A-Z Fluff Headcanons; Torbek
Legends of Avantris; Once Upon A Witchlight
(prompts by me)
Summary: Fluffy relationship headcanons about what it would be like to date Torbek from Once Upon A Witchlight, a DnD campaign hosted by Legends of Avantris.
CW: Very mild/extremely vague hint of sh! (Section C—omfort!!)
Word Count: 5.5k.
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A—ctivites: What would they prefer doing with you? What do they like doing?
• Torbek would very much enjoy anything with you, especially if it means any sort of parallel play or hands-on things. As much as Torbek doesn’t mind observing from afar, he wants to feel included too. If you are working on something, he wants to do something too in your vicinity. He may even want to mimic you and what you’re doing depending on what it is. Other times, he’ll loiter around and ask questions on what you’re doing and watch curiously, even if he doesn’t fully understand what’s going on. He may even ask questions about it and ask if he can be taught, or just be included in general.
• Torbek loves anything that includes physically being with you. He wouldn’t be too vocal on if it wasn’t, but it’s what makes him feel the most welcomed and included. Are you playing a board game? He wants to hold something from it for you to feel helpful. Are you crocheting or knitting? He’s a great yarn ball holder! Are you reading? He’d love to be read to, but he’d be happy just with his head in your lap pretending to read those big words with you. He just wants something physical with you, even if there’s no physical touch involved.
B—enevolence: How would they show kindness towards you? What would they do for you?
• Torbek would do subtle things, as well as very noticeable and vocal things! He’d open doors for you, carry you over things, lift you to high places or reach those tall shelves for you. He loves performing physical kindness to you, especially if it makes you feel happy or proud of him. He would 100% take note of little things that you like too, especially if he notices you aren’t yourself completely.
• Torbek will be very vocal about confirmation with you. He wants to tell you that he cares for you and that he’d do anything for you. He’d apologize if he thought he did anything wrong to upset or anger you, but wouldn’t just let it slide either. He’d make up for anything he thinks he did wrong, even if he really didn’t do anything, with physical gestures as labeled above.
C—omfort: How would they go about comforting you? How would they grasp being comforted? How do they handle comfort in general?
• If you are crying, Torbek is there in a heartbeat. He’ll be asking if you’re okay, careful not to hurt you and scoop you up so you can cry into Torbek’s clothes and hide you if you feel embarrassed in any way. If you don’t want to be touched, he’ll sit next to you and talk to you the best he knows how, trying his best to help even if he doesn’t understand the situation. Torbek isn’t the best at saying the right things, and he knows that, but he damn well will try his best for you! And if he can’t think of anything to say, he’ll find the prettiest leaves he can and just start piling them beside you, or in your lap. Pretty leaves make Torbek happy, why wouldn’t they make you feel the same?
• If you were mad, Torbek would have to take a minute to collect himself first. Anger upsets Torbek, it scares him, but he knows how it feels to be alone and angry, and they don’t mix well together (which is pretty ironic for him, isn’t it?). He’d offer things like pillows or branches to throw, or even let you just scream into him if you need it. He’s there to help your through it, he just doesn’t know how to handle anger as a whole. If you are extremely angry, he may have your support from the side-lines, gathering acorns or other environmental things to pile near you for you to find so you know he’s there for you.
• If you are the numb type when upset, Torbek understands. He’s scared with you in those moments, he knows numbness. He’ll try to keep you with him, make sure you’re at least in his sight. Torbek knows numbness can sometimes make people do scary things in order to feel, Torbek’s done it too. Torbek cares for you, and will do anything he can to bring you out of the numbness. Even if he has to lay on you and keep you with him until you relax and calm down on your own.
D—ates: How would they go about dates with you? What are their preferred dates? What would they not like as dates?
• Torbek will try his best to be “clean” for the first date. As in clean, he’d probably spray a whole bottle of spray on himself, comb back his matted and oily hair on his head, and wear not so torn up clothes. He 100% asked Gricko or Gideon to help him frantically to not scare you away.
• Torbek really likes carnival dates! He loves carnivals, and he’d probably take you to the Krew’s if he could! Or if there were others around, those too! He’ll love to just walk around aimlessly places with you and talk and look at shops and other things. Anything in nature and inexpensive is perfect for the bugbear. You want to have a picnic? Awesome, Torbek calls dibs on the pie! You want to go stargazing? Torbek loves the stars! You want to just watch motion pictures? Hell yea, he’s in!
• Torbek wouldn’t like eating in a restaurant as a date, as much as he loves food. It would make him too nervous, on a date with a pretty and cool person in an enclosed food place with a lot of people staring at him? No thank you! He’d tolerate an outside restaurant, but even then he’d still be very anxious. On a date he’d like to only focus on one anxiety, thank you. And that anxiety is to impress you enough for you to like him and hang out with him more!
E—ffort: How much effort would they put into your relationship? How would they show their efforts?
• The real question is what effort DOESN’T he try for the relationship? He really really likes you! He doesn’t want to scare you or upset you with anything, he’d be so upset with himself if he did! He wants to smell better to not scare you off so fast, and he wants to fix being “scary” to people, but he doesn’t know how! He kind of focuses on the wrong things to fix, mainly due to his very low self-esteem and self-confidence. He’d basically try his damndest to change himself as a person if he really wanted to, but of course fail because he literally can’t. Please tell him he can be himself with you, please don’t change!!
• He’d be very vocal about it, without even really meaning to? Just little things like “Torbek wants to be like Mister Gideon for you so you don’t get bored of Torbek. :[ “ without even realizing that’s a bad thing for him to do. I just feel like if Torbek really liked you he’d absentmindedly grow like 10x more self-conscious about himself and would make him put more effort into the wrong things, but he’s trying!
F—ight: How would they go about fights with you? How would they handle them? How would they resolve them if at all?
• If the fights are calm, low leveled arguments just filled with frustration and irritation, Torbek will calmly converse for a solution to the issue. Depending on the topic, Torbek would stand with his side while also vocalize that he isn’t against you or trying to make you feel worse, but he’s healthily standing true to what he believes. On the other hand, Torbek could also very easily just break and agree with you, either to not upset you more or because he genuinely agrees with you later into the argument for some reason. Either way, he’d offer a little gift to show an apology for arguing with you. It will probably be a really pretty leaf or flower.
• If the arguments are yelling or extremely defensive/offensive toned, Torbek doesn’t want to continue. You raise your voice, he’s done, he wants it to stop. He’ll crumble, just go along with the situation to defuse it as quickly as he can. He’ll try to deescalate then scramble away to destress himself. In his eyes, he upset you greatly and he upsets everyone, he messed up again and this time it was with you, how could he forgive himself? He’d probably, unfortunately, avoid you for a while after these kinds of arguments. Not because he’s scared of you, he’s more worried and in the mindset that you still correlate him with the thing you were arguing about and are still mad at him. Eventually he’d leave a leaf or another few gifts for you to find. Otherwise, he’d just avoid eye contact and keep his respective distance until he’s sure you’re not upset with him, whether that be if you go to talk to him about it first or if he suspects it’s been a long enough time frame.
G—entle: How gentle are they with you mentally, physically and emotionally? How do they show these things?
• Oh boy, you’ve never met anyone more gentle than this bugbear. When he wants physical affection he’ll be very careful with where his claws touch. If he picks you up he’s careful to not hurt you, and would definitely try not to touch you oddly in any way (more so out of embarrassment, but also respect). He is already pretty gentle mentally and emotionally, he needs the gentleness himself so he’s going to reflect those things onto you. He’s your cheerleader, as big and hairy as he is, he wants to be nothing but gentle with you.
• If you guys were in combat, he’d try to shield you from attacks that come your way if he’s able to. If you’re injured, he wants to help bandage you up if Gricko would let him, but he’s happy with holding you and carrying you around too. Just in general he’s already super sweet to almost everyone he meets, but when it comes to you he tries to be even more gentle.
H—onesty: How honest are they with you? Do they hide things from you? What do they hide?
• Torbek is awful at keeping secrets anyways, and he feels too guilty hiding things from people. He wouldn’t really have anything important to hide anyways, other than his trauma, and he’d be very vocal about not wanting to talk about it. He’d tell you everything that he remembers if he could, unless someone in the Krew told him not to say it then he’d start out saying it then slip and go something like “oops- Torbek almost said something he wasn’t supposed to.. sorry..” and while he doesn’t like keeping secrets, and is just awful at it, he tries his best because he cares about all of you very much.
• If you ask Torbek a question, he’d try to think if he’d know anything. If he can’t, he’d go ask Kremy or Frost for you (even if you already did) because they’re the smartest guys he knows! You have nothing to fear with this guy, if you think he’s cheating he’s probably just rolling in the mud tbh.
I—Love You: How would the first “I Love You” come from them? Would they say it first? How would they react when you tell them that you love them?
• Torbek would wait a pretty decent amount of time, maybe a few months, at most 4 months but as soon at 2. He really cares about you, and he’s scared that if he says “I love you” first you’ll be scared off. It would be a slip up too, he wouldn’t be thinking about it at all after being so anxiously carefully not to say it. You guys would just be hanging out and then you guys would have to part ways and Torbek would just “Torbek loves you! Bye! …wait…” He’d be a little scared at your response after that and would try to take it back and then realize taking back an “i love you” is probably a bad thing and just kind of spiral a little worried you’d leave, so please reassure the big guy.💀
• If you ended up telling him you loved him first, he’d cautiously say he’d love you back afterwards, still worried you’d leave. But for the very first time you told him you love him, the guy takes a second and then his face will light up and his ears will perk up a bit more. Ask you “really??” and get all excited and happy. You love Torbek!!! No one has ever said that to him!!! It’s really important to him, it’s a very sacred thing in general for him. “I love you” is the most promising indirect promise to him in his life time, to him it means that you trust and care for him enough to stay with him for a very long time. It immediately just makes him fall for you more.
J—ealousy: How would they express their jealousy? How would they handle their jealousy? How would they approach you with it?
• Torbek only really gets jealous when it comes to you for 3 things. All of which he’d respond to relatively similarly, though depending on the situation differently. He’s a very subtle jealous type for the most part, more so just worried that you’re going to leave. He in general will be very cautious of situations, and when jealousy is in the mix he’s a little more heavy on his feet.
• If someone flirts with you while Torbek is nearby or if Torbek hears, he’ll at first kind of just observe. But he’d very clearly be watching how you react to the situation the entire time and try to read your facial expressions about the situation. He’d mainly be playing by ear, ready to hop in if you wanted him to. However, in the back of his mind, he’s worried you’re going to go with this person instead of Torbek and—oh my gosh! Say the L word with them!! But he also trusts you and hopes you’d stay with Torbek. It was also depends on how the person is flirting with you and if Torbek is drunk/tipsy or not.
• If the person is being respectful with flirting, he’ll let you handle it unless you give him the look to help, which he’d happily oblige and just lay his head on you and nuzzle into you. If the person is persistent with you when you’re obviously uncomfortable, Torbek will place a hand on the person’s shoulder and be like “erm.. that’s Torbek’s partner.. so.. no thank you” and then do the same thing as the last one with you. If the person was very overbearing he’d step in immediately and go some like “Torbek thinks that isn’t very nice, (prn) doesn’t like that.. Torbek and {y/n} are together.. so Torbek would appreciate if you didn’t do that.” Now, if he’s drunk/tipsy, he’s going to be a lot more physical and a little more territorial. If he was under the influence with the first two options, he’d just walk over when he sees it happening and smoosh his face into your neck and wrap his large slender arms around you and watch the person with a little glare you can’t see and let out little snarls and huffs of acknowledgement of the situation. If it was the last option while drunk/tipsy, he’d literally just pick the person up from behind and carry them off and toss them somewhere then come back and snuggle with you.
• The second thing is if you seem to be hanging out more with other people than him. He’ll be a little jealous with the fact that you are more engulfed by them than him. He’d try to squeeze into the conversation anxiously to try to be involved. If you told him to go, he’d reluctantly do so. If you’d let him, he’d also want to lean on you during these times as a subtle way to show the others that Torbek’s attention is being deprived in some way, but he wouldn’t even realize he’s doing it. Afterwards, if you bring it up, he’d talk to you about it and how it made him feel.
• The last thing that would make Torbek jealous is if someone gives you a better gift than he did, or just a better service towards you in general. He wants to be the best at it for you!! They can’t just do that, he’s the boyfriend! It’s his job to be the best for you! >:[ So he’d try to one-up them in some way on the service.
K—iss: How would they like to kiss? What is their “style?” How do they react to kisses? How do they treat kisses?
• God, he loves kisses. “Torbek can do it.. for a kiss.. (insert the autism looking up image, but in his case, looking down). “Can Torbek get a kiss as a treat?” “Torbek feels deprived of kisses.” “Torbek wants kisses..” He loves being kissed by his partner! Anytime and anywhere! He wants those kisses on his cheek, his forehead, his hands, his tubes, his injuries, his lips!! He would die happy if you kiss attacked him. It’s what he lives for. If you kiss his lips he’s smitten, you’ve 100% casted Charm on him.
• When he kisses back, at first you have to teach him.. because at first he licks you. He uses licking as a way to do it for the first part of the relationship, but after he gets the hang of lips-only.. it’s still as slobbery for a while. You’d have to wipe your lips immediately after and he’d be so horrified because he didn’t realize he was still so slobbery after he wiped his lips beforehand. He’d get better as time goes on, and it would be only 40% slobber and 60% gentle lips, which is the best you’re going to get from him. But he wants those long lasting kisses the most, pretty please with cherries on top. Those are his favorite with you.
• Kisses are also very important for Torbek. They’re very sacred to him, and kisses mean you’ve made a commitment to him that no one else has. He’s attached to you like sticky slime in a fuzzy carpet, you don’t have a choice.
L—ove Language: What is their preferred love language with you? What love languages would work best with them?
• Physical touch and gift giving 110%. He wants to give you everything he has that makes him think of you. He wants you to have all of those pretty leaves and flowers and trinkets. He wants you to have all of the pretty jewelry even if he knows you don’t wear any. If he likes it and thinks it’s pretty it’s automatically pocketed for you. Physical touch is also a huge thing for him, and you’re full of it! He wants to cuddle at the end of the night, he wants to sit next to you any chance he can, he wants to sniff you too. If you lay down for the night and let him just curl around you in a ball and hide you away, he’s alive! And sometimes he wants to be the one who hides away.. as big as he is.. and wants to be the little spoon. He’ll curl up as small as he can just for that to happen.
• He’d prefer someone who had physical touch as a love language too. He knows he can be clingy and starved of affection, so having someone who loves those things is perfect for him! He’d also love gifts, but he’d be somewhat nervous about it too, wanting to give you gifts in return for the gift. He probably wouldn’t really actively notice acts of service, but he’d 100% go like “awww, Torbek appreciates your help, but Torbek doesn’t mind doing it himself! :D “ and then just do it himself unless you force him to sit like a puppy in training.
M—emories: What memories would they cherish with you the most? How well would they remember things about you?
• If he could, he’d remember every single detail about you and every single event with you. Alas, he can’t no matter how hard he tries to. However, the moments that mean the most to him emotionally are the top of his list to think about and replay in his head, milestones. First kiss, first time you let Torbek ‘groom’ you (aka lick attack you), first time you go on a date, those things. While he might not be able to remember every single detail about those events, what he remembers the most is how you made him feel in those moments. He wants to stop that moment in time and replay them over and over with you.
• He may remember some major minor things as well, like your favorite color, food, texture, scent, and more when it comes to gift giving. He wants to remember those things to keep something with him that reminds him of you, and he want to give you gifts that he knows you will enjoy in some aspect.
N—icknames: What type of nicknames would they call you? How would they treat the nicknames you give them? How important are nicknames to them?
• Torbek in all honesty would be the guy you think would give the really cringy petnames, but to be honest he has no idea how to properly give one. He’d ask Gideon for help with it, not wanting to come off as weird with his names. He’d be on the more mellow side of nicknames, going for the safe options like “honey” or “baby” for the most part. But he’d also experiment with some options, going into the “danger zone” as he’d think. He’d try something like “flower” or maybe “dove” (Gricko would suggest that).
• Torbek would be relatively cautious about how often he uses them, he doesn’t want them to be an everyday thing to water it down, but he doesn’t want to go too long without it. He’ll kind of just say it when he feels like it’s a romantic enough of a moment? He just doesn’t want to make you run off with him indirectly being annoying with it or making you uncomfortable.
• Now if you give Torbek a nickname? He’s smitten (again) and wants to melt for you. You care about him enough to give him his own nickname? He’s ESTATIC!! He’ll treasure it forever and designate it as yours only, he would from then on feel uncomfortable if anyone tried to call him by that name. He is happy with anything you give him, unless it’s just insulting.
O—bviousness: How obvious was it for you to notice they liked you? How obvious is it now for other people know if you’re together or not?
• Torbek didn’t necessarily hide it, and it’s not like he’s trying either. He’d make comments like “well Torbek thinks {y/n} is attractive” or “Torbek thinks you’re very pretty/handsome” and then make little hushed comments about wishing to be hugged by you or wanting to cuddle. He’s never really thought that he had to hide his admiration for people, and you’re no exception. The only other person he compliments about physical appearance is Gideon, but it’s platonic. He really thinks all of his friends are attractive in their own ways, but only platonically and as a friend. For you, it’s different he could feel that growing from the beginning. He wants romance from you, and he just.. doesn’t hide that he does.
• Literally everyone knew he liked you, and they knew the compliments and comments towards you weren’t like the ones he gave them. They noticed he was a lot more nervous giving compliments to you in comparison to themselves. They’d tease him about it out of earshot of you. But they’d really just be encouraging him to make a move if you hadn’t already.
P—ersistance: How persistent are they with the relationship? Are they proactive in the relationship to keep it fueling?
• He’s always absentmindedly trying to keep the relationship going, more so from fear of abandonment, but nonetheless he’s trying. He’ll do anything you ask, take some initiative some times (even if you kind of wished he didn’t depending on the task), and keeping your guys’ love strong.
• He’s very empathetic, even if he can’t catch the cues. If he thinks the relationship is slipping, he’s going to do something! Even if he has to ask others for advice, he’s too worried to let you slip too far away.
Q—uest: If you were being challenged in the relationship, how would they take it? How would they work through it with you?
• If you guys were clashing heads a lot, Torbek would try to ask for advice on what can be done. He doesn’t want to spend so much time with the person he cares so much about just arguing all of the time. He’s going to try to talk about it in some way, offering a gift first to get the conversation going. He doesn’t like rocky roads in relationships, mainly because he believes they are all his fault or because he just doesn’t like tension in general.
R—espect: How much respect do they show you through the relationship? How do you show it? What does respect mean to them from you?
• So much respect!! He’s always willing to open pickle jars for you, open doors, carry stuff for you or even carry you! He refuses to touch you other than the middle, shoulders and hands unless you say he can or if it’s a complete accident. He respects your boundaries when you vocalize them, and he’ll do his best to abide by each and every one.
• Respect is pretty important for him to abide by, but he hasn’t really come to terms with the fact that he deserves respect too. He will vocalize if someone is mean or rude to him but that’s it, he doesn’t even really respect himself to be fair.
S—afe: What would they do to ensure your safety with them? What would they do to make sure you feel safe with them as a person?
• Torbek would make sure you’re safe in and out of combat, making sure you’re not too close to the edge of a cliff and make sure no enemies target you easily. He might not be able to get you every time, but he’ll damn sure try! He’ll make sure he can do what he can for you, just give him the word.
• If the Witchlight starts to overtake him, his first instinct is to get as far away from you as possible while he still can. He doesn’t want to accidentally hurt you because of it, and he’ll isolate himself to prevent it.
• When sleeping out on your travels, he’ll keep an ear open and keen to the environment around you all. If something sounds odd or concerning, he’s up in an instant in order to hopefully catch what it was. He just doesn’t want to risk it.
T—rust: Do they trust you in the relationship? Do they feel nervous or completely relaxed in the relationship?
• God, what doesn’t he trust you with? You say you love Torbek!! Torbek trusts you wholeheartedly and more!! He never has in the back of his mind you might cheat, he never doubts your responses and explanations to anything! You could tell him dolphins weren’t real and he’d be like “Torbek didn’t know that.. okay!!” And go on his merry way without a second thought? This is a dangerous power you have over him, and while he trusts you, there is a limit. He’s not an imbecile.
• If you over step this dangerous vulnerability of trust with him, he’s going to become rougher around the edges. Slowly, he’ll become more aware and doubt your claims about things as a whole, even if you’re telling the truth. It might take like 6 fuck ups in your part, but he’ll get there. And the main things that could get him like that are if you abruptly leave him without warning and come back, if you break-up with him and then come back a while later for him, and if you try to seclude him from his friends. Otherwise, he trusts you with his heart and soul as long as you don’t play with them.
U—topia: What is their perfect dream/future like and where do you play a part in it?
• Torbek’s dream is to travel with the crew for the rest of his life, and he wants you there with him. All of his favorite people together? That’s his dream come true. He wants to marry you, or just romantically be with you until the end even if you don’t necessarily marry. I don’t think he’d really desire kids in anyway, so it would be out of the question. He just wants you to be happy with him.
V—alue: How much do they value the relationship? How important is it to them?
• It’s the most important thing to him as a whole, he absolutely desires your relationship after being with you officially. He would do what he can to help the situation between you both. He can’t imagine being without you in the relationship after so much time with you.
W—ish: What is something they wish could happen when it comes to your relationship? Why?
• He wants to travel with his friends, and you, whether it be adventuring or having another carnival, for the rest of his life. He kind of likes having the unexpected hit him when it’s not scary, and he wants to share those experiences with you if all people.
• He would like to be with you until the end, married or not. While marriage is what would be expected, he honestly wouldn’t mind you guys decided not to marry and just date for the rest of your lives. I don’t think he’d like to have kids though, as cute as he’d think they were, he’d also be kind of scared of raising a tiny little thing like that.
X—tra: Freebie!
• I know everything in this list makes Torbek sounds like an overly anxious self-hating bugbear, but that’s not the case most of the time. Yes, he is anxious and doesn’t have a high sense of self esteem, he’s functioning. He can make his little perverted jokes here and there, flirt to the best of his abilities, and be your average boy loser./pos But possibly his favorite thing to do with you is annoy you a good healthy amount to keep you on your toes, to tell you he’s not going to 100% depend on you emotionally or mentally. He can handle himself. How does he express it? Pure purposeful stupidness.
• He’ll joke about just about anything with you! Poke you gently, elbow you while chuckling to himself, point at something random and go “look it’s you! :D” just for the fuck of it. He might be a dumbass, but a healthy amount of dumbass. He likes using that to advantage because he knows you like it to a degree.
• He feels comfortable “letting his stupid loose” as Kremy would say half jokingly. Torbek is a more than enough functioning boy failure and he kind of likes being that way for you sometimes.
Y—earning: How do they react to you being gone? How do they cope with being away from you? How would they treat you when you come back?
• The most he can handle away from you is a single day, even though he’d start complaining and whining just hours in. He’s worried you’re leaving, that you’re in danger, or you’re lost. He’s sure you can handle yourself.. but you can never be too sure. He’s like a sad puppy.
• When you’re back, he’s all over you. He’s yipping and picking you up happily. He wants to know every detail of what happened, curious but also worried. He wants to make sure you’re okay, mentally, emotionally, and physically. He just wants to be by your side almost every hour he can.
Z—eal: What would they do to the extent of your relationship? Is there anything they would sacrifice the relationship for?
• He would do anything he can to keep the relationship alive. He fight for you, shield you with himself, lay with you, anything at all. The only thing he wouldn’t do for you is hurt or disrespect his friends. He loved them very much, they’re his family in his eyes! And while you are the love of his life, and also family to him due to that, if he had to choose between you and the crew, it’s a hard pick for him.
• He will do what he can to keep this relationship, even if it starts to make some things a little hard. You are very important to him, and anything that is important to him he will do what he can for.
