere)

[OH WAIT I remembered where I was going with this everyone pause for a second while I edit the post LOOOOL]

OK text post part 2: and this is why I’ve lowered my standards when it comes to just doodling bodies, because if this were a Real 4D Person sitting in front of me with real limbs and everything, who knows, my wonky looking figure in 2D could maybe be an Exactly Correct depiction. I tend to go for the vibes of a body without giving a shit if all the proportions are 100% on model. Also when in doubt just add another skin fold, they’re so underrepresented xD

[therealrjlupin]

*Laughs in Asexual*

[nickandros]

I'm actually dying you think that taylor swift is racist because of the "feud" with kanye where they're both in the wrong?

listen i mostly ...... don’t care abt taylor swift. i like a lot of her songs and don’t like a lot of others. i don’t really care abt her as a person but from what i know abt the kanye thing, she’s entirely in the wrong? she was exposed for lying? and now she’s playing the victim about it? idk it’s pretty cringey in my opinion. i agree with everything the post i reblogged said, and would also like to add that her entire career is built off of mediocre diss tracks and ‘beef’ that she more or less created and im just tired of it being no. 1 news whenever it happens lmao

[lemonadeangelwriting]

right now, i don’t want to be poetic. i don’t want to lie to myself and try to convince the dark corners of my mind that this is all for some bigger purpose. right now, what i want is to sob so hard that my face turns red and crinkles up in the most unattractive way. my heart is shattered.

i always knew i’d eventually meet a guy who was completely good to me, a guy whose flaws were so minuscule that i could essentially tune them out, but i just thought it’d be when i had my life together. but here i am, and i think i’ve found him, just in time for me to have to go 3,000 miles away from him. in all honesty, we have about a year, but he'll probably want something permanent, not a yearlong relationship. i can’t be that for him.

when i leave, i’m not coming back here, and he’s also going away. there’s no possibility of a future for us and it’s killing me. i would have no problem with a yearlong relationship, but i’m trying to respect the type of person he is. it’s just… i’d be willing to make slight adjustments to my overall plans to give us our best chance at a future if i knew we’d work well in a relationship. i don’t know how i’m going to live with myself if we don’t at least give this a shot.