THIS IS SO TRUE we know the out of universe reason is because bioware was too lazy to complete the romance properly for men and all races so he just comes off as racist and obsessed... it really didnt do a service to that romance because mayyybe it would have been a lot less uncomfortable with like... a man or qunari or something that didnt bring to mind amell/surana
also he can ask leliana to talk about her long time GIRLFRIEND who he knew for 5 minutes ten years ago LIKE....... its all things that look like aww its sweet an old lover or something when youve only played dai but when youve played dao its like
RIGHT NOW YOU NOODLE ASS BITCH