#transition advice

[himbochub]

Oh my fucking god you've managed to go through my transition goals but in reverse. I'm mtf, three months on E, 250lbs, and I'm trying to lose as much weight as lossible iver the next few years so I can do a total 180 and gain a bunch back once my fat cells have redistributed. I want to get relatively fit so I can get fat as a girl instead of as a depressed guy

Ig my only question is, how'd you manage to lose 100lbs for top surgery? I really like food, and I've only managed to shave off 10lbs this year. I figure you may have some unique insight into this as a queer feedee who has lost large amounts of weight for the sake of their transition.

Oh yeah, and merry Christmas!

haha, thank you! i’ll throw my advice under a cut.

tw for weight loss/diet talk!

okay, so for starters i didn’t lose 100 pounds- i lost around 50lbs. The regain shot me past my previous plateau weight and into my highest weight ever, way bigger than I was before my surgery or even at my highest weight. I cant speak on how this might work for anyone else!

Around the time I started thinking about top surgery is when I decided to work on losing weight because I knew it would be an issue with my lack of accessible surgeons in my area. So I started around 285, and I was 238 preop and 233 post op.

Before I started losing weight I was fully dedicated to feedism still, so I was eating junk food all the time as always. I basically chose to try to stick to a calorie deficit and cut out all sugars. So I was eating around 1700 calories a day, only drank diet or zero sugar if I wanted a soda, and I ate healthy snacks if I wanted something, like fruit and low fat yogurt. The trick for me was finding healthier foods that I really enjoyed, not just forcing myself to eat health slop I hated.

I also went out on walks around 3/week. I started out small and eventually pushed myself to do around 3 mile walks. Diet is more important than working out when it comes to weight loss but honestly I feel like the walking was a huge part of the weight loss for me, and I highly recommend it to anyone thinking about trying it. I also did home workouts on Youtube- Yoga and dance workouts are both great. Swimming is another great option that is more low impact on the joints!

The mental health piece was big for me- losing that much weight that fast without really wanting to was crazy for my mental health and self perception. Especially with people constantly telling me I looked better thin, ect. So I did a lot of journaling and reaffirming what I knew I wanted. That was the most helpful part to keep me afloat- plus a lot of therapy!

Overall I really like food too obviously and losing weight was hard as fuck but it was very worth it. I’ve also been fat my entire life and never tried to lose weight before that so it was an interesting perspective to gain. Honestly though, the hardest part of the entire top surgery journey was quitting nicotine- unfortunately I caved after I was post op. If you smoke at all, quit now! Don’t wait until the last moment like I did! It’s miserable.

Also for anyone wondering why feedists would want to give this kind of advice- A) if you’re not trans, you wouldn’t even begin to understand, so fuck off and B) I’d much rather do research about this from someone who understands as the perspective of another feedist than have to be in my shoes a year ago trying to get weight loss tips from fatphobic sources. There are a lot of ways to figure this out without succumbing to shitty propaganda and that’s what I’m trying to encourage always. <3

[hollerhowlermutt]

my t has made me irrevocably dry and i think i’m atrophying and i would very much like to be snail trailed or to sit in a bath of lube. things are critical.

[thedarknessitself]

I’d like to skip to step 4 of feminization please! Can you maybe give me a wishlist of things a good girl should buy to start embracing her gender? Not expecting an actual wishlist, just maybe a few specific items you’d like to dress someone new to gender experimentation up in

get your ears pierced, my pre-transition GF got some recently, and she wore them during sexting cuz the connection to femininity made her feel beautiful and she LOVED that. if you in a household that doesnt allow fem clothing then thats a solid start for something you can wear out of the house.

find your bra size and get a bra, my go to are cotton sports bras by fruit of the loom

get some panties, or possibly bloomers if you see any in your size cuz god DAMN are frills hawt

OVERSIZED PINK PAJAMAS, i cannot undersell how fun those are

get skirt. do it coward. *points to self* ;w; do it COWARD!!! (idk why im hesitating so much, PLEASE get a skirt, i need to work on my bravery)

if sizing is an issue for clothes, add "oversize" to whatever search you doing, shirts and dresses will be comparable to mens 2x 3x and such

CUT AND DYE YOUR HAIR, this has legitimately helped me shave off SO much baggage, my gog

get a messenger bag, something cute. its a sort of easy "gender neutral" way to carry your wallet and such, but folks WILL call it a purse as you start passing. mine is legit just a blue messenger bag from army surplus, might get some patches or embroidery for it sometime

catgirl hoodie if you can find one in your size out of a decent material, something obviously fem but also serving the same psychological function as a dysphoria hoodie, hiding features you dont like

if you a furry? fuck it. dog collar, cat tail, themed facemask, fake nail claws, fucking wear bondage bracelets as if they punk or gothy fashion, why not?

and do your best to get stuff NOW, cuz you can easily push that stuff to next payday thinking any number of other purchases are more pressing, THEY ARE NOT.

get what you want, dress fem, be happy. goddess has spoken.

[adamofingolstadt]

Okay just want to poll some fellow trans people (Ideally canadian or north american)

Assuming you were nonbinary and transsexual and wanted with all your heart to change your sex marker to X, do you think it's safe to do so given that it limits travel/immigration and allows cops to clock you as queer

I'd change it to X anyways

I wouldn't change it to X

other (?)

Voting ended onJan 24, 2025

Also fyi I'm Perisex, as far as I'm aware from my own research it's not considered intersexist to change your marker to X, but please correct me if I'm wrong.

[twin-flames-isaiah-and-sage]

If you're going through a hard time on your transition, or you just need more support to overcome the negative self-talk or self-image, comment "Self-love" or DM us to talk to us! We are a trans Twin Flame couple, a trans man (Isaiah) and a trans woman (Sage), and certified coaches who can help you work through your feelings and feel loved and empowered.

[genderrogue]

Reminder to Tgirls Everywhere:

Drink whole milk and eat fried food during the early years of your transition. Trust me.

[thegirlmirage]

My early transitioning advice is try to find the trans person who most resembles what you're looking for in transition. I've been able to help a lot of transfem eggs (cracking off the scale and I'm generally able to make sure they're set up with some kind of HRT) but for trans guy eggs I think I'm not having success ultimately because the person they need most is a trans guy doing the same sort of thing.

Historically the first trans person I found when I was trying to do anything I could to move forward, would try to slow me on any progression that would make them dysphoric if it happened to them, and it affected my experience a lot (there's other stuff too but it distracts from my point)

You will need guidance because outside of trans people the advice is hidden or very incomplete, sometimes even lying to get you scared to transition. Find trans people. Be among them, whatever it takes.

[twin-flames-isaiah-and-sage]

How to create glowing self-confidence 🥰🏳️‍⚧️✨ It is really an inner journey.

Honey, I haven't changed THAT much on the outside but maybe more than I would think! But the way I see myself and feel about myself is 1000 times more positive and in alignment with who I really am than when I started out 6 years ago. I know that if I hadn't been loving myself the way I have been, I would not be where I'm at today. Periodt.

Comment “Confident” to connect and I’ll share with you how you can transform your relationship with yourself for the better. 💝 #trans #transgirl #transgender #gendertransition