#tiny bug talks

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hello my lovely friends ♡ it's been such a long time since I've been here but I think about everyone on this blog and everyone I've met here a lot. I just wanted to pop in and say, hello. I love you all ♡

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i just wanna ask how do you do self love? i feel like i'm not good in self love, i constantly trash talk about myself. i could say i hate myself down to the depth, whenever i did nothing wrong i think i always put the blame of myself. at this point, i really don't know how to start. i just don't know myself.

I think the big thing I would say is that self love is a skill. It's something you have to work on and learn - And even when you've gotten good at it, you will have times where it's harder or you slip up. And that's okay! Here are some little things that come to mind:

One of the things I try to do is treat myself as if I'm a third person. When I force myself to think 'but would I ever think that about someone if it wasn't me?' or 'would I ever say that about someone else?' it helps me to avoid being unnecessarily harsh on myself. We're always hardest on ourselves - I'm definitely guilty of that - so forcing yourself to look at yourself in the third person helps a lot. What would you say in this situation if your friend was the one having this problem, not you? How would your thoughts change?

This is pretty generic therapy stuff, but let your feelings happen. I am really bad at having thoughts/feelings that upset me or I'm ashamed of, and then getting really down on myself for having them. Learning to let emotions and thoughts come like a wave - they come, they're here, they leave (and it is inevitable that they'll leave, even if it takes time) helps me in the moment. Learning this took a while for me, but it helps me a lot now and eventually you stop realising you're doing it consciously. You don't have to acknowledge them or think about them, but they will come, so learning to let them come and go in their time helps a lot.

I would say, start small. Self love takes all these different forms, and some might seem monumental compared to others. So start small: Start a skincare routine, buy yourself something nice, put on a nice outfit - whatever. For me, I wear eyeliner almost every day now, even if I'm just going around the house, and it's because it makes me feel pretty. That's my only reason. And it's the little things that I think really add up!

Be aware that you can't control everything! Again, this is one I really struggled with, but: Society has unrealistic expectations and you can never meet them. No matter how kind you are, some people just don't trust kindness. I try to keep this in my head: "self care is not arguing with people who are committed to misunderstanding you". Learning to assign worth to certain opinions and not others is also a skill, but really helps, and you will get there.

We really are our own worst critics, and self love is a skill you need to develop - but it's worth doing. I've been working on it myself and I am so much happier for it. Have patience with yourself and work on it. I also suggest doing some research - there are lots of great lines and articles about learning to love yourself, far more than I can cover here. Do some research and try to implement the steps that call to you.

You got this. Remember that we're our own worst critics, and we're all trying to learn to love ourselves. You're not alone and you will get there! ❤

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Hellooo ♡ As always, I’m really sorry I haven’t been here much. Things are hard, and I’m currently changing antidepressants so that may hopefully help!! I hope to eventually be more active here but thank you for being so patient with me, in the meantime ♡ 

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Just thinking about the fact that like... literally, in this very moment, the world is the way it is because you're here. Think about that. If you weren't here, the world would be different. And whether you feel significant or not, it's surreal to really realise... If I wasn't here, the whole world would change.

Not only that, but people don't realise their impact on other people's lives. Isn't it beautiful to realise that you are a part of someone's life? The people around you and your friends and loved ones, you are a building block and a piece of their world. You're an aspect of their life. You may not realise it, but people could drive past you and think about how much they love your hair, or go home that night and tell someone that they served coffee to someone with wonderful manners. It's really quite beautiful to actually realise that... We're part of something bigger. We are part of the lives of others. We are all significant, in one way or another.

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Hi everyone ♡ With everything going on recently, I feel the need to share some posts and resources regarding George Floyd and the BLM movement. However, I know a lot of you are probably here to try and take a moment out. So, I am going to be tagging all my RTs and posts regarding the situation right now with #current events. 

Now, I am not black. I am doing my best to be the best ally I can be, but please don’t be afraid to correct me or guide me if I make any mistakes. I am here to listen and learn.

Something I was told by a friend of mine who is an activist in this cause, is: 

It’s okay to take a moment out if your mental health is struggling. There is a difference between turning a blind eye and ignoring it entirely because it makes us uncomfortable as non-black people, and taking a moment to care for our mental health while we support, educate, and uplift.

It’s crucial that we provide support and we lift up black voices. If you need a moment, take a moment. There is no shame in taking care of your mental health. But please also do what you can, when you can. 

Black lives matter.

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I really love your page and it always makes me smile! I hope you have a wonderful day!! ☀️

This means the world and you are just the sweetest!! Thank you so much ;_; ♡

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I’ve missed all of you - how are things? Have you been up to anything nice or special? ♡ 

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you are genuinely such a lovely person, i hope youre taking care of yourself as much as you care for others.

This means the world to me tbh. Thank you so so much!! ♡ 

I’m doing my very best. Because of my cancer diagnosis, my immune system isn’t at full capacity - it’s not awful, but even still my parents want me in full isolation. So I’m a little lonely - but I’m throwing myself into my artwork, and my parents were kind enough to give me my 21st birthday gift early (a nintendo switch - I’ll be honest, my loneliness means I wouldn’t have anybody to celebrate my 21st with anyway) to help keep me busy, so I’ve also been destressing with some games. ♡ 

I’m managing, though it’s a little hard right now. Thank you so much for checking in - this makes me so happy ;;;