#transphobic tw

[uhsoka-arch]

so it has been brought to my attention that ro.sario da.wson is trasphobic, so i will no longer be using her as a fc for ah.soka.

i will be using zen.daya instead.

i will mostly be using ah.soka's animated fc from here on out, and will be using zen.daya for modern verses.

also, please don't feel the need to use an animated fc just because i do! they are just visuals to go along with the writing, so we don't HAVE to match!

tysm for understanding everyone.

[oc-aita]

WIBTA for sending my parents my wedding pictures?

I should preface this by saying that I don't think I am TA, but I can see why I would be and am open to criticism. Also, I haven't done this yet.

I (call me N, 27mtf) am getting married to my wonderful girlfriend, P (27f) in a little over a month. This is something I have wanted to do since we were teenagers and I am beyond thrilled that I finally get to put a ring on her finger. I love her very much, and generally our relationship is very good.

For context, my parents are incredibly bigoted. Christian fundamentalist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, the whole deal. Actually, every single member of my family is like that (except for one of my sisters and a couple of cousins). As you can expect, our relationship is basically nonexistent at this point. (Except for said supportive sister and cousins, but they aren't involved in this story at all.) I have known P and P's family since before my transition, and they have all been amazing and accepting, and they really make me feel loved. My parents have this big wall in their house where they display wedding and baby photos for everyone even tangentially related to them.

I want to send my parents my wedding photos (when the wedding happens, obviously) for a couple of reasons.

Everyone else in my family does it. Me being a trans lesbian shouldn't mean I don't deserve my place on the wall.

Okay, this is the main reason. My parents and their friends are both homophobic and transphobic, and are very concerned about "what the neighbors think". I want to put them in an uncomfortable situation. If they do display the pictures, it will look like they support a wedding between two women (we both will be wearing dresses, and I pass pretty well). But if they don't display the pictures, it will be like they are acknowledging that I am a girl, something they have refused to do. I want to put them in a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" situation. I think it would be funny. Plus, I genuinely have no idea which option they'll choose, and I'm curious. Sue me.

I told P about my plans, and while she doesn't like my parents (in fact, she hates them for how bigoted they are and what they did to me when I came out, but that's a whole different story), she think that this is a real asshole thing to do, and that I shouldn't put them in a situation they are incapable of winning. She said that I should be the bigger person, and that since I haven't talked to them since I was eighteen and they aren't even invited to the wedding, I shouldn't do this.

However, come on, they've been downright cruel to me ever since I told them I was trans, I think they deserve this and quite a bit more. Plus, I genuinely do feel a little kernel of hurt at the idea of who I am and who I'm marrying meaning that I don't deserve to be on that wall with everyone else.

So, Tumblr, WIBTA?

AITA?

YTA

NTA

JAH

NAH

ESH

INFO

Voting ended onOct 26, 2023

[lionfloss]

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[robogart]

Was gonna just tag but in the past I censor the slurs so I'm going to do that! And in related news - learned a new shitty word today to keep an eye out for! Anyways - there were some great roasts for this transphobic incel - thank you all for the boosts and laugh!! The fact that people just LOVE to proudly proclaim how they've never actually interacted with women is always so incredibly funny lmaoooooo

omg also the "sjw kool-aide" wow I am LIVING FOR IT HAHAHA

[thesevenumbrellas]

We really need to have a discussion on transphobia.

Obviously there’s the outright transphobia that’s rampant on here, but I’ve seen so much more since posting a picture of Elliot Page.

Picking on someone’s body is bad, let alone while they’re mid transition.

Commenting how surprised you are that a trans person is good looking or can pass is bad.

Pretending you’re about to say something harmful and the changing last minute is not funny. It never was.

You don’t need to point out how much surgery someone has gone through to transition. We’re aware.

If you wouldn’t say it to a trans person’s face irl you don’t need to say it on tumblr. Trust me, trans people are reading those comments and taking notes on how you feel about their bodies.

[everythingqueerblog]

List of Terfs to Block Today (who you may not have run into/realised are terfs yet):

@/botticelliraddie

@/shes-unforgottable

@/irate-badfem-harpy

@/terven-hooves

@/terven

@/tervenish

@/tervenmemes

@/tervens

@/tervengoth

@/xx-fed-up

@/thesinisterspinster

@/girlbossbunny

@/vanillaandproud

@/radailurophiles

@/meangirlvibes

@/absoluteunitpussy

@/absoluteunitpussy2

@/opabiniawillreturn

@/radical-coffeeclub

@/greenrattail

@/honsaplenty

@/searchingforproofsthatimwrong

@/midsummerwitch

@/homosupremacist

@/sartbismus

@/sailorterf

@/vagina-dialogues *

@/genderabolitionist

*Not to be confused with @vaginadialogues who apparently, despite the normally-a-terf-red-flag name, appears to not actually be a terf and any search for trans in the blog shows up only supportive reblogging of trans rights posts, and there is nothing at all coming up under terf/radfem/gender critical/any other terf terminology I can think of. Don't call that one a terf just based on the name. Names are a place to start in choosing to go through and check a potentially bad blog; they're not a be all and end all confirmation on their own. I recommend checking all the names here yourself, but I have actually gone through each of these blogs myself to check. You don't have to trust me just because I said so though; just be aware that with the terf list here they really are gross with the things they say and post so be warned: it won't be pretty.

And one trans exclusionist I found while double checking all the blogs I was blocking (ie: a trans person who is exclusionist; not sure how that cognitive dissonance works but there you go, apparently it does lol):

@/piersmedical

If you don't have it already, install Shinigami Eyes on your computer for Tumblr. It'll flag any and all known terfs in red. I'm not on desktop generally but people who are will greatly benefit from Shinigami Eyes flagging terfs to block and stay away from. Some blogs will actually let people know in comment threads if their Shinigami Eyes have flagged people in the thread. If you see someone who has said "[tumblr handle] has been flagged by Shinigami Eyes" or anything similar, it means the handle being mentioned is a terf.

[movedtovervainbrokemyheart]

How tf is genderbending transphobic? You sound stupid as fuck

Thank you. I appreciate this. Because i am in fact stupid as fuck. Let me explain why. I'm the variety of stupid who believes that other people's thoughts and feelings have value. Respecting their wishes is actually a requirement. And you know, just cause you are a coward and can't argue with me off anon about this, doesn't make you right. If I'm stupid for believing that if one member of an oppressed community thinks something ends in ist or phobic? Im a big fucking dumbass. It may not be transphobic to you. But it is to many. I'm not trans. I'm cis. Im not gonna tell someone who is trans its not transphobic. I don't like it regardless. And u can get off my blog. Being a good ally means standing with people and speaking against shit that is harmful to their community since cis people think it's ok to just do any dumb fucking shit and say it's okay because it's not *real*. It's real to trans people. So fuck off.

[jesterday00]

the increase in transphobia on Twitter is exhausting. Fucking SuPeRsTrAiGhT bullshit, oh my god.