isn't Dirthamen bi, if he's married to a woman?
Oop-!
(tagging @thyfairshadow because anon is talking about Banal)
Short answer is 'no'. XD
Long answer:
First of all, he's not married. Banal and Dirthamen are engaged, they never went through with the nuptials. First the whole rebellion of Solas got in the way and later on... it just never really mattered between them.
Secondly, his marital status is completely irrelevant to his sexuality. He never has even in the slightest found Banal sexually attractive. I'm not even sure, if what's between them counts as romance in the traditional sense. He is deeply infatuated with her sharp wit and ruthless mind, but he could never see them getting intimate far beyond the act of drinking from the same wine bottle.
Banal and Dirthamen chose to get engaged, mostly for political reasons. Part of it was pettiness on their part. As their engagement basically crossed a political divide, that none of their brethren were at the time yet willing to openly acknowledge and they both were quite frankly growing tired of the hypocritical animosity all around them.
Banal doesn't even count as Dirthamen's beard, because everyone in the old realm was well aware of the deeply devoted romance between Dirthamen and Falon'Din. So there was no need for him to marry a woman just to "hide his gayness".
If anything their relationship can probably be described as: Two close friends, who understand each other on a fundamental level.
Their engagement however, is simply because both of them are also very skilled and ruthless strategists and simply decided that this was the best course of action to serve each others political interests.











