#this sure is a queue

[xeno-aligned]

there is no „gender trinary". the idea of "male + female + nonbinary" as 3 distinct, static categories that every person is boxed into doesn't work, because nonbinary is not one singular, static gender. nonbinary is a thousand different genders and nongenders and everything and anything, and including it in this idea of a conformist, controlling trinary just cannot work due to the very nature of nonbinary itself.

[neurogender]

Istos-

An orientation/modifier for when, due to neurodiversity, a person feels platonic attraction felt to an intensity that mainstream society associates with romance, which causes severe confusion. The person may struggle to determine if their attraction is platonic, or if it’s actually romantic. They may feel like their attraction straddles the lines between romantic, queerplatonic, and alterous.

Can be used as a prefix for whichever attraction the person thinks fits best, e.g. istosplatonic, or as a standalone, e.g. “I am istos / I feel istos attraction”.

Istos comes from the Greek ἀγνώριστος (a)gnw/ristos), meaning ‘unascertained’ or ‘unknown’.

Similar to idore. See also quoi-, nebularomantic, idem-.

[xeno-aligned]

The pre-colonial genders we don’t talk about

The BBC spoke to three people from cultures that have a long history of gender fluidity.

[xeno-aligned]

[ID: a horizontal five-striped pride flag. In order from top to bottom, the stripes are hot pink, light pink, pale blue, blue, and dark indigo. End ID]

Omni- flag redesign

Uses the same colours as the original, but edited to flow better.

Omni-: Attraction towards all genders, but may not see them as the same and can distinguish each gender as different, and appreciate them as different. Different from pan-, but can be used as interchangeable.

[xeno-aligned]

some more relationship terms

in addition to qupla & xenfriend, here’s some more! all of these are to be used like enby/boy/girlfriend.

greyfriend: a greyro (or greysexual, etc) person in a relationship

softfriend: a partner in a soft romo relationship, or it could just be a cute word for your partner!

(emoji)friend: could mean a person who uses emojiself pronouns who’s in a relationship, or using an emoji as symbolic of a person, or it could just be cool!

arofriend: an aro person in a relationship

quoifriend: a quoiro (or quoisexual, etc) person in a relationship

could use this with many IDs: acefriend, gayfriend, bifriend, xoyfriend, neurofriend, etc

[xeno-aligned]

GenderNOS: A gender that does not fit into any other category but may share some qualities of them; a gender not otherwise specified.

[transcription: “this blog supports: trans women & transfeminine people; nondysphoric trans & nonbinary people; pronoun non-conforming lesbians & gays; nonbinary lesbians & gays; non-wlw & non-mlm butches, femmes, twinks & bears; the right to reclaim queer & other historic slurs; intersex people & their right to be LGBTIAQ+; aspec people & their right to be LGBTIAQ+; microidentities/mogai; systems of all types”. end transcription]

[xeno-aligned]

Twilente / Twilegender

A gender related to twilight, dusk and dawn. It may be aesthetically linked, stronger at those times, a certain gender at those times while others during the day/night, in a kingender way, in a spiritual way (e.g. worship of Eos, Azura, or other twilight/dusk/dawn deities) or related in other ways.

[xeno-aligned]

Unifogender: A gender associated with the 70s' space age and alien phase, 'old school' scifi and mystery (e.g. the X-Files; Twin Peaks), space, aliens, UFOs, cryptids, etc. (Unifo - unidentified flying object)

[ID: a pride flag with 9 wavy vertical stripes. from left to right, the stripes are coloured blue, dark blue, blue-grey, pale lavender, white, pale lavender, blue-grey, dark blue, and blue. end ID]

Regiogender: A gender influenced by your immediate surroundings. For example, you feel neutrois in your house, juxera at school, demiboy when you are near a river, and canisgender when you are in a library. A more intimate and closed-off version of aerogender. (Regio - region)

[ID: a pride flag. the corners of the flag are coloured teal, and in the centre is a dark red circle outlined in white. the middle space is plum. end ID]

[ID: a Do Not Interact banner that reads “DNI if you are anti mogai, truscum / transmed, system gatekeeper, fatphobic / pro-diet, radfem / terf / swerf, right-wing or centrist, or ignore DNI banners! Thank you for being a decent person! :)”. end ID]