Truthfully. It should never have been a hashtag. Don't get me wrong. I get it. Community and visual representation matter, especially when people around you can't or won't support you. Social media is the tool. But first and foremost - before all of that - it should have been difficult conversations with our mothers, daughters and sons. Quiet contemplation in the mirror. Poetry and media criticism. Tears on the shoulder of a best friend. Diary entries. Solo vacations. Meditation. Critical thought and public discussion. Policy and social change. Instead of doing the work first, its all before and after pictures, screenshots, misquotes, cliques, capsule collections, commodification, misrepresentation, a contest, a way to stand-out and fit-in. But this is where we are now. So we have to deal with it. What is the future of #bodypositivity? Where do we go from here? #thoughtscaughtinmyfro (at Houston, Texas)